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How can you tell if your partner is asking for consent without saying it??

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How can you tell if your partner is asking for consent without saying it??

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How do you know if someone is consenting? You can:

ask the person what they want to do (for example, ‘Can I kiss you’ or ‘Do you want to do what we were doing yesterday?’, or ‘Do you want to wait?’)

ask the person where their boundaries are (for example, ‘Do you feel comfortable doing this?’ ‘I was thinking about trying oral sex, how do you feel about that?’, or ‘Should we wait a bit longer?’)

check in regularly to make sure they are still comfortable, especially if they start to look uncomfortable or unsure

look at a person’s body language to see if they look comfortable (while body language can be a great way to figure out how the other person is feeling, it is never a replacement for verbal communication. It is always important to check in with the other person and make sure they consent.)

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If you're in a relationship and you're both the age of 14/15, is it illegal to sexually touch each other but you're not having sex and you both give consent?

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If you're in a relationship and you're both the age of 14/15, is it illegal to sexually touch each other but you're not having sex and you both give consent?

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What does age of consent mean?

The age of consent is the age at which the NT law says a person can agree to sexual activity. If you are under the age of consent, the law says that you cannot legally agree to sexual activity, and any person who does something sexual with you has broken the law.

In the Northern Territory, the age of consent is 16. If you are 16 years old and above, you can legally have sex (or do another sexual activity) with another person who is 16 years or older as long as you both agree to it.

In the Northern Territory, there is a legal defence which can be raised when someone is charged with a crime for sexual activity with someone under 16. This defence can apply where the person had sex with someone aged 14 or 15 and they reasonably thought that person was aged 16 or older. However, raising a defence like this to a criminal charge can be complicated!

Unlike some other states, there is no exception or legal defence in the Northern Territory which applies when two young people who are both under 16 and are the same age, or close in age, have sex. What this means is that it is not legal for two 15 year olds (or a 15 year old and a 13 year old) to have sex or engage in any sexual activity, because no-one under the age of 16 can legally consent to sex.

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If someone has higher power over the other in a relationship, how does the person with less power get out of the relationship?

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If someone has higher power over the other in a relationship, how does the person with less power get out of the relationship?

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A: Communication is one of the most effective tools to negotiate the balance of power in relationships. It’s also a founding pillar that maintains the relationship healthy and strong, allowing both partners to connect and understand each other on an intimate level.

In essence, open communication means having the courage to give voice to your needs, desires, and preferences while having the patience to listen and understand your partner’s views.

As you can imagine, open communication is rarely comfortable. But just because the discussion can sometimes feel intense and overwhelming, does not mean we shouldn’t have it.

Restoring the balance of power is about putting yourself in that difficult spot where you must set limits, communicate your needs firmly, and exercise empathic listening.

If you feel that the relationship should end and you need help doing this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wPwck0EQkgs

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Toxic People: How to End a Bad Relationship

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So, is it illegal to send nude photos of yourself if you and your partner are both 14?

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Sexting may be a crime if it involves people under 18, even if they consented (that is, agreed to sending and receiving the sexts). This is because the sexts may be considered to be child abuse material (sometimes called child Pornograph).

If the people involved in the sexting haven’t consented, or the sexts are threatening or harassing, then it’s more serious and further criminal laws may apply. You can check out our pages on image-based abuse for more information on non-consensual sexting. For free and confidential legal advice about this topic, please contact https://yla.org.au/nt/topics/internet-phones-and-technology/sexting-

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Ask the questions you don't want to ask in class

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It's a great way to ask questions anonymously and get real answers

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If you have this question, ask it, because someone else is probably has the same question

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If both people consent and they are under 18 is it still illegal to send images?

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If both people consent and they are under 18 is it still illegal to send images?

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A:
Sexting may be a crime if it involves people under 18, even if they consented (that is, agreed to sending and receiving the sexts). This is because the sexts may be considered to be child abuse material (sometimes called child pornographyy).

If the people involved in the sexting haven’t consented, or the sexts are threatening or harassing, then it’s more serious and further criminal laws may apply. You can check out our pages on image-based abuse for more information on non-consensual sexting. For free and confidential legal advice about this topic, please contact https://yla.org.au/nt/topics/internet-phones-and-technology/sexting-

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For free and confidential advice about image-based abuse, you can get help here.

Sharing intimate images is increasingly a part of young people's self-expression and sexual agency. However, there are criminal laws that may apply depending on the circumstances and also the age of the people involved. The only way to be completely legally safe when texting is for both people to be over 18 and fully consenting. On this page, we explain some of the laws that may apply to young people exchanging sexual images.

Remember that once an image or video is shared, it is very hard to control how it is used after that.

What is sexting?

Sexting refers to using a mobile phone or the internet to take, ask for, receive, send or share intimate photos or video, including where someone is naked, partly naked, posing sexually or doing a sexual act.

Sexting may be a crime if it involves people under 18, even if they consented (that is, agreed to sending and receiving the sexts). This is because the sexts may be considered to be child abuse material (sometimes called child pornography).

If the people involved in the sexting haven't consented, or the sexts are threatening or harassing, then it's more serious and further criminal laws may apply. You can check out our pages on image-based abuse for more information on non-consensual sexting. For free and confidential legal advice about this topic, please contact us
How consent works
It is never safe to assume someone has agreed to you taking or sending nude or sexual images of them, or that they want to sext with you. The person must have freely and voluntarily agreed - so their consent won't count if they are drunk or you have threatened them. Someone who consents to sexting with you does not automatically consent to those sexts being shared with anyone else, or to any other sexual act. Remember - people are allowed to change their minds about sexting at any time!
What the law says
If it involves people under 18, sexting can be a crime e ven if everyone involved has consented . This is because it might be considered child abuse material (sometimes known as 'child pornography').
Please note the law in this area is complicated and this is just a summary. If you have been sexting and are worried about anything you have sent or received then we recommend you get legal advice straight away.
What is child pornography/child abuse material?

The law makes it illegal to create, share or keep child abuse material. This refers to images, texts or videos of children who are:

posing in a sexual way;

involved in a sexual act;

with someone else who is posing in a sexual way or involved in a sexual act; or

showing their genital area, anal area or their breasts for a sexual purpose.

The images can be photos or videos, but also other images like drawings and even cartoons. It also includes pictures that have been photoshopped or digitally altered to make the person look young or naked.

The image has to be 'offensive' to the average person. This means innocent family photos of naked kids having a bath probably wouldn't be considered as child abuse material material, but a naked teenager posing in a bed could be in some circumstances.

There are two sets of laws that can apply to sexting. Under NT state law and national law, it is illegal to make, share, request or possess material that could be considered child abuse material. A child is considered to be anyone under the age of 18, or someone that appears to be under 18 due to the circumstances (e.g. if they are wearing a school uniform).

Because both state and national laws apply in NT, it is risky for a person under 18 to send a sext. If you're concerned about a sext that you've sent or received, get free legal advice here.

What could happen if I break the law?

Even though technically the chances of someone under 18 getting into trouble for sexting are lower, every situation is different and it's safer if you don't ask for, send, post online, or keep on your phone or computer nude or sexual images of someone under 18 (even yourself). If you are unsure, you can get free legal advice

If you are found guilty of breaking the laws listed above, the consequences can be very serious. For example you could end up with a criminal record or even go to jail.

In serious cases, you could also be placed on the NT Child Protection Offender Register if you are sentenced. This might make it difficult for you to work in jobs where you have contact with children.

Also note that most websites, phone companies and social media services have rules that apply to sending, posting or sharing nude or sexual pictures or offensive text. If you break these rules the material could be removed, your account could be suspended or closed, or you could even be reported to the police.

What can I do if I'm worried about an image that's been taken or a sext that's been shared?

We recommend you:

delete any images you are uncomfortable with straight away, especially if the person in the picture has asked you to;

don't send these images to anyone else or post them online;

if someone is sending you sexts, and you don't want to receive them, ask them to stop; and

never request, share or keep sexts involving people under 18.

Get legal advice. If you are worried about a nude or sexual image you or someone else has taken, or a sext that's been shared, we recommend you get legal advice. A lawyer can help you work out what you should do, including how to get images removed or deleted if they have been shared or posted online.

For free legal advice, you can ​contact us or one of these services:

Talk to someone. If you are feeling down, anxious or stressed about the situation, we encourage you to talk to a parent or another trusted adult. E ven if you are worried about getting into trouble, it might be better to get help from someone so you can sort things out.
If you are in immediate danger call the police on 000. Reviewed on 9/2/2021 Sources
If you would rather talk to a trained counsellor, you can call one of the services ​listed below ​for free and private counselling support.

If someone won't stop sexting you, won't remove or delete images after you've asked, or the sexts are threatening or harassing, then you can see our page on image based abuse for more information, or get legal advice.
If you have a question about sexting that we haven't answered here, and you are aged 24 or under, you can contact us here.
Enhancing Online Safety Act 2015 (Cth)

Child Protection (Offender Reporting and Registration) Act 2004 (NT)

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For free and confidential advice about image-based abuse, you can get help here. Sharing intimate images is increasingly a part of young people's self-expression and sexual agency. However, there are criminal laws that may apply depending on the circumstances and also the age of the people involved.