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           NAZLY MILENA            CHIRIMUSCAY

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           NAZLY MILENA            CHIRIMUSCAY

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1.      I left my home for freedom in Europe but I’m terribly lonely. Q: I am a 30-year-old guy and I am really lonely. I was born in Iran and was raised in a conservative family and society. I went to university there and graduated with a master’s degree in English language studies. I am now at university in Germany, but I am not able to make friends with girls. I have no proper job, no future and not even a friend. I tried online dating sites; they don’t work. What is wrong with me? I even think of ending my life. I do not have any future going back to a country which does not accept me when I do not believe in Islam.

A/ Dear friend

¿ How could I get friends in the other countries? I will give some practical advice for these situations in his life, you should consider the culture where you find himself living with, however, you shouldn´t pretend that they adapt to your culture, even so, you could take initiative in making friends on some occasion, perhaps these friends of other countries could our become family.

some steps to achieving this purpose:

First, you can begin with the social networks for example in tea his zone or neighborhood.

Then, you should find friends with his same personality or those friends have like similar or like such as music, hobbies, pleasure, sports, etc. It is important to be kind to the people that you cross on your path.

Next, it can be a good option to find people that are studying English the same as you can be meeting in those places share they, therefore you can give English class to the people his country.

After that, remember that you never should surrender and try again and again

Finally, you can start making meetings with new friends and to find people willing to learn a new culture, customs, gastronomic, and also people to know new places.

Also, you can help to integrate a team to the church, or you can start offering himself as a volunteer in the town hall, hospital and geriatric home by helping others you may get the feeling to find god in every action. Can you pray every day for your projects and goals in his life?

I wish this advice serve you well to apply in his life and that you can cope with all situations in his present and future.

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My family is great, but I feel as though I have no real friends. Q:

I am 38, happily married with two children and have a job I enjoy. However, I have found myself plagued by anxiety about friendships and feelings of loneliness. Since having children I seem to have been on a roller-coaster of friendships. As our lives, have evolved, people have drifted away. I now feel I am left with acquaintances (mainly school mums) rather than actual friends. I find WhatsApp groups stressful and can’t go on Facebook, as I feel jealous when I see events where I haven’t been included. Some of my pre-children friends remain, but busy lives and distance mean I only see them a couple of times a year. I’ve given up on phone calls, as people only seem to want to text! I just don’t know how I can get out of this spiraling anxious mindset. Will it improve when my children are older, or without play dates will my social life dry up altogether?

A/ I have reviewed your message and I want to tell you the following about it:

You should feel calm because this situation could be temporary. when a person forms a family, he feels that everything revolves around the people of this family and this makes you be able to get away from your friends and in the same way they from you, but this will change at some point.

Could I ask you a favor?

For this situation to change a bit, I can suggest the following:

You should have a time for meetings with friends, even if it is a short time, it could be a way out to walk, or have a coffee together.

You could integrate your friends and family in an event that may interest both parties, such as a picnic, or a movie. sure, will change the environment after sharing time in common.

You will begin to see positive changes in your daily life, if your family knows of your plans and your reasons for doing them, they could collaborate with a better disposition.

As for social networks like Facebook and WhatsApp. you will be better without handling these. Well, the quality time with the people is the one that is shared live.

I will be aware of your new message, any different situation you may have, I will be interested in knowing it. Thank you, I see you.

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My daughter is dating a man more than twice her age. Q: I have a 23-year-old daughter. Her mother and I split up when she was seven due to her mother’s infidelity. I still see my daughter regularly and she is close to my wife and the two other
children we have. My daughter didn’t have a “proper” boyfriend until she was in her late teens. Last week I was informed that her new boyfriend is a little older than her. It transpires he’s 48!
He also has a wife and two children who he is preparing to leave to be with my daughter. I am, in equal measures, furious, horrified, embarrassed, ashamed and desperate. This new
boyfriend is older than my wife, who is 46. I am 55. My daughter wants me to meet this man, but I am too shocked and angry that a man of his age and with his responsibilities could
behave in this manner. How should I handle this? I am too embarrassed to talk to my friends about it.

This is my advice for this desperate father:

A/  Dear “desesperate father”

I have two daughters and I wouldn't like to be in a situation like this because when we are parents we want the best for our children, and when they are children we can still tell them how to behave and act in different situations, but when they are adults is very difficult to interfere in their lives and decisions.

I really understand you,  however I think you must face this situation the best way because your daughter is of legal age and she feels capable of making her own decisions. You should take things easy and accept to meet her boyfriend because possibly this relationship will be something passing, but if you try to avoid you couldnt know if things between they are true. I would think the best that you could do is try to know him and be aware of every thing that could happen in their relation; remember, maybe she may be looking for a father figure and this could be an oportunity for you because you can recover lost time with her.

Please, try to be pacient, this will help you.

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1.      My father is a womanizer. I’m terrified I’ll become one, too. Q: I’m 22, single and very romantic, yet I can’t relate to women. I grew up with a womanizing father and ever since I can remember he has made comments about women and sex. No man in my family has ever achieved true love and they have all had multiple sex partners and lovers, betraying the confidence of wives and long-term girlfriends. My great grandfather, my grandfather, my uncle and my father share this and some of me thinks that I can’t fight it, that I will become the same. But I struggle. I just can’t talk to women; I can’t play charming around them even when I have a good relationship with them in spaces such as work or college. I have “female friends”, but I can’t break the confidence they have in me by playing the love card. So, I’m often the friend of the women I like. My entire romantic concept has been built by culture, by movies like Gone with the Wind or Doctor Zhivago, books like A Farewell to Arms, For Whom the Bells Tolls and long sessions of the Smiths or the Cure.

A/ My dear friend, it´s very brave from you to share with us your worries; culture, tradition and family influence is very hard to avoid. In my opinion you should try love with the woman you like, fear is not a good adviser. You may start asking her out on a date, you could give her flowers or chocolate and take her to her favorite place. You must let her know your feelings and take advantage from the things you know about her. You are a good person, otherwise you would not ask for help exposing your womanizer family history. I´m absolutely sure you are able to overcome this condition; be as happy as you dream. ¡Go for it! Moreover, enjoy to fall in love.

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1. I have a serious crush on my teacher – should I tell her? Q: I’m a 16-year-old student harboring ardent feelings for a teacher. She’s an absolutely wonderful (in my view, angelic) human being, who seems utterly devoted to what she does and is terribly cordial to us students. It is out of awe for her personality, and gratitude for how she’s made a mark in my life, that I feel so attached to her. She’s in her late 20s, I suppose, but I feel she could be 18. My feelings are not sexual, but my social circles make barely any room for this possibility. I can find little solace in my friends for fear that they’d mock me because she’s not considered a looker. I feel an urge to tell her how amazing and adored she is, but fear she’ll be threatened or affronted, or that she’ll feel pained for me and not know how to respond.

A/ Well, you should get relaxed and spend more time talking to other girls, I know you´re a handsome guy and so respectful. It won´t be so difficult to get a beautiful girl for you, you shall get a girl who may be in the same age you are since you both can have almost the same topics to talk about. I know you can be in that stage of your life and it happens to the best of us, though. When I was a student, I could have the same feeling like you, but I realized it was a little bit difficult to reach for being a student and she is your teacher, even you could have troubles if you get involved with her. you might hang out more with your friends and you will see this feeling is disappearing step by step, Baby, Of course, you must not keep in touch with her because she´s your teacher, but you should not get involved so much with her. You can tell her when you may feel ok, but now I want you to be more focused on your school, ok?

Imagine if you didn`t open your heart, you would go crazy.

P.D: don´t worry she won´t feel pained because she must understand it´s very normal a student may have a crush on her teacher. I hope you eat very well. So, do not get disappointed.

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