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Ben Williams - Referee Resilience

1997 Kanga Cup Referee and Teacher.

AFC Elite Panel  since 2006

Only Aust official to 2006 WC

First Aust male official to do a round 16 match at WC.

Record of most number of games by HAL official at160

Scenario - First Chap Leaguematch in Qatar (v Iraqi team).

20mins a send off

Scored to make it 1-0

just before half time, their player made a run, and got held back, Blew for foul and YC, but Qatari player lashed out with his foot so had to be punted as well.

75th min, team owner pulled his team off the field.

Spoke with captain, got through it.

Team filed letter of complaint.

Decisions reviewed by AFC - all correct.

What is resilience?

Ability to bounce back

To bend and not break

Not give up in tough times.

Make right calls in face of criticism

Mental toughness - Big focus at AIS atm.

Resilience means being able to bend as appropriate.

Reacting under pressure.

Resilience

Protective mech from specific personality features such as self-esteem and social support and adaptive coping resources and strategies )Mummery, Schofield & Perry, 2004)

The Bungy Program - resilience program.

Analogy - sometimes we fall off and need the support to bounce back

Also need to bounce forward - continual growth.

Built up over time through situations and scenarios.

Life goes up and down.

Got the phone call that been selected for WC shortlist. HIGH

Off to Olympic Games

HUGE life downer a few weeks later.

Needed to learn to grieve properly in order to move on.

Sports Psychologist

Selected for WC in 2014.

Got back from WC, 10 days later, father died.

Few months later, wife pregnant and successful birth.

10 hours after daughter born, father in law died.

Life has ups and downs - how we deal is the key.

2nd child due late July

Australian Sports Commission Website - The ABC of Self-Talk

The way you interpret events has a huge impact on the ay you feel and behave. The relationship between your thoughts feelings and behaviours influences things.

A - Activating situation.

The situation itself or things that happen when you feel bad.

B - Beliefs

Our self-talk (thoughts and assumptions we make about a situation.

C - Consequences

Feelings and behaviours

Influenced by our beliefs

Can be positive or negative.

What can we do?

Review your own ABC and challenge beliefs about situation.

Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re probably right.

Take action.

Who is your support team?

Family, partner, friends, colleagues, other referees or training partners etc…

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-Have courage and conviction and your decisions.
Evidence-based decision making.
-Trust yourself.
-Don't let teams manipulate you, use your personality and teams will want to trust you.
-Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right.
-Refereeing is easy, it's just referees that make it difficult.
-Be mindful - live in the moment, mentally, emotionally,  as well as physically.
-You're human. You stuff it some times, but you get it right most of the times - Law of averages.
-Take the learning opportunities and move on.
-Practice mindfulness - One exercise. For 1 minute focus specifically on brushing your teeth (or some other appropriate exercise)
-Other mindfulness exercises available here
-Mental Imagery Resilience Exercises here.
-Brainwaves - Ausport.gov.au Mental Resilience Exercises and info
- High Performance Mental Skills - Ausport.gov.au - Online modules.

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-They try to influence.
-Higher the level the more they try.
Need to have self-faith and trust - built from evidence-based decision making.

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4. Have to give RC. Teammates of player say you got it wrong. Same scenario arises 5 min later.

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4. Have to give RC. Teammates of player say you got it wrong. Same scenario arises 5 min later.

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- Self-doubt from the comments by players which creates domino affect as it causes self-questioning in future decisions.
-Stop and rethink the EVIDENCE that cause you to make the original decision. Use knowledge of the LotG to back your decision in self-talk.
- Use it as a lesson even if you get it wrong. Make decisions based on evidence.
-Football is not life or death...in Australia at least.

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Whether right or wrong in first half is irrelevant for the second half.
Back your judgement and what you SEE - evidence-based judgement.

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3. Been given an upgrade match (18s instead of 16s), see assessor on sidelines.

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3. Been given an upgrade match (18s instead of 16s), see assessor on sidelines.

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-Self-doubt in ability caused by presence of assessor.
-Playing 'hunt the assessor' - impacts decision making.
Might lead to head dropping and poor body-language.
-Taking adv of game given - given on merit. Use that to build self-belief.
-Should always try to enjoy yourself.

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2. As AR, close OS decision, leave flag down and allow play. Resultant DOGSO scenario. Defending team and TA react angrily.

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2. As AR, close OS decision, leave flag down and allow play. Resultant DOGSO scenario. Defending team and TA react angrily.

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-Could self-doubt about capability and correctness of decision.
-Would impact on future calls and increase anxiousness.
-Potential for sympathetic or 'make-up' calls as a result.
-Use evidence to build self-belief in decision correctness at that time.
-Evidence-based self-talk.
-Self-belief will generate confidence in body language, speech and decision-making.

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1. Reffed team 2 wks ago, team felt your decision cost the match. Have them again. How do you deal?

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1. Reffed team 2 wks ago, team felt your decision cost the match. Have them again. How do you deal?

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-Self-doubt about decisions in that match which impacts the next match.
-Challenge the thoughts. If players don't like you because they can't score the goals, that's not on you.
-Self-assess and confirm your knowledge of the LotG.
-If capt/coaches approach in next week, complaining about last week, ask them to focus on this week and let last week be gone.
-Avoid building up the situation through voice/attitude