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“What helps me avoid burnout as a person with ADHD+ASD”

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“What helps me avoid burnout as a person with ADHD+ASD”

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I made this a long time ago but for some reason never posted! It is my quick guide to protecting yourself against burnout as a person with ADHD and ASD.

Of course it is all about meeting your support needs at the end of the day, which are completely individual and may vary over time, but this could function as a guide if you have a hard time figuring out where to start! 🫶🏻 💙💙💙

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I made this a long time ago but for some reason never posted! It is my quick guide to protecting yourself against burnout as a person with ADHD and ASD. Of course it is all about meeting your suppor...

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We Need to Chat About Being an “Autism Mom

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We Need to Chat About Being an “Autism Mom

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A really comprehensive critique of the 'autism mom' by an autistic mother.

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Today I'm tackling a hot button issue... We're going to talk about the term "Autism Mom".

And whether you read the title of this post and thought "hey that's me!" or you read the title and cringed at the thought of "Autism Moms", stick with me because this post is for you.
If you haven't already heard, Autism Mom is a term that parents of autistic children have started to use or do use to find their community.
Some people love it and see autism mom as their identity, others hate autism mom and think that it's offensive. And in this post I'm going to unpack it a bit.

(Prefer video? This post is available in video format below)
3 Reasons "Autism Mom" Is More Harmful Than You Think

But before I dive in, I want to say that if you're reading this and you use the term autism mom as an identifier for yourself or to search for autism Facebook groups, or blog posts or any of that stuff... I get it.

I get why you hear that term and you think, oh my gosh, that is me.
As moms, it's pretty typical for us to find some way to identify ourselves.
You probably heard about soccer moms or boy moms or dance moms.

We use these terms to find our group, to find the other moms who are going to understand us and understand what we're going through in a way that others just don't.

An example of this... My kids don't do any sports, but a good good friend of mine, her kids do all the sports. And I just can't relate to that.

She talks about driving for five hours for some tournament and spending all of this time on the field, and she wants one of these chairs that has an umbrella attached to the chair.
I can empathize, but I can't truly understand, because I don't live that life.
But using "autism mom" is actually very different from something like soccer mom or dance mom... In fact, using this term might find the exact community you're trying to avoid (check out reason #2!)
So I'm going to share three reasons to reconsider using autism mom as an identifier, even if you don't see the harm in it.
#1 Autism Is More Than Soccer

The first reason not to identify as an autism mom is that autism is more than something like soccer or dance.
Autism is our culture. It's our identity. It's who we are. It is not who our parents are.
And it's not something that that defines anyone except for us.

To give an example of this, one of my children is non-binary.
In no circumstance what I call myself a non-binary mom, because I'm not non-binary, I'm cis. So I would not in a million years say that I'm a non-binary mom.
Another example of this is I have a friend who is white. She has adopted a black daughter.
And never in a million years, would she say she's a black mom. She's not she's a white mom of a black daughter.
And it's completely okay for her to seek out community with people who have similar experiences, but she wouldn't use 'black mom' to find that community.

Bottom line: autism is our identity, our culture, and it's not something trivial like soccer or dance, and it isn't something to be used as an identity by others outside of our community.

#2 It Groups You With the "Warrior Mom" Stereotype

Whether you mean it this way or you don't, using autism mom as your identifier groups you in with the autism warrior moms.
Those moms who are on the internet crying in their car because autism ruined their life. Those moms that are covered head to toe in puzzle pieces. Those moms saying "I'm an autism mom, and I'm a superhero because I love my autistic child"
That's who you're grouped in with when you continue to use "autism mom" as an identifier after learning how autistics feel about it.
And if you've read anything from my blog, you know I'm not about that... And I'm willing to bet that you aren't that way either.
I'm betting that if you're reading this and you've been using autism mom as an identifier, it's because you saw autism as a positive part of your family and wanted to find others who thought the same.

But unfortunately, in this culture, if you're using autism Mom, you're mostly not going to find the people who agree with you.
You're going to find the people who think that autistics should sit down and stop talking, who think that neurodiversity is junk.
Those are the kind of moms that you're going to get grouped in with if you use autism mom as an identity, and I don't want that for you.

#3 Impact Over Intent
The third reason not to identify as an autism mom is understanding that impact is more important than intent.
Because like I said, if you're reading this post or if you're a part of the Embracing Autism Community or Autism Journey Collective, I know that you aren't one of "those moms".

I know that you aren't trying to harm anyone, and that you don't mean autism mom in a negative 'I'm a superhero' way at all.

However the autistic community has pretty clearly an overwhelmingly said that this hurts us. That it hurts us when parents call themselves autism moms.
And whenever a minority group-a group that's discriminated against on the daily-says, "hey, that thing that you're doing that hurts us"...
The simplest thing that we can do is stop.

Your intent behind using autism mom is not to hurt autistics. That's not what you mean to do.

And I know that, 100%, but in this case the impact to the autistic community needs to be prioritized over the intent of parents of autistic children.

The impact is simply more important. And the impact here is that it hurts autistic people. And I don't think you want to be a part of that.

And so I'm not saying that if you've used autism mom up until now, you're terrible.
But here's the thing: when you know better, you can do better.
And so I'm here explaining why autism mom is harmful and why it's not a good idea for parents to use that as an identifier.
And now you know better.
You may not know why it bothers us so much, but you do know it bothers us.
And now that you know that, how simple is it to just not use it?
And here's the deal... If you continue using autism mom, that's hurting autistics. Whether you think we're overreacting or not, it does hurt us.

But if you stop using autism mom as a title, stop putting it on T shirts, stop putting it on bumper stickers...
When you stop doing that, it stops hurting autistics. And it doesn't hurt you at all.
You're not harmed in any way, shape or form by not using autism mom, but it makes a massive, massive difference for autistics.
It seems like a simple decision, right?
And here's why I'm sharing this all with you... I believe to my core that we are working together on a mission to change the world for autistic people.

And we can't do that without the parents of autistic children joining with us, amplifying autistic voices, and becoming allies.

That's why I do what I do... Because I feel like most parents of autistic children want to be the allies that the autistic community needs.

I believe that you want to learn from the autistic community. That you want to parent your autistic children in the most respectful way possible. That you're ready to put aside your privilege and use it to ally with autistics.

And sometimes you just need to know exactly what to do.
So I'm telling you, the very first step you can take is to let go of the autism mom title.
It doesn't hurt you at all, but it massively helps the autistic community, and it shows us that you're ready to ally with us.

And being an ally can feel intimidating, but it can truly be this simple: when autistics say 'that harms us', stop doing it.

If you loved this post, you should check out:

About Kaylene
Kaylene George is an autistic self-advocate, author, and mother of five, including one autistic child. She realized her own autism as an adult shortly after her son received his initial diagnosis. Suddenly the parts of her that seemed so "weird" to society had an answer. Since then, Kaylene has passionately shared about her experiences with autism from both sides of the great divide between parents and autistic self-advocates on AutisticMama.com.

Today I'm tackling a hot button issue... We're going to talk about the term "Autism Mom".

And whether you read the title of this post and thought "hey that's me!" or you read the title and cringed at the thought of "Autism Moms", stick with me because this post is for you.
If you haven't already heard, Autism Mom is a term that parents of autistic children have started to use or do use to find their community.
Some people love it and see autism mom as their identity, others hate autism mom and think that it's offensive. And in this post I'm going to unpack it a bit.

(Prefer video? This post is available in video format below)
3 Reasons "Autism Mom" Is More Harmful Than You Think

But before I dive in, I want to say that if you're reading this and you use the term autism mom as an identifier for yourself or to search for autism Facebook groups, or blog posts or any of that stuff... I get it.

I get why you hear that term and you think, oh my gosh, that is me.
As moms, it's pretty typical for us to find some way to identify ourselves.
You probably heard about soccer moms or boy moms or dance moms.

We use these terms to find our group, to find the other moms who are going to understand us and understand what we're going through in a way that others just don't.

An example of this... My kids don't do any sports, but a good good friend of mine, her kids do all the sports. And I just can't relate to that.

She talks about driving for five hours for some tournament and spending all of this time on the field, and she wants one of these chairs that has an umbrella attached to the chair.
I can empathize, but I can't truly understand, because I don't live that life.
But using "autism mom" is actually very different from something like soccer mom or dance mom... In fact, using this term might find the exact community you're trying to avoid (check out reason #2!)
So I'm going to share three reasons to reconsider using autism mom as an identifier, even if you don't see the harm in it.
#1 Autism Is More Than Soccer

The first reason not to identify as an autism mom is that autism is more than something like soccer or dance.
Autism is our culture. It's our identity. It's who we are. It is not who our parents are.
And it's not something that that defines anyone except for us.

To give an example of this, one of my children is non-binary.
In no circumstance what I call myself a non-binary mom, because I'm not non-binary, I'm cis. So I would not in a million years say that I'm a non-binary mom.
Another example of this is I have a friend who is white. She has adopted a black daughter.
And never in a million years, would she say she's a black mom. She's not she's a white mom of a black daughter.
And it's completely okay for her to seek out community with people who have similar experiences, but she wouldn't use 'black mom' to find that community.

Bottom line: autism is our identity, our culture, and it's not something trivial like soccer or dance, and it isn't something to be used as an identity by others outside of our community.

#2 It Groups You With the "Warrior Mom" Stereotype

Whether you mean it this way or you don't, using autism mom as your identifier groups you in with the autism warrior moms.
Those moms who are on the internet crying in their car because autism ruined their life. Those moms that are covered head to toe in puzzle pieces. Those moms saying "I'm an autism mom, and I'm a superhero because I love my autistic child"
That's who you're grouped in with when you continue to use "autism mom" as an identifier after learning how autistics feel about it.
And if you've read anything from my blog, you know I'm not about that... And I'm willing to bet that you aren't that way either.
I'm betting that if you're reading this and you've been using autism mom as an identifier, it's because you saw autism as a positive part of your family and wanted to find others who thought the same.

But unfortunately, in this culture, if you're using autism Mom, you're mostly not going to find the people who agree with you.
You're going to find the people who think that autistics should sit down and stop talking, who think that neurodiversity is junk.
Those are the kind of moms that you're going to get grouped in with if you use autism mom as an identity, and I don't want that for you.

#3 Impact Over Intent
The third reason not to identify as an autism mom is understanding that impact is more important than intent.
Because like I said, if you're reading this post or if you're a part of the Embracing Autism Community or Autism Journey Collective, I know that you aren't one of "those moms".

I know that you aren't trying to harm anyone, and that you don't mean autism mom in a negative 'I'm a superhero' way at all.

However the autistic community has pretty clearly an overwhelmingly said that this hurts us. That it hurts us when parents call themselves autism moms.
And whenever a minority group-a group that's discriminated against on the daily-says, "hey, that thing that you're doing that hurts us"...
The simplest thing that we can do is stop.

Your intent behind using autism mom is not to hurt autistics. That's not what you mean to do.

And I know that, 100%, but in this case the impact to the autistic community needs to be prioritized over the intent of parents of autistic children.

The impact is simply more important. And the impact here is that it hurts autistic people. And I don't think you want to be a part of that.

And so I'm not saying that if you've used autism mom up until now, you're terrible.
But here's the thing: when you know better, you can do better.
And so I'm here explaining why autism mom is harmful and why it's not a good idea for parents to use that as an identifier.
And now you know better.
You may not know why it bothers us so much, but you do know it bothers us.
And now that you know that, how simple is it to just not use it?
And here's the deal... If you continue using autism mom, that's hurting autistics. Whether you think we're overreacting or not, it does hurt us.

But if you stop using autism mom as a title, stop putting it on T shirts, stop putting it on bumper stickers...
When you stop doing that, it stops hurting autistics. And it doesn't hurt you at all.
You're not harmed in any way, shape or form by not using autism mom, but it makes a massive, massive difference for autistics.
It seems like a simple decision, right?
And here's why I'm sharing this all with you... I believe to my core that we are working together on a mission to change the world for autistic people.

And we can't do that without the parents of autistic children joining with us, amplifying autistic voices, and becoming allies.

That's why I do what I do... Because I feel like most parents of autistic children want to be the allies that the autistic community needs.

I believe that you want to learn from the autistic community. That you want to parent your autistic children in the most respectful way possible. That you're ready to put aside your privilege and use it to ally with autistics.

And sometimes you just need to know exactly what to do.
So I'm telling you, the very first step you can take is to let go of the autism mom title.
It doesn't hurt you at all, but it massively helps the autistic community, and it shows us that you're ready to ally with us.

And being an ally can feel intimidating, but it can truly be this simple: when autistics say 'that harms us', stop doing it.

If you loved this post, you should check out:

About Kaylene
Kaylene George is an autistic self-advocate, author, and mother of five, including one autistic child. She realized her own autism as an adult shortly after her son received his initial diagnosis. Suddenly the parts of her that seemed so "weird" to society had an answer. Since then, Kaylene has passionately shared about her experiences with autism from both sides of the great divide between parents and autistic self-advocates on AutisticMama.com.

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We Need to Chat About Being an "Autism Mom"...

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We need to chat about being an "autism mom" and 3 reasons you shouldn't use "autism mom" as your identity if you want to become the best parent and advocate you can be for your autistic child.

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An awesome website (and app) that can help break down tasks and check the tone of emails you send

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