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Healthy relationships in Education Directory - Welsh

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Building Healthy Relationships (For Teens)

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parents guide to discussing relationships / canllaw rhieni i trafod perthansau

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4 tips to ask someone out:

Spend more time with them to see if you both get along.

Find out more about them to see if you have similar interests.

Choose a time when you're both free to talk and are alone if you're embarrassed to talk to them with others around.

You don't have to ask them out, you could ask them to hang out or go to the park.

Check out our message boards for advice from other people in similar situations.

It isn't illegal to have a relationship with someone older or younger than you, but there is a legal age for sex, to protect young people.

When you're 16 you can legally have sex with someone aged 16 or older, as long as you both agreed to do this and gave your consent.

It's illegal to have sex with someone under the age of 16. This includes oral sex and sharing sexual messages.

If you're under the age of 18, it's illegal for anyone to take, have or pressure you for a sexual photo of you, including sharing sexual images.

Even if you're over 16, it can be illegal for someone to have sex with you if they work with you in a professional way, like a teacher.

Remember, in relationships, one person might have more sexual experience. This can sometimes make the other person feel pressure to do things they don't want to, or say yes when they don't fully understand what's being asked.

It's important that you're comfortable with anything you do and that you understand and consent to any sexual activity.

Dating someone older or younger can feel exciting, and you might be attracted to their maturity, confidence or independence. Or you might see them as more trusting or fun than people your age.

These might feel like positive reasons to start a relationship but they could affect how equal you feel, or how the relationship works.

When one person has more experience, knowledge, money or material things, it can sometimes feel like they have more power in the relationship or should make more of the decisions.

Remember, in a healthy relationship both of you should have an equal say in what you do together and any decisions you make.

Having a big age gap can make it more difficult sometimes to find places to go together. There might be things like certain films you can't go to see at the cinema together, or you might like different types of music.

If one of you is aged 18 or older, going to places with age restrictions, like bars and clubs, could be a problem.

You might be in situations where you feel pressure to go to places you're not comfortable with, or do things you're not ready to do.

Sometimes your friendship groups might not mix easily, or your family might not approve. It can be difficult to be with your partner's friends if you can't easily join in with things they do. You might be tempted to try to hide the relationship from others because you're worried how they might react.

If you're younger, you might not be able to drink alcohol, drive a car or stay out overnight. If you're the older one, you might be too old to go to the youth club or uncomfortable hanging around in the park.

If one person is working or has more money, they might make decisions about the things you do together. They may also feel frustrated if the other person can't afford to do things they want to do.

It might be difficult to understand their partner needing to study or feeling under pressure because of exams

When there's an age gap, there might be different expectations about the relationship and about the future. It's important to talk about what you want from the relationship and be clear about what your aims and hopes are for the future.

It can be really hard to break up with someone, especially if you're not sure if it's the right thing to do. But there are ways to make it easier.
5 things to consider:

Try to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend face to face. You might want to do this in a quiet place where you can talk without being disturbed.

Try not to break up by text or online - your message could be shared with lots of other people and this could make things hard for you.

Tell your boyfriend or girlfriend why you want to end the relationship.

If you don't want to be friends, don't promise that you will be. It could hurt them more if you lie.

Try to get your stuff back from them if you have given them house keys, money, travel cards or other important things.

If you're scared about what would happen if you tried to end your relationship, speak to an adult you trust or get support.

It's really upsetting if you're the one who has been broken up with, and it can take time to get over it.

It can sometimes feel difficult to deal with a break-up. But it's important to remember that things can change. In the days and weeks after a break-up it can still be hard to accept and you could feel hurt and let down. Many people feel different after a while and you could meet someone else in the future.

5 ways to help you cope:

Talk about how you feel with someone you trust.

Talk to one of our counsellors for support.

Check out the relationships message board and get support from other young people who might be in a similar situation as you.

Focus on things that make you feel happy, like spending time with friends and doing hobbies.

Take time to think about what is important to you and how you want things to be in the future. Try to express your feelings and draw how you want things to be.

Worried about a friend's relationship?

It can be difficult if you're worried about your friend. You might not know what to say or they might be secretive about what's been happening. We often hear from people who tell us:

'my friend's boyfriend is treating her badly'

'my friend's girlfriend is always teasing him and putting him down'

'my friend is in a relationship with someone who is much older'

'my friend is being forced to have sex'.

If you're worried about a friend, you don't have to cope on your own. Read our advice about helping a friend.

Lots of young people have crushes on teachers or feelings for them and this is normal. The important thing to remember is that acting on these feelings or having a relationship with a teacher is wrong.

It can be hard when you have feelings for someone like a teacher and you realise that you can't be together. But it's important to remember that these feelings will go away and it would be wrong to act on your feelings.

It's wrong because your teacher is in a position of trust and it's against the law for them to have any kind of personal relationship with a student who is under the age of 18. They could go to prison for having a relationship with a student.

It's a teacher's responsibility to work with you in a strictly professional way. This means that at all times they are a teacher and you are a student. If you left school or if the teacher worked at a different school, it would still be seen as wrong and unprofessional.

If you felt pressured by a teacher to do anything which you felt uncomfortable or unsure about, you should talk to a counsellor.

The internet can be a great way to meet new people. Some people find it easier to talk online. And it can help you say how they feel more openly.

But sometimes it can be hard to know who you're talking to. They might not be who they say they are. It's important to understand the dangers of talking to someone you don't know and make sure you stay safe online.

Try to remember:

don't share your personal info or photos

be aware of your digital footprint - what photos and info is on the internet already

don't meet up with them unless it's in a public place and you have a friend with you

trust your instincts. Be careful of things that seem to good to be true, or too much of a coincidence.

It's not okay for someone to pressure you online. Find out more about online grooming.

It can be really hard if your family doesn't like your boyfriend, girlfriend or someone you fancy. Or if they stop you from being with someone.

It can make you feel sad, angry, confused or isolated, but there are things you can do to help:

Find out why they think this way
Your family might not agree with the relationship because of their behaviour, age, race, gender, religion or because of other reasons.

Talk to your parents about how you feel
See if you can work things out together.

Ask someone you trust for help
You could speak to someone you trust, like a family member, teacher or someone else.

Talk to us
Speak to one of our counsellors who are here to give advice and support.

Questioning your sexuality is normal. It's okay to be confused about who you're attracted to, or whether you're attracted to anyone. When you are confused it can make you feel alone, but we're here to support you.

If you're struggling to understand your sexuality, try:

looking at our information on sexuality

talking about it, you could speak to a friend you trust or ask other young people for support on our message boards

not putting pressure on yourself, it can take time to understand your feelings

expressing your feelings using our Art box.

There's no right or wrong way to feel when it comes to your sexuality. If you're worried about how other people might react or you just want to talk, try speaking to a Childline counsellor.

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It's never okay for another person to pressure you to do something sexual. The person you're with should care about you enough not to pressure you or make you do something you're not happy about.

Pressure can include:

asking you over and over again

making you feel bad for not saying yes or changing your mind

threatening to tell other people or share things about you

being told you owe someone sex

feeling like you have to do it because of peer pressure or things you see online.

It's not okay for someone to make you feel like you have to do something sexual, and being made to do something can be considered rape or sexual assault.

If you're being pressured, then we're here to support you.

Even when you've said yes or felt comfortable before, it's always okay to change your mind. And you have the right to stop things any time you want to.

Remember, it's wrong for anyone to:

do anything sexual without your consent

make you feel bad, scared or guilty for not saying yes

do something sexual with you when you're drunk or have taken drugs

pressure you or make you feel like you have to do something

bully you or call you names because they don't agree with your decision

threaten to tell other people or share stuff online

offer you something in exchange for sex

force you into anything or hurt you.

If someone does something sexual with you without your consent, then that's rape or sexual assault. And if you've been made to feel like you can't say no, then we're here to support you.

Nobody is owed sex, and it's never okay for someone to make you feel like you owe them sex or that you have do something sexual if you don't want to.

Whether or not you do something sexual is always your choice. Even if someone has done something for you, helped you or bought you gifts, they have no right to expect you to pay them back sexually. Expecting someone to have sex or do something sexual in exchange for things is sometimes called sexual exploitation, and it's a type of sexual abuse.

If you're worried about owing someone sex, it's important to talk about it. You can ask about it anonymously on the message boards, talk to an adult you trust or speak to Childline any time.

Sexting is when you send a sexual message, photo or video to someone else. It could be a picture of you, but sometimes people send pictures and videos of other people.

If you're thinking about sexting or sending a nude, it's important to think about what might happen to anything you send, whether it's what you want and how it might make someone else feel. We've got lots of advice to help before you decide.

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Relationships can be confusing. Especially if you really like someone but they do things you're not comfortable with.

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12 Signs You're in an Unhealthy Relationship

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Abuse in Relationships: Would you Stop Yourself?

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Healthy relationship checklist / rhestr gyfeirio perthnasau iach

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Healthy v Unhealthy relationships / perthynas iach V perthynas afiach

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Healthy friendships / cyfeillgarwch iach

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If your friend fancies you

It can be really confusing when friendships change. And it can be hard to understand how we feel.

If a friend tells you they fancy you, it can be a big shock. It's natural to worry that this might change the friendship. But there are things that can help:

talk to someone. It can really help to talk to someone you trust about how this has made you feel and what you can do next

give them some space. It can be really hard to distance yourself, especially if they're a close friend. But it might help them to work out their feelings and whether they can be just friends

be honest with them. Once you've worked out how you feel, try talking to them honestly about how you feel.

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It can be really confusing when friendships change. And it can be hard to understand how we feel. If a friend tells you they fancy you, it can be a big shock. It's natural to worry that this might change the friendship. But there are things that can help: talk to someone.

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Abuse in teenage relationships is when you begin to feel scared or controlled by the person you're with. You may be confused because it feels like a loving relationship but often only when you behave in a certain way. This can happen at any age, regardless of gender.

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Abuse in teenage relationships is when you begin to feel scared or controlled by the person you're with. You may be confused because it feels like a loving relationship but often only when you behave in a certain way. This can happen at any age, regardless of gender.

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Crisis Text Line is now in the UK as Shout! Text 85258 to be connected with a trained Crisis Volunteer.

Shout is an affiliate of Crisis Text Line ® in the UK that provides free, confidential support, 24/7 via text. It's the first free 24/7 texting service in the UK for anyone in crisis anytime, anywhere. Shout is available in England, Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland.

Text SHOUT to 85258 in the UK to text with a trained Crisis Volunteer.
Every texter is connected with a real-life human being trained to bring people from a hot moment to a cool calm place through active listening and collaborative problem-solving. All of our Crisis Volunteers donate their time to helping people in crisis. Read more about how it works.

Shout is a service partnership between Mental Health Innovations and Crisis Text Line ®, providing people in the UK with the first ever, 24/7, free nationwide texting service. Have a question? Read these FAQs.

Our Crisis Volunteers apply and successfully complete an online training course. These Crisis Volunteers work remotely anywhere in the UK with a computer and secure internet connection.

Crisis Volunteers answer texts from people in crisis, bringing them from a hot moment to a cool calm one through active listening, collaborative problem solving, and safety planning. Crisis Volunteers commit to between 2-4 hours per week and complete a total of 200 hours. It's a big commitment, and one that people find incredibly rewarding. Learn more about being a Crisis Volunteer.

Crisis Text Line was built from the ground up around technology and data. We've collected one of the largest health data sets in the world.

Ultimately, our goal is to use data to improve outcomes for people in crisis. To achieve this, we use data in two ways: (1) internally, to improve the quality of our service, and (2) externally, to improve the crisis space as a whole. Learn more about our data philosophy.

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A helpline counsellor will listen to your concerns and ask you any questions they might have. This helps make sure they understand the information you're sharing, assess the situation, offer advice and make decisions about the next steps to take.

They'll also explain how you can remain anonymous.

If you email us or submit a form, they'll write back to you with advice or some questions. You might be asked to call the helpline if you can.

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HOPELINEUK advisers want to work with you to understand why these thoughts of suicide might be present. They also want to provide you with a safe space to talk through anything happening in your life that could be impacting on your or anyone else's ability to stay safe.

For children and young people under the age of 35 who are experiencing thoughts of suicide

For anyone concerned that a young person could be thinking about suicide

Young People

Our advisers are all trained to help you focus on staying safe from suicide. Their training enables them to provide advice and support that may help you to move forward and stay alive.

Concerned Others

If you are concerned that a young person is feeling suicidal, advisers can support you to start a conversation about suicide and explore options of how best to support them.

Contact HOPELINEUK

If you are having thoughts of suicide or are concerned for a young person who might be you can contact HOPELINEUK for confidential support and practical advice.

Opening hours:

9am - midnight every day of the year (Weekends and Bank Holidays included)

Our Suicide Prevention Advisers are ready to support you.

Who can PAPYRUS HOPELINEUK help?

Young people, children, family, parents, siblings, partners, carers, grandparents

Concerned friends: at work, in school, college, university

GPs, Nurses, teachers, school nurses, A&E staff, pastoral staff

Mental health professionals: CAMHS staff, CPNs, Psychiatrists

Education staff: teachers, lecturers, learning mentors, education social workers

Police, ambulance staff, prison staff, drug and alcohol services, probation workers

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"I've just searched online to find the service, this is the best advice I've had, and I'm talking about doctors and health professionals. Do you know nobody has just asked me to talk to him; it's really strange when you think about it - so thank you."

"Thank you for helping me - no-one has ever helped me this much before."

"The people at HOPELINEUK are great - I feel understood."

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This page is for information on the PAPYRUS HOPELINEUK service - visit our HOPELINEUK FAQ section for more information about using the service. For further help and advice, including a full list of resources, visit our Help and Advice Page.

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Things to remember:

it's okay to say no to things if you don't feel comfortable

you can make your own choices

there are ways to say no to something, but still be accepted and have friends

there are ways to feel more confident about saying how you feel.

Experimenting is part of growing up. But that doesn't mean that you have to drink alcohol, take drugs and smoke.

If your friends are all taking part, it can be hard to say no. But it's your decision, not theirs. And you have the right to decide what you want to do.

Bullying can mean different things. If your friends are calling someone names, putting them down, or doing anything to deliberately make someone else feel bad, then this is bullying.

If you're being pressured into bullying someone, it can be really difficult to be able to say no. But there are ways you can stand up to peer pressure:

practise how to say "no", and what reasons you'd want to give

avoid situations where you might be asked to join in with bullying

tell someone like a teacher to make sure it stops

if you're being pressured into bullying someone online, report it or post positive things.

There are a number of ways you might be pressured to be thin. This pressure could be coming from a friend, a family member or an online website or community.

Wherever this pressure is coming from, it can be really harmful for you.

Worrying about losing weight can lead to eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia and it's important to recognise if this might be happening to you.

Being healthy means making sure you eat enough food, and don't lose too much weight.

It's normal to not feel happy about parts of yourself. But feeling happy about yourself doesn't only come from your physical appearance (although this is important). It also comes from things you feel on the inside.

Working on ways to build self-esteem can help you to see the things you like about yourself.

Having sex is a big decision. And everyone feels ready at different times.

If you don't feel comfortable or ready to have sex with someone, then you shouldn't feel like you have to do it. And if you aren't ready to send sexual messages or images to someone, then you have the right to say that you're not comfortable with this.

If someone's pressuring you to send them sexual messages and you don't know what to say, download our Zipit app. It gives you loads of ways to respond before the situation gets out of control.

Your friends, boyfriend or girlfriend should care about you enough not to pressure you or make you do something you're not happy about.

Find out more about sexting and sex and relationships.

Whether it's not going to class, stealing, or breaking the law, we may all feel pressured to do something that might get us into trouble at some point in our lives.

Sometimes it's hard to see how a dare or a prank might affect you and your life ahead. Especially if all your friends are doing it.

It can seem fun to join in. And you might trust your friends. But breaking the law can have serious consequences.

Each situation is different, but it's hard to go back and change things if you get in trouble with the police. Remember you have the right to say no.

Try to think it through what will happen if you get caught:

skipping school - you might be sent home from school.

shoplifting- you could be arrested or taken to a police station.

doing something dangerous - like going down hill in a shopping trolley, for instance, What happens if you fall?

Watch: Why Can't I Say No To My Friends?

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4 tips to ask someone out:

Spend more time with them to see if you both get along.

Find out more about them to see if you have similar interests.

Choose a time when you're both free to talk and are alone if you're embarrassed to talk to them with others around.

You don't have to ask them out, you could ask them to hang out or go to the park.

Check out our message boards for advice from other people in similar situations.

It isn't illegal to have a relationship with someone older or younger than you, but there is a legal age for sex, to protect young people.

When you're 16 you can legally have sex with someone aged 16 or older, as long as you both agreed to do this and gave your consent.

It's illegal to have sex with someone under the age of 16. This includes oral sex and sharing sexual messages.

If you're under the age of 18, it's illegal for anyone to take, have or pressure you for a sexual photo of you, including sharing sexual images.

Even if you're over 16, it can be illegal for someone to have sex with you if they work with you in a professional way, like a teacher.

Remember, in relationships, one person might have more sexual experience. This can sometimes make the other person feel pressure to do things they don't want to, or say yes when they don't fully understand what's being asked.

It's important that you're comfortable with anything you do and that you understand and consent to any sexual activity.

Dating someone older or younger can feel exciting, and you might be attracted to their maturity, confidence or independence. Or you might see them as more trusting or fun than people your age.

These might feel like positive reasons to start a relationship but they could affect how equal you feel, or how the relationship works.

When one person has more experience, knowledge, money or material things, it can sometimes feel like they have more power in the relationship or should make more of the decisions.

Remember, in a healthy relationship both of you should have an equal say in what you do together and any decisions you make.

Having a big age gap can make it more difficult sometimes to find places to go together. There might be things like certain films you can't go to see at the cinema together, or you might like different types of music.

If one of you is aged 18 or older, going to places with age restrictions, like bars and clubs, could be a problem.

You might be in situations where you feel pressure to go to places you're not comfortable with, or do things you're not ready to do.

Sometimes your friendship groups might not mix easily, or your family might not approve. It can be difficult to be with your partner's friends if you can't easily join in with things they do. You might be tempted to try to hide the relationship from others because you're worried how they might react.

If you're younger, you might not be able to drink alcohol, drive a car or stay out overnight. If you're the older one, you might be too old to go to the youth club or uncomfortable hanging around in the park.

If one person is working or has more money, they might make decisions about the things you do together. They may also feel frustrated if the other person can't afford to do things they want to do.

It might be difficult to understand their partner needing to study or feeling under pressure because of exams

When there's an age gap, there might be different expectations about the relationship and about the future. It's important to talk about what you want from the relationship and be clear about what your aims and hopes are for the future.

It can be really hard to break up with someone, especially if you're not sure if it's the right thing to do. But there are ways to make it easier.
5 things to consider:

Try to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend face to face. You might want to do this in a quiet place where you can talk without being disturbed.

Try not to break up by text or online - your message could be shared with lots of other people and this could make things hard for you.

Tell your boyfriend or girlfriend why you want to end the relationship.

If you don't want to be friends, don't promise that you will be. It could hurt them more if you lie.

Try to get your stuff back from them if you have given them house keys, money, travel cards or other important things.

If you're scared about what would happen if you tried to end your relationship, speak to an adult you trust or get support.

It's really upsetting if you're the one who has been broken up with, and it can take time to get over it.

It can sometimes feel difficult to deal with a break-up. But it's important to remember that things can change. In the days and weeks after a break-up it can still be hard to accept and you could feel hurt and let down. Many people feel different after a while and you could meet someone else in the future.

5 ways to help you cope:

Talk about how you feel with someone you trust.

Talk to one of our counsellors for support.

Check out the relationships message board and get support from other young people who might be in a similar situation as you.

Focus on things that make you feel happy, like spending time with friends and doing hobbies.

Take time to think about what is important to you and how you want things to be in the future. Try to express your feelings and draw how you want things to be.

Worried about a friend's relationship?

It can be difficult if you're worried about your friend. You might not know what to say or they might be secretive about what's been happening. We often hear from people who tell us:

'my friend's boyfriend is treating her badly'

'my friend's girlfriend is always teasing him and putting him down'

'my friend is in a relationship with someone who is much older'

'my friend is being forced to have sex'.

If you're worried about a friend, you don't have to cope on your own. Read our advice about helping a friend.

Lots of young people have crushes on teachers or feelings for them and this is normal. The important thing to remember is that acting on these feelings or having a relationship with a teacher is wrong.

It can be hard when you have feelings for someone like a teacher and you realise that you can't be together. But it's important to remember that these feelings will go away and it would be wrong to act on your feelings.

It's wrong because your teacher is in a position of trust and it's against the law for them to have any kind of personal relationship with a student who is under the age of 18. They could go to prison for having a relationship with a student.

It's a teacher's responsibility to work with you in a strictly professional way. This means that at all times they are a teacher and you are a student. If you left school or if the teacher worked at a different school, it would still be seen as wrong and unprofessional.

If you felt pressured by a teacher to do anything which you felt uncomfortable or unsure about, you should talk to a counsellor.

The internet can be a great way to meet new people. Some people find it easier to talk online. And it can help you say how they feel more openly.

But sometimes it can be hard to know who you're talking to. They might not be who they say they are. It's important to understand the dangers of talking to someone you don't know and make sure you stay safe online.

Try to remember:

don't share your personal info or photos

be aware of your digital footprint - what photos and info is on the internet already

don't meet up with them unless it's in a public place and you have a friend with you

trust your instincts. Be careful of things that seem to good to be true, or too much of a coincidence.

It's not okay for someone to pressure you online. Find out more about online grooming.

It can be really hard if your family doesn't like your boyfriend, girlfriend or someone you fancy. Or if they stop you from being with someone.

It can make you feel sad, angry, confused or isolated, but there are things you can do to help:

Find out why they think this way
Your family might not agree with the relationship because of their behaviour, age, race, gender, religion or because of other reasons.

Talk to your parents about how you feel
See if you can work things out together.

Ask someone you trust for help
You could speak to someone you trust, like a family member, teacher or someone else.

Talk to us
Speak to one of our counsellors who are here to give advice and support.

Questioning your sexuality is normal. It's okay to be confused about who you're attracted to, or whether you're attracted to anyone. When you are confused it can make you feel alone, but we're here to support you.

If you're struggling to understand your sexuality, try:

looking at our information on sexuality

talking about it, you could speak to a friend you trust or ask other young people for support on our message boards

not putting pressure on yourself, it can take time to understand your feelings

expressing your feelings using our Art box.

There's no right or wrong way to feel when it comes to your sexuality. If you're worried about how other people might react or you just want to talk, try speaking to a Childline counsellor.

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Resources for professionals to deliver to young people / adnoddau i gweithwyr proffesiynol i wneud gyda pobl ifanc

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Recognising and challenging domestic abuse in young people (1)

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A tailored, specialist and confidential Sexual Health and Relationship Service for young people aged 11-25 in Cardiff & the Vale of Glamorgan.

Due to COVID-19 the SHOT team will be offering webinars for parents/carers around online safety including what apps young people are using and how to help keep them safe e.g what is sexting?, understanding consent, and the impacts of pornography. As the world and especially young people are spending much more time online these webinars will be a chance to find out more about what young people may be accessing, the risks and how to support them to stay safer on the web.

Wednesday 15 th July @1pm - Online safety

Wednesday 22 nd July @1pm - Sexting

Wednesday 29 th July @1pm - peer pressure and understanding consent

Wednesday 5 th August @1pm - impacts of pornography

To book onto one or all webinar sessions please email SHOT@ymcacardiff.wales or call 07968279497 for more information.

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Healthy Relationship Service - YMCA CARDIFF GROUP

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A tailored, specialist and confidential Sexual Health and Relationship Service for young people aged 11-25 in Cardiff & the Vale of Glamorgan. Due to COVID-19 the SHOT team will be offering webinars for parents/carers around online safety including what apps young people are using and how to help keep them safe e.g what is sexting?, understanding consent, and the impacts of pornography.

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For parents and carers

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It can feel awkward talking to your child about sharing nudes and semi-nudes. We've got advice to help you understand the risks and support them if something makes them feel upset or worried.

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I hope that our new Menopause leaflet will help to ensure that every woman has factual, evidence-based information at her fingertips and the help and support she deserves when she needs it for the future.

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Agenda, a young people's guide to making positive relationships matter

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3 Healthy Relationships spreadsheet CYM May 2020

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3 Healthy Relationships spreadsheet CYM May 2020

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3 Healthy Relationships spreadsheet Updated May 2020