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- Food
- Safe place
- Basic needs being met
- Acknowledgement of family
- ‘Wi-Fi, a comfy chair and a big telly’ (Shaw, 2018)
- Love
- Personal space
- Sense of belonging
- Someone to talk to
- Consistency

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- Non-judgemental
- To know children are safe and happy
- Involved / communication
- Contact
- Allow for continuity with regards to identity/culture
- Mutual understanding
- Recognition / not feeling like you have been forgotten/replaced

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- Consistency
- That it’s being done for the right reasons
- A safe, stable environment
- Effective dialogue with foster carers
- Honesty
- Being skilled and knowing own limitations
- Foster carers to attend training
- For them to adhere to the rules

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Respected
Included in the family
Space to be alone and adjust
Kept informed of any developments and included in choices
Not to be my mum or dad
Food
Tv
As Birth Parents
Opinions and views respected
Any cultural\ religious needs met
Involving the child in their family
Knowing they are loved by parents
Fun and caring
Someone to listen and talk to the child
Social worker
Basic needs being met
Security, consistency, care and protection
Respecting parents views
Communicating any problems and issues to social workers
Being honest and open about their own feelings regarding the child

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Professionalism
Honesty
Flexibility
Attend meetings/training
Be aware of values
Maintain life story work/memory boxes

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To engage with the process fully
To put the child first
Provide continuity, needs of the child
Be realistic, be patient
Attend appointments, meetings, be reliable
Be prepared for the child not to like you or try to run away and go home

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Fun.
Organised

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Some want to know everything that is happening e.g. milestones
Some will find any info painful to hear
Some may be apathetic to the process
Some may expect the foster carer will keep the child (challenge of accepting this)
Very high or unrealistic expectations that the foster carer is a ‘perfect parent’

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Stability
Nonjudgemental

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‘Wants’ and ‘expectations’ are different things:

Want:
Safety
Own space
Feel accepted/liked
Underlying want to be loved (even if they may struggle to recognise or articulate this)

Expect:
Rules
May not have any expectations
Retain friends, school, contact with familiarity

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Include me
Speak positively of me
Be open and honest
Empathy
Reassurance my child is ok
Share milestones
Try to understand me
Tell me about you

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Empathy
Time and space to adjust
Home is safe place
Leave school at school
Understanding

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Good communication
Be respectful
Respectful of cultural values
Maintain routines (if there is any)
Contact with siblings
Not to ignore that they have birth parents - talk about me and my family. Positive things we did
Maintain life story work - memory boxes
Be on time for contact
To know that the child is safe
Non judgemental

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As a looked after child -
To be treated as part of the family
To have their own space
To have their own belongings - from home (familiar)
New things
To be open and honest
Respectful of birth family

As a birth parent -
To be treated fairly and to be included within the family
Communicate - respect contact and be helpful with this
Birth parents expect perfection - are often critical of foster parents
Expect family traditions, region and beliefs to continue and respected
Expect foster careers to make contact as easy as possible - with regards to encouraging child and organising appropriate times

As a social worker -
Attend training - thorough understanding
Perseverance with the child when situations are difficult
Comply with care plan and encourage foster careers and child to do so
Expectations of foster carers to read child's chronology and life story book
To be available at short notice (especially when there are issues)
Ensuring medical appointments are made and kept
Attending school
Position activities
Healthy eating
Making children welcome in their family
Build positive relationships with the children.