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being asked really invasive and heteronormative questions around how my wife and I are going to build a family

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being asked really invasive and heteronormative questions around how my wife and I are going to build a family

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When my family can't eat out at a restaurant because there are one or more steps preventing my son's wheelchair from entering the space. 

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When my family can't eat out at a restaurant because there are one or more steps preventing my son's wheelchair from entering the space. 

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living in a segregated white community for the majority of my life. never having a teacher of color until college.

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living in a segregated white community for the majority of my life. never having a teacher of color until college.

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Being affected by male loved ones who can't talk to each other about their vulnerabilities, so they stay in anger and disconnection.

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Being affected by male loved ones who can't talk to each other about their vulnerabilities, so they stay in anger and disconnection.

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Mistaking one colleague of color for another.  And then not taking immediate action to offer repair.  

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Mistaking one colleague of color for another.  And then not taking immediate action to offer repair.  

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I come from an immigrant family, but I was born in the US. Growing up, I was often told to "go back to my country" or called racial slurs. Really confusing when my hometown was the only home I really knew, but didn't feel like I belonged.

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I come from an immigrant family, but I was born in the US. Growing up, I was often told to "go back to my country" or called racial slurs. Really confusing when my hometown was the only home I really knew, but didn't feel like I belonged.

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told by a head of school aren't you glad you have a man to fight your battles for you, after hiring a male department head, in front of another visiting head of school

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told by a head of school aren't you glad you have a man to fight your battles for you, after hiring a male department head, in front of another visiting head of school

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experiencing chronic & disabling pain and being repeatedly reprimanded for how it limited my abilities, while at the same time having my requests for accommodations denied

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experiencing chronic & disabling pain and being repeatedly reprimanded for how it limited my abilities, while at the same time having my requests for accommodations denied

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I met a new acquaintance and teased him when he stammered, thinking he just stumbled over his words. The sudden silence made me realize my mistake, and how the casual teasing of my childhood does not translate to casual gatherings of new people.

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Domestic abuse. I thought it was my fault these terrible things were happening, and if I just did “better”, I could fix it.

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As the mother of a gay boy who has experienced trauma and continues to deal with PTSD (and likely PTSE), I have lived "nearby" the debilitating and deadly consequences of homophobia and sexual trauma.

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As the mother of a gay boy who has experienced trauma and continues to deal with PTSD (and likely PTSE), I have lived "nearby" the debilitating and deadly consequences of homophobia and sexual trauma.

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Back teaching undergrads 2008-2013, my first stint as an instructor, I perpetuated the selective benefits that I got as a white well-off male by expecting first and second year college students to show up prepared in particular ways, and I did not support all learners from all backgrounds. Students who were first generation college students were at an extreme disadvantage with me: I’m working hard to change this and have made many alterations to the mindset with which I approach every class interaction I have with my students at every level and age.

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Walking into a store and realizing in about three seconds that absolutely nothing there will fit me. 

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Walking into a store and realizing in about three seconds that absolutely nothing there will fit me. 

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As a kid going to pride with my moms and seeing people with signs “going to hell”, “You need God”, and “F* go to hell”. Those signs flip through my head every now and then even to this day.

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being told that I'm too young to know/understand what someone else is talking about (in reference to music)

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being told that I'm too young to know/understand what someone else is talking about (in reference to music)

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Being diagnosed, or not diagnosed with medical disorders due to healthcare practitioners noticing my size rather than the root of the symptoms. Fat bias is real, and I love myself regardless. 

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Being diagnosed, or not diagnosed with medical disorders due to healthcare practitioners noticing my size rather than the root of the symptoms. Fat bias is real, and I love myself regardless. 

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Bearing more of the mental and emotional load when it comes to caregiving for my child than my partner does, but getting less credit publicly for it.

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assumptions that as Indigenous student in university, that I did not was not there based on merit or ability, but solely based on the color of my skin, and the assumptions that my educational experience in Indigenous educations means that I wouldn't be able to teach to "all students"

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assumptions that as Indigenous student in university, that I did not was not there based on merit or ability, but solely based on the color of my skin, and the assumptions that my educational experience in Indigenous educations means that I wouldn't be able to teach to "all students"

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Grad school prof, I asked for help during his office hours. I was told to "keep my chin up and skirts high"(1981). I'will never forget it. It made me feel so small.

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Grad school prof, I asked for help during his office hours. I was told to "keep my chin up and skirts high"(1981). I'will never forget it. It made me feel so small.

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Abusive and predatory behavior being rewarded, dismissed, or rationalized, especially when inflicted on trans folks, nonbinary folks, and cis women. Watching repeatedly abusive people gain status and institutional power while others are forced to leave the workplace.

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Abusive and predatory behavior being rewarded, dismissed, or rationalized, especially when inflicted on trans folks, nonbinary folks, and cis women. Watching repeatedly abusive people gain status and institutional power while others are forced to leave the workplace.

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not recognizing my own privilege until adulthood and reflecting on how i treated people in the past - judging grammar and spelling, how money was being spent by friends' families, lacking gratitude

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not recognizing my own privilege until adulthood and reflecting on how i treated people in the past - judging grammar and spelling, how money was being spent by friends' families, lacking gratitude

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Being asked to dress in a stereotypically feminine way at a previous job. Being expected to "dress up" while male coworkers were not.  

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Being asked to dress in a stereotypically feminine way at a previous job. Being expected to "dress up" while male coworkers were not.  

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My then boyfriend then introducing me as a "school teacher" when I was a community college professor at the time

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My then boyfriend then introducing me as a "school teacher" when I was a community college professor at the time

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Various forms of harassment and assault from childhood through adulthood.

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Schools are described as “good” or “bad” indirectly based on how many students of color are attending. The west side of our city is more diverse and colorful - and thus avoided actively by white community members.

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Being told to smile more as a female educator working with young children

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Was told by a head of school that if I were wearing a school uniform they wouldn’t know I was a teacher.

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Working an entry level position in my 40's - being faced with a lot of assumptions about why - do I lack education, access, etc.  Not a lot of curiousity in my direction.  

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Working an entry level position in my 40's - being faced with a lot of assumptions about why - do I lack education, access, etc.  Not a lot of curiousity in my direction.  

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Being made to feel at a young age that those interests that defined me (and have come to define what I teach) were not masculine enough and would cause bullying

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As a fifth grade white girl, I participated in villainizing the only black boy in our very white class. It took me many years to face what I’d done to him.

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I grew up with two moms who raised my sister and I to be, I think, pretty great young women. However, we went to a religious school growing up that was extremely homophobic, and in which we had to hide our family life in fear of being kicked out. I was told "Gays can't raise kids" and "If you try to convince someone being is gay is wrong and they won't stop, cut them out of your life." This trauma still affects the way I see religion, family, and power.

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A male school administrator delegating leadership responsibilities to me without recognition, calling me "dear", rubbing my shoulders without consent, and not respecting boundaries.

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A male school administrator delegating leadership responsibilities to me without recognition, calling me "dear", rubbing my shoulders without consent, and not respecting boundaries.

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Working in communities that make assumptions about what I can access and assume class status that is not accurate.

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Working in communities that make assumptions about what I can access and assume class status that is not accurate.

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I was born and raised in Hawai'i, on the island of Kaua'i. As an indigenous Hawaiian person, there was never a time in my life when my identity wasn't colonized. However, I spent so much of my childhood in white spaces with people who "don't see color", that I started to not see my own self. It has only been in the last decade or so, entering into educational spheres and having to do my own work in order to support students, that I have been able to begin to reckon with my own identity and how it has been complicated and suppressed by colonialism and a Euro-centric school system. There's is no way to decolonize American schools because they've never not been colonized. We must begin anew.

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Men in the work place able to behave and get away with behavior that would be unacceptable if it were a woman. 

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Men in the work place able to behave and get away with behavior that would be unacceptable if it were a woman. 

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I was not allowed to meet my partner's parents because they felt uncomfortable by our queer relationship. I felt a lot of shame and I felt stuck. Like I didn't have the tools to overcome the lifetime of homophobia.

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I am an Asian American woman who is smaller than the average American. There are people I am close to that comment on the smallness of my body almost every time I see them. I used to laugh, and now I either do not speak or try to think of something to say to get it to stop. 

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I am an Asian American woman who is smaller than the average American. There are people I am close to that comment on the smallness of my body almost every time I see them. I used to laugh, and now I either do not speak or try to think of something to say to get it to stop. 

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having to fill out my college application and FASFA alone without support

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having to fill out my college application and FASFA alone without support

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Being ridiculed for my family's home language. Lack of language access (translation/interpreting services) being the norm. 

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Being ridiculed for my family's home language. Lack of language access (translation/interpreting services) being the norm. 

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information/technology systems that prioritize a deadname 

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information/technology systems that prioritize a deadname 

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I commented on a student's hair in a way that was othering. I felt guilt and shame. I didn't have an opportunity to repair it with the student. I acknowledge my own socialization in our racist society and have compassion for myself. I attempt to do living amends through care with my words and a commitment to catch and name racism when I enact that conditioning.

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I went to a very white college and I had a teacher who never gave me the appropriate credit for my work. I once did all the work for a group project and I told her about it and she said "you all contributed the same work" She also told me that positivity is not a word, which I used for one of my papers. I am scarred from this experience and many others since childhood. It impacts me EVERYDAY in my personal and professional work.

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When I was twelve, after my Filipino parents purchased land for farming, neighbors drove by and yelled at us - "Get out of here!"

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When I was twelve, after my Filipino parents purchased land for farming, neighbors drove by and yelled at us - "Get out of here!"

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In connection to fatphobia, my school had XL as the largest size. I was not able to get free gear offered and it took months to explain. They thought this was a small thing, but this microagression made me feel like I didn't belong and I didn't fit. I was not the right size, the right body, the right color. This shirt and this school was not designed for me and people were not making a place for me.

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In connection to fatphobia, my school had XL as the largest size. I was not able to get free gear offered and it took months to explain. They thought this was a small thing, but this microagression made me feel like I didn't belong and I didn't fit. I was not the right size, the right body, the right color. This shirt and this school was not designed for me and people were not making a place for me.

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Having my decisions questioned and my hard work unseen 

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Having my decisions questioned and my hard work unseen 

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in my car at a traffic light, seeing two black elementary school girls finish crossing the street as the light turned in front of a car of a white man waiting to turn who was calling out of his open window, calling them the N word

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Growing up asian and being told that having lighter skin is "prettier" 

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Growing up asian and being told that having lighter skin is "prettier" 

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In high school, a football player in my Math class called me a homophobic slur because I had long hair.  A classmate said something in my defense, but the teacher was also the football coach.  So he insisted that the player was entitled to his opinion and that I would have to get my hair cut if I wanted to be appealing to job opportunities.  It sticks with me as an educator because of that teachers reaction. 

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In high school, a football player in my Math class called me a homophobic slur because I had long hair.  A classmate said something in my defense, but the teacher was also the football coach.  So he insisted that the player was entitled to his opinion and that I would have to get my hair cut if I wanted to be appealing to job opportunities.  It sticks with me as an educator because of that teachers reaction. 

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Hearing repeatedly, “But you don’t look sick.”

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Hearing repeatedly, “But you don’t look sick.”

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Unconsciously seeking to be part of white spaces and institutions instead of claiming my identity as a person of color.

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Correction of regional dialects with the assumption that mine is the “correct” version

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as a female teacher, working in a school where male teachers are treated with more respect based on their perceived gender. This made me feel frustrated, powerless, and angry

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as a female teacher, working in a school where male teachers are treated with more respect based on their perceived gender. This made me feel frustrated, powerless, and angry

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While listening to V's first presentation, I was visited by some powerful and painful memories from my youth -- being raised by a white, racist, bigoted family -- and how I learned from them and spoke racist insults to a classmate of color in high school. Remembering this wept, I felt shame and anger

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Being told by my male boss that as a "female leader" I was going to need to "soften up a little bit." Later told in the same institution that I was "too emotional" and "to warm" to lead.

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Being accused multiple times of "faking" ADHD or to "just get over it"

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Being told I'll understand something a student did wrong one day when I have my own children. Would that have been said to a male teacher? Doubt it.

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"sweating for the wedding" -- the idea that I have to work out and be skinny/fit to look beautiful on my wedding day.

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Spending 10 years normalizing and avoiding therapy for my sexual assault because the messages sent to me by society were that men were allowed to treat women like that.

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Growing up overseas with nannies, cooks, housekeepers, etc...and not being aware of the history, impact or privilege.

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Growing up overseas with nannies, cooks, housekeepers, etc...and not being aware of the history, impact or privilege.

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invasive comments about Asian women's bodies when accessing medical care

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invasive comments about Asian women's bodies when accessing medical care

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Sexual violence as a symptom of unequal power along the gender spectrum

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Sexual violence as a symptom of unequal power along the gender spectrum

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I was sexually abused as a child. There are many ways that I still experience/encounter this trauma. The way that I am most disturbed these days are in my projections onto my son. I am deeply afraid that he will hurt others and hate that these thoughts intrude into my relationship with my sweet baby (he is 8!).

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Made a subconscious decision about hiring a babysitter based on race. I felt my young daughter would not be able to connect as well with a women who didn’t look or sound like me. Reflecting on my decision to hire a Caucasian women over an African American women (who were both equally qualified) makes me sick to my stomach now to think about it. And… how that young women might have experiences racism (whether she knew it or not!) because of the color of her skin. I’m ashamed. But so thankful we are now in a place of recognizing these biases, even if they don’t come from a place of hate. 

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Made a subconscious decision about hiring a babysitter based on race. I felt my young daughter would not be able to connect as well with a women who didn’t look or sound like me. Reflecting on my decision to hire a Caucasian women over an African American women (who were both equally qualified) makes me sick to my stomach now to think about it. And… how that young women might have experiences racism (whether she knew it or not!) because of the color of her skin. I’m ashamed. But so thankful we are now in a place of recognizing these biases, even if they don’t come from a place of hate. 

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Being told by a parent that I'm not brown enough to be teaching about race.

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Being told by a parent that I'm not brown enough to be teaching about race.

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living with the knowledge that as indigenous women myself and those I love are seven times more likely to be murdered or go missing than non indigenous women. That 1 in 3 experience sexual violence and that that violence has infiltrated my family

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living with the knowledge that as indigenous women myself and those I love are seven times more likely to be murdered or go missing than non indigenous women. That 1 in 3 experience sexual violence and that that violence has infiltrated my family

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When starting my masters program my ex boyfriend through it was cool, but wondered why it was important since I was going to homeschool our children.

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I had a boss who would constantly massage my shoulders and call me breathing heavily in a sexual manner asking if he had reached a phone sex line and telling me he was glad I was a single parent because I could never leave my job

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I had a boss who would constantly massage my shoulders and call me breathing heavily in a sexual manner asking if he had reached a phone sex line and telling me he was glad I was a single parent because I could never leave my job

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I was born in Mexico and I was asked if I crossed the river to arrive to USA

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In college, friends of friends would visit. Once, when a male friend found out through casual conversation that I was gay, they said I was a "waste of (expletive term for penis)." I really didn't think about how nasty that comment was until recently.

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Not accepting learning differences as a part of an abelist system and perpetuating harm by highlighting teacher's voices who use direct and indirect language to say "lazy"

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Not accepting learning differences as a part of an abelist system and perpetuating harm by highlighting teacher's voices who use direct and indirect language to say "lazy"

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Was told by a parent I wasn't the kind of woman who seemed like a mother

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Was told by a parent I wasn't the kind of woman who seemed like a mother

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Being told by family that they are glad that I turned out lightskin and not dark like my father.

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Once I was told I didn't look non white. That I didn't look as a person of color. I am a latinx woman so this was quite painful.

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I was physically abused growing up. However, gender norms prevented many adults in my life from seeing my brothers violence and aggression as abuse.

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Correction of my accent/regional dialect by someone whose own dialect is considered "standard", and being judged as uneducated or lazy for speaking the way I speak

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Correction of my accent/regional dialect by someone whose own dialect is considered "standard", and being judged as uneducated or lazy for speaking the way I speak

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Being told by whites people who does and doesn’t belong in the US as a child of immigrants. Trying to reconcile that with the fact that white america occupies land that has been stolen. Trying to figure my responsibility as a white man in that landscape, who embodies that as a white American citizen, the child of white European immigrants. 

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Being told by whites people who does and doesn’t belong in the US as a child of immigrants. Trying to reconcile that with the fact that white america occupies land that has been stolen. Trying to figure my responsibility as a white man in that landscape, who embodies that as a white American citizen, the child of white European immigrants. 