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Re:Minds is a Southampton based organisation supporting families whose children/young people have Autism, ADHD or other neurodiverse needs and/or mental health needs - with or without a diagnosis. Our aim is to allow people whose children face similar issues to meet up in an informal setting to share knowledge and talk about any challenges our families are facing. We don't claim to be experts, just other families who understand what it can feel like to be on this journey.

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"Since starting alumina it's become the highlight of my week. It's such a safe, non judgemental place which has really helped me in my recovery."

Max

"If you're thinking about joining I'd say go for it, the team are lovely and everyone who does it is so welcoming and supportive"

Abi

Alumina is a free, online 7 week course for young people struggling with self-harm. Each course has up to 14 young people, all accessing the sessions from their own phones, tablets or laptops across the UK. The courses take place on different evenings of the week and are run by friendly, trained counsellors and volunteer youth workers. You don't need an adult to refer you or sign you up, and no-one will see or hear you during the sessions - you'll just join in via the chatbox. We want to help you to find your next steps towards recovery, wherever you are on your journey.

IS ALUMINA RIGHT FOR ME?

Are you...

10-17 years old?

Living in the UK?

Someone who self-harms or worries they might?

Looking for support but not wanting to do it face to face?

Wanting to move towards a life free from self-harm?

If so...

Alumina could be a helpful step forward. If you sign up we'll begin a conversation over email to work out if it might be a good fit - and you can ask us any questions you have. The only rule we have in Alumina is that we don't talk about suicide in the groups. If that's something you are struggling with thinking about we recommend getting in touch with our friends at Papyrus who are better equipped to support you.

"I thought it would be all serious and uncomfortable because of the self-harm talk but actually, the staff have made me laugh, we've been given a space that feels relevant to our ages and most importantly we can turn up in any mood and they'll be there for us." Runa

What's a session like?

"Clicking on the link for the first time was nerve wracking and intense with lots of thoughts going through my head. But within only a few minutes of the session I had a smile on my face and felt comfortable with the staff and the group."

Sasha

"Alumina was quite different to what I expected, I thought it would just be an intense 6 weeks and it would be over like other services. But it was nothing like that - instead I felt and still feel very supported by the staff. The group and staff are like a big family who's always there for me."

Samara

"Clicking that link for the very first time was terrifying. But I knew it could be life-changing. The first session I felt welcome, I no longer felt like an outsider. It's fun, believe me!! Most days I find myself looking forward to the next session because Alumina gives me a sign of hope."

Dan

Questions

We aren't a crisis service so if you're in need of immediate support please contact one of the following:

The Mix: Offering essential support for anyone aged 12-25. For their crisis messenger support service text THEMIX to 85258.
Childline: Support for anyone up to age 18. Call, chat online or email their crisis service.
Samaritans: Call 116123 anytime if you need to talk to someone.

We've changed the shape of our support for young people. This website introduces Alumina, our online support groups for young people struggling with self-harm. We've also recently launched beheadstrong.uk offering young people all kinds of information, stories and videos about looking after your mental and emotional wellbeing. You can find links to some of selfharm.co.uk's most popular articles below.

Yes we have! We have worked with 14-19 year olds for many years but we have always heard from people who are younger (or those who care about them) asking if we do anything for younger people. Then from September 2022 we reduced our age range to 11, and found how important it was to support this age range and that our Early Intervention project was great for this age range. Therefore, from October 2023 we will be aiming our work at young people in secondary school or college (or equivalent) and those transitioning to secondary school and our age range has reduced to 10-17 years old. If you're under 13 we will need to get permission from someone with parental responsibility for you, and we will email them to explain how Alumina works and make sure they are happy with you joining a group.

We aim to group similar aged young people into groups together, so 10-13-year-olds will be offered groups together and 13-17 year olds will be in other groups together. We are happy to work with anyone until the end of their full-time education, therefore we will work with 17- and 18-year-olds so long as they are three months or more away from finishing their education at the end of August.

Meet the team

Live Webinars

We have recently started to do live webinars on YouTube on issues related to self-harm and emotional wellbeing

Supporting Young People Who Self-harm

If you're a parent, professional or friend supporting a young person who's self-harming, we recommend taking an hour to watch this webinar with our Alumina Managers. They explore why people self-harm, why young people especially self-harm, why it becomes addictive, how to break the addiction cycle, and what young people wish the adults around them understood about self-harm.

"Alumina is a well thought through support service for young people; it is professional, caring and accessible to all. Signposting a young person to Alumina will help them begin their recovery journey."

DR. KATE MIDDLETON

Our Alumina advisory panel

More information about self-harm

We've moved some of our most popular articles about self-harm over to beheadstrong.uk, and you can use these links to find them:

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Free online Self-harm support for 10-17 year olds

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"Since starting alumina it's become the highlight of my week. It's such a safe, non judgemental place which has really helped me in my recovery." Max "If you're thinking about joining I'd say go for it, the team are lovely and everyone who does it is so welcoming and supportive" Abi Alumina is a free, online 7 week course for young people struggling with self-harm.

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This page looks at what self-harm is. And why you may self-harm. It could help if you are using self-harm to cope. Or you are thinking about self-harming. It explains what support you can get. And how to help yourself if you self-harm. There is also information for friends, carers and relatives.

Overview

Self-harm is harming yourself on purpose. Such as by scratching, cutting, overdosing on medication, biting or burning.

Self-harm isn't a mental illness but it is often linked to mental distress

You may self-harm because you find it difficult to cope with your moods or share how you are feeling. Everyone has their own reasons for self-harming.

Drinking a lot of alcohol or taking drugs may increase your risk of self-harm. You are more at risk of death if you self-harm because of accidental suicide.

It is more common for young people to self-harm.

Your doctor can help if you want to stop self-harming. They might refer you for specialist support.

Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can help you self-harm less and make you feel less alone.

It can be hard to know how to support someone who self-harms. Being patient and learning about why people self-harm can help.

About self-harm

What is self-harm?

Self-harm means that you harm yourself on purpose. Self-harm isn't a mental health problem but it is often linked to mental distress. It is common to self-harm in secret. You may do this because you feel as though your thoughts and feelings are not acceptable to other people.

Self-harm can be both distressing for you and your loved ones. This is because they may not be able to understand why you self-harm.

People self-harm in different ways such as the following.

* Cutting
* Burning
* Scalding with hot water
* Banging or scratching your body
* Sticking sharp objects into your body
* Eating or drinking things that are poisonous
* Not letting wounds heal
* Take too many tablets, known as an 'overdose'
* Misusing prescribed or illegal drugs or alcohol
* Over exercising
* Starving yourself

You are more likely to self-harm if you take illegal drugs or drink too much alcohol.

Who self-harms?

Self-harm is more common in young people with depression and anxiety. But is does affect adults without a mental health problem too. You are more likely to self-harm if you:

have a mental health issue such as:

a substance abuse issue,

depression,

anxiety,

borderline personality disorder, or

an eating disorder,

are female,

are a young person,

are in prison,

are an asylum seeker,

are a veteran of the armed forces,

are gay, lesbian or bisexual,

have lost a loved one through suicide, or

are a survivor of physical, emotional or sexual abuse as a child.

Why do people self-harm?

People self-harm for different reasons. You might self-harm for a number of reasons. These may change over time.

You might self-harm to:

deal with strong emotions like anger or sadness,

punish yourself for things you think you've done wrong,

* make yourself feel normal,

* make others aware of how you are feeling,

* distract yourself from feelings, or

* get relief from feelings.

You may self-harm to manage feelings

Being overwhelmed by feelings is a common reason that people self-harm. Often these will be depressive feelings such as sadness, guilt and hopelessness.

You may self-harm because you find it difficult to put your feelings into words. You may find your emotions physically uncomfortable. Or you may be aware of the emotions but you find them unmanageable or unacceptable.

Physical pain can distract you when you are in emotional pain. For a lot of people self-harm releases tension, brings relief and helps to relive pressure. Even if you don't understand why you are feeling this way.

You may self-harm to communicate

You may self-harm to try and show others how you feel. Some people may think that you are attention-seeking. This is a common misunderstanding. Most people try to hide their self-harm behaviours from family and friends.

Some people may self-harm to communicate to others how they are feeling. But this is unlikely to be the only reason behind the self-harm.

You may self-harm to have control

Self-harm can be a way of feeling in control of your body or your environment.

You may self-harm if you dissociate so that you can feel real. Dissociation means that you feel like you are detached from yourself, or from reality.

You may self-harm so that you feel 'normal.' Self-harm may be a method that you use to stay in control of your day to day life.

You may self-harm to punish yourself

You may self-harm to punish yourself for feelings or behaviours that you think are your fault. Even if you didn't do anything wrong, you may feel like you hate yourself. This is a common reason why people self-harm. You may not understand why you feel like this. You may not be able to link your feelings to something that has happened.

You may punish yourself through displaced anger. For example you may be very angry towards a person or a situation but you are unable to tell the person how you are feeling or sort the situation out.

No matter what reason you harm yourself, there is help available to overcome the feelings you have been dealing with.

Do people self-harm more than once?

People self-harm to deal with distress. You may self-harm several times a year or several times a day.

Self-harm can become a normal way of dealing with life's difficulties because of the temporary relief self-harm brings. It could be likened to being in a dentist's chair. Some people may dig their finger nail into their thumb to distract themselves from physical pain or fear. But this is a one off event. They will stop when the dentist steps away from them.

For people with an underlying emotional issue it is not so straight forward. Self-harm is only temporary relief because the underlying issue is still there.

The earlier you get help, the easier it will be to learn other ways of coping. And work towards recovery. People who have self-harmed for many years can find it difficult to stop and it takes a lot of work.

Is there a link between self-harm and suicide?

People who self-harm don't usually want to die. You may self-harm to deal with life, rather than a way of trying to end it.

But self-harm can increase your risk of suicide. You may accidentally end your life. People who self-harm should be taken seriously and offered help.

How can I tell someone I self-harm?

You might feel that you are the only one who self-harms. You might feel like people close to you won't understand.

Sharing your experiences can help with your recovery. You don't have to tell someone in person, it might be easier to write it in a letter.

Below are some things to think about when you are going to tell someone.

Who do I tell?

Decide who you want to tell first. Choose someone you feel comfortable with. Talking to someone else can help you figure out how you feel about it and if you want to tell others. This maybe someone close to you. Or you may prefer to speak with your GP or a self-harm emotional support line.

You may feel frightened to talk to certain people about self-harm. Friends and family may be able to support you to have this conversation.

What do I tell them?

Think about what you are going to say before you begin your conversation. It can help if you know what you want to say and how you want to say it. You could say it out loud once or twice to hear how it sounds.

Whoever you tell is likely to ask you questions. Think about the questions they may ask and your answers. Remember that you only have to tell them information that you are happy for them to know.

When do I say it?

Try to find the right time to tell someone. Make sure they aren't distracted with something else. Make sure you are not upset or angry. Even something as simple as being hungry or tired can make it hard to focus and deal with information. Choose a time that suits you both.

Where do I tell them?

Think about where you are going to tell them. You may want this to be a private place so that others can't overhear. Pick a place where you feel safe and are both comfortable.

Why am I telling them?

Don't assume they understand why you're telling them. Let them know. You might tell them because:

you want to share yourself,

you might feel that you have given them the wrong impression about how you feel or why you self-harm, or

you want support to stop self-harming.

What do I do if they struggle to understand?

They may struggle to understand. Even professionals may struggle to understand. But this doesn't mean that they don't care or want to help you. Be patient with them and do your best to answer their questions to help them to understand what is going on.

Getting help & treatment

If you would like professional help to manage and recover from self-harm you should make an appointment to speak to your GP. Be honest about why you self-harm. People self-harm for different reasons. This will help professionals to find the right support for you.

Don't give up if the first thing you try doesn't work. Other treatments might be better for you. You may find it difficult to ask for more help.

The National Institute for Care and Excellence (NICE) produces best practice recommendations for health care providers to follow. The NHS don't have to follow them, but there should be good reason why they choose not to. NICE recommend the following care and treatment for:

* Long term management of self-harm, and
* Hospital management of self-harm

Long-term management of self-harm

Who should help?

Mental health services will usually be responsible for your treatment and care. They may put you under the 'Care Programme Approach' (CPA).

Some people will get support from their GP instead. But a GP should think about referring you to a specialist mental health team if:

* your levels of distress are getting worse or are high all of the time,
* things that the GP has tried doesn't work for you,
* your self-harm risk is getting worse, or
* you ask for help from them.

Your GP should still monitor your physical health.

What is the Care Programme Approach (CPA)?

If you are under the care of specialist health services and have 'complex needs' you may be put under the Care Programme Approach (CPA). Someone who self-harms a lot might have complex needs. Under CPA you will have a care plan. The plan explains what support you need to manage and recover from your self-harm. Such as:

* how to stop your self-harm from getting worse,
* how to reduce or stop harm caused by your-self harm,
* how to lessen risky behaviours,
* how to improve your ability to function, and
* how to improve your quality of life.

Your care plan should also:

* identify goals that you would like to achieve in life, such as employment goals,
* identify team members and what they should be doing for you,
* include a risk management plan,
* identify short term goals linked to your-self harm, and
* be shared with your GP.

You should have a say about what is written into your care plan. Your family or carers should also be involved if you agree. Your care plan should be reviewed every year.

What is a risk management plan?

Risk management should be part of your care plan. It should look at:

* current risk,
* long term risk,
* things that increase your risk of self-harm, and
* a crisis plan.

A crisis plan gives you steps to take in a crisis such as a number to call or distraction techniques to try.

What treatment should I be offered?

Your mental health team should think about giving you 3 - 12 sessions of therapy to help you to stop self-harming. They may start by helping you to find different ways of coping with painful emotions. Your therapist should work with you to find the reasons why you self-harm. Your therapy should be tailored to your needs. You may be offered:

* cognitive behavioural therapy,
* dialectical behavioural therapy,
* psychodynamic therapy, or
* problem solving therapy.

Your therapist should be trained in the therapy that they are delivering. They should work with you to help you understand the reasons for your self-harm.

Therapy may make you feel worse to start with because you may be talking about things that are difficult for you. This doesn't mean it isn't working. But you may need extra support while you have therapy. Such as through the Care Programme Approach.

Medication should not be offered to you to reduce your self-harm. But medication may be offered to you if you have another mental health condition, such as depression.33 Doctors will think about risk of overdose when prescribing medication.

Harm Reduction

If you can't stop self-harming in the short term, you and your healthcare team should talk about harm reduction such as:

* talking about new ways that could help you, and
* talking about coping strategies that could help you.

Remember that there is no safe way to self-poison.

Ending Care

When your treatment and care is due to end professionals should:

* tell you what is likely to happen when your care ends
* tell you ahead of time so that you can get used to the change
* give you extra support if you need it,
* make sure you have a clear crisis plan in place,
* share your care plan with any other professionals who are taking over your care,
* give you a copy of your plan and what has been agreed, and
* give your family or carer a copy of the plan if you agree

What if I am not happy with my treatment?

If you are not happy with your treatment you can:

* talk to your doctor about your treatment options,
* ask for a second opinion,
* Ask a relative, friend or advocate to help you speak your doctor,
* contact Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS), or
* make a complaint.

There is more information about these options below.

Treatment options

You should first speak to your doctor about your treatment. Explain why you are not happy with it. You could ask what other treatments you could try.

Tell your doctor if there is a type of treatment that you would like to try. Doctors should listen to your preference. If you are not given this treatment ask your doctor to explain why it is not suitable for you.

Second opinion

A second opinion means that you would like a different doctor to give their opinion about what treatment you should have. You can also ask for a second opinion if you disagree with your diagnosis. You don't have a right to a second opinion. But your Doctor should listen to your reason for wanting a second opinion.

Advocacy

An advocate is independent from the mental health service. They are free to use. They can be useful if you find it difficult to get your views heard. There are different types of advocates available. Community advocates can support you to get a health professional to listen to your concerns. And help you to get the treatment that you would like. You can search online to search for a local advocacy service.

The Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS)

PALS is part of the NHS. They give information and support to patients.
You can find your local PALS through this website link:
www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/Patient-advice-and-liaison-services-(PALS)/LocationSearch/363.

What will happen if I need to go to hospital?

Emergency healthcare staff should assess you urgently if you are in hospital through self-harm. The assessment is to understand your:

* physical risk of harm
* your mental state,
* your mental capacity,
* your willingness to stay in hospital for further assessments,
* your distress level, and
* any possible mental health issues

Everyone who self-harms should:

* have treatment for serious injuries,
* have a risk assessment, and
* be offered a needs assessment.

Can I just get treatment for my injuries?

The NHS should offer you treatment for any serious injuries, even if you don't want mental health support.

What is a risk assessment?

A risk assessment should be completed with you to think about any risks. Healthcare professionals will look at different things to work out risk such as the following.

* Have you been drinking or taking illegal drugs?
* Why did you self-harm?
* Do you have a history of self-harm?
* Do you have a mental health condition?
* Do you have mental capacity?
* Do you have a plan to kill yourself?
* Are you feeling hopeless or depressed?

You may have a risk assessment and needs assessment at the same time.

What is a needs assessment?

A needs assessment is a detailed assessment of your needs. It will be completed with a mental health specialist. The assessment will outline what support you need to manage and recover from self-harm. Look at your needs assessment and say if you don't agree with anything. You won't have a needs assessment if you don't want ongoing support. The assessment will have information about:

* your risk assessment,
* a mental health assessment, and
a social needs assessment.

I don't want to be in hospital. Can I leave?

You should be able to leave if you are assessed as having mental capacity to make the decision. And you haven't self-harmed because of a severe mental illness.

A Mental Health Act assessment may be carried out if you try to leave but staff don't think that you are safe to leave.

If you meet the criteria for the Mental Health Act you can be kept in hospital, even if you don't want to be there.

What will happen after my assessments?

The NHS has different options depending on your risk.

* Discharge. You may be discharged without a follow up appointment. This decision will be based on your needs assessment and risk. The assessment should be written in your medical notes and passed to your GP and any other relevant mental health services.

* Stay in hospital. You may be kept in hospital overnight. You may be kept in hospital if you were going to go back to an unsafe place or you weren't able to be assessed. This may be because you were too distressed or drunk. An assessment of your needs should be done with you as soon as possible.

* Referral. You may be referred for further assessment and treatment. For example you may be referred to the community mental health team. This will be a joint decision between you and health care professionals.

The decision to refer you should be based on the assessment of your needs and risk.

How can I help myself?

It can be hard to stop self-harming, especially if you don't have another way of coping with your emotions at the moment. But it is possible. The first step is deciding you want to stop and you are doing this for you. You shouldn't agree to stop just because other people think that you should.

You could keep a list of reasons you want to stop and why you don't want to stop.

There are things you can do to control your self-harm if you decide to stop. Everybody is different and what works for someone else may not work for you. Try different things. Whatever you choose isn't going to work over night. Give yourself time.

Tell friends and family that you are trying to stop or reduce your self harm. Let them know if there is anything that they can do to help you.

Delay self-harm

You may self-harm straight away when you are distressed. Try to delay your self-harm. With this technique, you might not self-harm as badly or as often. This may work because self-harm can be an impulsive coping technique.

Give yourself an aim. For example, 'I am going to wait 15 minutes before I self-harm.' In this time use distraction techniques, such as making contact with someone or go somewhere different such as your garden. Over time wait for longer periods of time.

Non-harmful ways to manage how I feel

Talk to someone who understands. This could be a friend, a relative or another person who self-harms. There may be a local support group you can join or a helpline you can ring. If you feel that you have to self-harm, try the following instead:

* Write down how you are feeling and then tear it up or rip it up.
* Punch a punch bag or kick something soft.
* Scream into a pillow.
* Play a sport, exercise or go to the gym.
* Bite into a piece of ginger or a chilli.
* Squeeze an ice cube as hard as you can.
* Snap elastic bands on your wrist.

If you are feeling low or anxious you could try the following.

* Go to a friend or relative's house.
* Pamper yourself. Have a bath with bath oil.
* Do something active. Clean up or clear out your wardrobe.
* Go for a walk.
* Choose a random object and think of 30 different uses for it.

Before harming, write down the answers to these questions.

* Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?
* What has happened to make me feel like this?
* How do I feel right now?
* Have I been here before?
* What did I do to deal with it?
* How did I feel then?
* What have I done to make myself feel better before?
* What else can I do that won't hurt me?
* Do I need to hurt myself?
* How will I feel when I am hurting myself?
* How will I feel after hurting myself?
* How will I feel tomorrow morning?
* Can I avoid what has made me feel like this, or deal with it better in the future?

The NHS make free self-help guide you can use to help you. Here is the link www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/selfhelp

How can I self harm safely?

There is always risk with self-harm. But you might want to lower the physical damage you do when you self-harm. This is called harm-reduction. There are some suggestions below.

* Do not share self-harming tools with other people. There is a risk you could get a disease including hepatitis B, hepatitis C, HIV and AIDS.
* Don't self-harm on areas you have lots of scars. Scar tissue may not be as strong as your skin.
* Avoid drugs or alcohol. They can affect your judgement
* Learn first aid and keep first aid supplies nearby. Such as antiseptic wipes and bandages.
* Have an emergency plan, such as keeping a phone nearby so that you can ring an ambulance if you need to.
* Set yourself limits before you self-harm and stick to them. Such as decide how many cuts you will make and how big they will be. This is a good way of learning the skills you need to stop.
* Think of options that don't break your skin.
* Think of options instead of swallowing medication or substances.
* There is no safe way to self-poison.

How can I deal with my scars?

You may have scars from your self-harm. You may feel embarrassed or feel guilty about your scars. Accepting your scars can be an important part of recovery. This can take time.

How can I deal with questions about my scars?

If people see your scars they might ask what happened. They may not realise that you have self-harmed. There is no 'right' way to respond. You might deal with things differently depending on who asks you.
Be honest
You may want to tell people that your scars were caused by self-harm. Don't tell them more than you are happy to. Don't feel under pressure to tell anyone anything.
You could think about what you want to say if someone asks you.
Avoid the question
If you don't want to tell someone you can say:

* "it's a long story",
* "everything's OK now", or
* "I was in an accident".

If they ask you for more details you could say "I'd rather not talk about it if that's OK."

In the end it's up to you what you say. You don't have to explain or justify your scars to anyone. It isn't anything to be embarrassed or ashamed of. You could think about some responses you are happy with. Waiting until someone asks can put you on the spot. In those situations, you may not say what you wanted to.

How can I reduce my scars?

There are ways you can treat and disguise scars if you want to. Most scars will fade over time, but will never disappear. Not all of these will suit every type of scar. You can talk to your doctor about your scars and how to deal with them.

* Clothes. Long sleeved tops and trousers can hide scars.
* Corticosteroid injections. These are small injections into the scars to help reduce any swelling.
* Scar Plasters. These are silicone plasters you stick directly onto your scar. Such as hydrocolloid dressings. It can reduce swelling and redness.
* Surgery. Surgery may help. This is usually if the scar is causing issues with your movement or health.
* Dressings. Some bandages may help to reduce the swelling of scars. This is used more when there is a large area such as a burn or skin graft. It will help them become smoother and softer.
* Make-up. You can use special makeup for scars such as Varma Cover Cream or body makeup. Scar cover cream can be a bit more expensive than normal makeup. There are some online and telephone self-harm services you could ask if they have any more information.
* Laser therapy. Can be useful for light scarring, not deep scarring. You could discuss this option with a medical professional.
* Scar creams and oils. There isn't a huge amount of research into how effective creams like vitamin E, Bio oil or coconut oil are for reducing scars. But the massage effect of rubbing them in and the moisture for the skin are good at softening scars.

You should not use scar plasters, make-up, creams or oils on fresh wounds. Keep fresh injuries clean and infection free. Good first aid or care for your wound can reduce scarring.

Information for carers and friends

You may be feeling all sorts of different things if someone you know self-harms. Here are some tips on how to deal with the situation and support the person you care about.

How do I react when my relative self-harms?

Don't take it personally. Self-harm is the way the person you care for deals with their distress. People don't harm themselves to be dramatic, annoy others or to make a point. It isn't your fault, even if the person says it is. Be honest with yourself about how the self-harm makes you feel. It is ok to feel whatever you feel. You may be frightened, uncomfortable, feel provoked. Try not to react to stressful or emotional situations with anger or blame.

Should I learn about self-harm?

You may have a better understanding of what the person is going through if you educate yourself. You could contact mental health and self-harm charities for information. Or read books or join a support group.

What is my role as their carer?

Tell them you care for them if they self-harm or not. If possible make sure they have a safe place. Be as available as you can be. Set aside your personal feelings about self-harm and focus on what's going on for them. Be honest and realistic about what you can and can't do. Offer the person support if you think that you can help with something. You may think about removing sharp objects or pills from the house. This can be an option if the person feels suicidal and you need to do something in a crisis. At other times this may not be helpful as for many self-harm is a coping technique.

Using punishments or trying to make them feel guilty for self-harm is not helpful. It is likely to make them feel more alone. Accepting and understanding that someone is in pain doesn't make the pain go away. But it can make it more bearable for them to know that someone understands. Be hopeful about the possibilities of finding other ways of coping rather than self-harm. If they are willing, discuss possibilities for treatment with them. But don't push them into anything. They will decide when they feel the time is right.

Be patient. You might find it difficult if the person rejects you at first but they may need time to build trust.

What is available to support me?

Take care of yourself. You can be more supportive if you aren't tired and emotionally drained. Don't be afraid to take a break.

Get support. You can use online forums, support groups and telephone support services. Support groups for friends and family of people with mental health problems may be useful. While they may not only focus on self-harm, group members will understand how a caring role can affect you.

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Good mental health and emotional wellbeing is the foundation for young people to thrive and succeed. From dealing with exam anxiety to self harm, poor mental health and emotional wellbeing can affect many pupils. Schools can support pupils achieve and maintain good mental health and emotional wellbeing through education and awareness, offering tools and techniques, and promoting positive mental health throughout all school activities. This supports the 2019 OFSTED framework, Section 28 Personal Development: ...help them know how to keep physically and mentally healthy.

Exam stress

Exam season can be stressful for students - they may be feeling extra pressure from themselves and others, struggle with daily self-care like sleep and eating, or have more anxiety. Education staff can support students by making time to discuss exam stress in lessons or tutor time, giving them resources to take home, or signposting them to further support using assemblies and posters around the school. Here are some resources to use:

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Young Minds guide for young people on coping with Exam Stress

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National Guidance

Future in Mind report: promoting, protecting and improving our children and young people's mental health and wellbeing by the Department of Health and NHS

Public Health England's Promoting and supporting mental health and wellbeing in schools and colleges guidance by DfE

Transforming Children and Young People's Mental Health Provision: a Green Paper by the Department of Health and Social Care and the Department of Education
Building Children and Young People's Resilience in Schools by Public Health England and UCL Institute of Health Equity
Five Year Forward View for mental health, report from the NHS independent taskforce

Mental Health and behaviour in schools guidance from the Department of Education

Emotional Wellbeing and Mental Health Strategy for Children and Young People in Hampshire 2019 - 2024

Advice and Resources

Department for Education Teaching about Mental Wellbeing Guidance

ChatHealth confidential text messaging service with a school nurse to support young people aged 11-19 in Hampshire on 07507 332160. Available Monday to Friday from 9am to 4.30pm (excluding bank holidays).

Kooth is a free, anonymous online counselling and emotional wellbeing support service for young people aged 11-25 years (up to 26th birthday) in Hampshire. It offers a safe way to access support for emotional health and wellbeing needs from a team of professional qualified counsellors. Counsellors are available 12noon - 10pm on weekdays and 6pm - 10 pm at weekends, every day of the year. No referral needed.

The Little Blue Book of Sunshine is a mental health resource for children and young people in Hampshire. It aims to help by sharing tips on how to deal with problems such as anxiety, body image, relationships and anger. It includes information about national and local resources. The booklet is available on Apple Books and Google Play Books.

Hampshire Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service (Camhs)

Hampshire Educational Psychology Service

Hampshire Youth Access (HYA) provide advice, support and counselling for children and young people aged 5 - 17 across Hampshire. It is a partnership that offers one to one, group and online support to children and young people, and advice and information to anyone concerned about a child or young person's emotional wellbeing.

Schools in Mind Resources for Schools from the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families. It contains a teaching toolkit, parent booklet and advice for staff.

EIF Guidebook provides information about early intervention programmes that have been evaluated and shown to improve outcomes for children and young people

Emotional wellbeing and mental health resources by the Foundation for People with Learning Disabilities

Better Health Every Mind Matters teaching resources, topics range from self-care to worry or online stress and FOMO

Young Minds resources for schools which can be filtered by age group

NHS Every Mind Matters Mental health and self-care for young people

Samaritans DEAL (Developing Emotional Awareness and Listening) offers free resources for education professionals to help develop resilience in young people

Charlie Waller Memorial Trust resources and information for schools and parents on depression, emotional wellbeing and self-harm with downloadable leaflets. They also have a series of six online guides for students to help with the transition to university.

Body Image and Mental Health by the Mental Health Foundation

Hampshire Safeguarding Children Partnership Managing Self-Harm Toolkit

The truth about self-harm booklet to download from the Mental Health Foundation

Hampshire, Isle of Wight, Portsmouth and Southampton (HIPS) safeguarding children self-harm pathway
Prevention and Postvention Protocol for Hampshire Schools and Colleges Services to support children and young people experiencing bereavement and loss in Hampshire
Papyrus charity for the prevention of young suicide

Supporting Young Carers in Schools: A Step-by-step Guide for Leaders, Teachers and Non-teaching Staff by the Carers Trust

Staff Mental Health in Education toolkit

Information for governors and trustees on supporting mental health and wellbeing in schools

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The Zero Suicide Alliance has developed this free suicide prevention training which can be done in stages

MindEd free educational resources for adults on children and young people's mental health

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Despite the stereotype that eating disorders only occur in women, about one in three people struggling with an eating disorder is male, and subclinical eating disordered behaviors (including binge eating, purging, laxative abuse, and fasting for weight loss) are nearly as common among men as they are among women.

In the United States alone, eating disorders will affect 10 million males at some point in their lives. But due in large part to cultural bias, they are much less likely to seek treatment for their eating disorder. The good news is that once a man finds help, they show similar responses to treatment as women. Several factors lead to men and boys being under- and undiagnosed for an eating disorder. Men can face a double stigma, for having a disorder characterized as feminine or gay and for seeking psychological help. Additionally, assessment tests with language geared to women and girls have led to misconceptions about the nature of disordered eating in men.

TREATMENT CONSIDERATIONS

Treatment is not one-size-fits-all. For any person, biological and cultural factors should be taken into consideration in order to provide an effective treatment environment.

Studies suggest that risk of mortality for males with eating disorders is higher than it is for females - early intervention is critical.

A gender-sensitive approach with recognition of different needs and dynamics for males is critical in effective treatment. Men and boys in treatment can feel out of place when predominantly surrounded by women, and an all-male treatment environment is recommended-when possible.

Men and boys with anorexia nervosa usually exhibit low levels of testosterone and vitamin D, and they have a high risk of osteopenia and osteoporosis. Testosterone supplementation is often recommended.
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MEN AND BODY IMAGE

There are numerous studies on male body image, and results vary widely. Many men have misconceived notions about their weight and physique, particularly the importance of muscularity. Findings include:

Most males would like to be lean and muscular, which typically represents the "ideal" male body type. Exposure to unattainable images in the media leads to male body dissatisfaction.

The sexual objectification of men and internalization of media images predicts drive for muscularity.

The desire for increased musculature is not uncommon, and it crosses age groups. 25% of normal weight males perceive themselves to be underweight and 90% of teenage boys exercised with the goal of bulking up.

Muscle dysmorphia, a subtype of body dysmorphic disorder, is an emerging condition that primarily affects male bodybuilders. Such individuals obsess about being adequately muscular. Compulsions include spending many hours in the gym, squandering excessive amounts of money on supplements, abnormal eating patterns, or use of steroids.
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If your child has been diagnosed with an eating disorder, here's what you can do to help.

Talk to them about it

If your child becomes withdrawn, touchy or moody, it might make it difficult to talk to them. It may be even more difficult if they cannot accept they have a problem.

But talking about their condition is needed for their recovery, so keep trying.

They might come across as angry, even if they're really feeling scared or insecure.

It might be difficult for them to talk about their feelings, so be patient and listen to what they're trying to say.

It can help if you:

stay calm and prepare what you're going to say to them - do not blame or judge them, just focus on how they're feeling

avoid talking about their appearance, even if you're trying to say something nice

try to use sentences starting with "I", like, "I'm worried because you do not seem happy", rather than sentences beginning with "you"

avoid discussing people's diets or weight problems

try not to feel hurt if they do not open up straight away

do not be upset if they are being secretive, because this is part of their illness, not their relationship with you

Get advice on how to talk to your teenager

Try these mealtime tips

Mealtimes can be particularly difficult. You may find the following advice helpful:

if your child is in treatment, ask their treatment team for advice on how to cope with mealtimes

try to make meal plans with your child that you both agree to

agree with the family that none of you will talk about portion sizes, calories or anything else about the meal

avoid eating low-calorie or diet foods in front of them or having them in the house

try to keep things lighthearted and positive throughout the meal, even if you do not feel that way on the inside

if your child tries to get too involved in cooking the meal as a way of controlling it, gently ask them to set the table or wash up instead

try not to focus too much on them during mealtimes - enjoy your own meal and try to make conversation

a family activity after the meal, such as a game or watching TV, can help distract them from wanting to purge or overexercise

do not worry if a meal goes badly, and just move on

Support for your child

If your child is being treated for an eating disorder, their treatment team will play a big part in their recovery.

But do not underestimate the importance of your love and support.

It may help to:

learn as much as possible about eating disorders, so you understand what you're dealing with

keep telling them that you love them and will always be there for them

make them aware of the professional help available

suggest activities they could do that do not involve food, such as hobbies and spending time with friends

ask them what you can do to help

try to be honest about your own feelings, as this will encourage them to do the same

be a good role model by eating a balanced diet and doing a healthy amount of exercise

try to build their confidence, for example, praise them for being thoughtful or congratulate them on something they've done

Get support for yourself

Ask a GP or a health professional in your child's treatment team for advice on how to help at home.

It's important the whole family understands the situation and has support.

The following organisations offer advice online:

You can also ask your GP about support groups for parents caring for someone with an eating disorder.
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We won't stop until every child is safe online.

The COVID-19 pandemic means children are online more than ever. In the first year of the pandemic, our helpline saw a 45% increase in contacts from people worried about online sexual abuse.

"An increase in screen time has also resulted in a significant upward trend in online abuse."
Ofcom, December 2020

Together we can make sure it's safe for every child to go online. We're here to support parents with online safety advice, and we're here for children - to protect them and help them recover from abuse.
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This information provides parents, carers and guardians with advice and support relating to youth related sexual harassment and assault as part of our commitment to working in partnership to keep children and young people safe.

Recognising the importance of linking children's learning at school and among their friends into their life at home, it is recommended you speak to your son/daughter about sexual behaviour (within a similar age group) to help them understand when certain actions or comments could cause harm and could be seen as harassment/assault.

Education and awareness raising can prevent your child being involved in sexual offences as they grow up, either as an offender or as a victim.

Talking to them provides an opportunity for you to:

What is Teen Sexual Harm?
"Any behaviour of a sexual nature, between under 18s, of any gender, which causes harassment or assault to another child or group of children".
When referring to 'behaviour of a sexual nature', this can include a wide range of actions which can often be unintentional, mistaken or excused by young people as 'a bit of a joke' or 'banter', but their actions can have a huge effect on the those they target.

Typical behaviours can include but are not limited to:

As well as sexual or physical, other forms of abuse include, but not limited to:

simulating sexual acts

deliberately brushing against someone

interfering with someone's personal space and appropriate boundaries

displaying pictures, photo or videos of a sexual nature (pornography)

groping and inappropriate touching

forceful or aggressive sexual behaviour

Online sexual harassment

What are the risks to my child?

There are concerns nationally about an increase in sexualised behaviour and offences being committed among under 18s both in school and in their social life. The number of reported sexual offences by under 18s against other under 18s in England and Wales rose by 71% between 2013 and 2017, and the number of sexual offences on school premises also increased by 138% from 386 to 922 offences.

Therefore any child can be at risk of this kind of sexual harm; these can include:

Being a victim or offender

The risk to young people becoming a victim, or an offender is present in most of their social situations; from being in school or college, 'hanging out' or attending parties.

The risk of becoming an offender depends on the sexual behaviour towards their friends; having fun and being curious is a natural part of growing up, but it is important to know boundaries and the 'line' which shouldn't be crossed - being clear on when 'a bit of fun' could be degrading, offensive or upsetting for the person involved.

The risk of becoming a victim is often related to peer pressure, feeling that they 'have to go along with it' to stay part of the crowd, it's expected in a relationship or they have seen others doing the same and accept it as 'normal' and not say anything to challenge it.

Knowing what 'the line' is can be confusing and unclear for both/all young people involved, often lacking understanding or consideration about what it is harmful, inappropriate or the consequences it can have.

The situations and behaviours commonly associated to sexual offences which young people need to be aware of can include but are not limited to:

House/Prom parties/social media parties
Influence of alcohol/drugs affecting ability to consent
Peer/group pressure
Sexting/filming of act

Out socialising/parks/social clubs
In school/college/classroom
On public transport/travelling
Grabbing/groping/pinching
Sexual touching

Making inappropriate suggestions
Showing/sending sexual content
Sexual pestering - in person or online

Effects on Mental Health and Wellbeing

The impact sexual harm can have on a person's physical and mental wellbeing is huge. Victims often find themselves feeling isolated, lost, weak, scared, helpless and worthless, often leading to severe anxiety, depression, self-harm and in extreme cases suicide.

It is important that young people are aware that their behaviour can create an atmosphere that, if not challenged, can normalise inappropriate behaviours and provide an environment that may lead to sexual offending.

Teen sexual harm - if not addressed during teenage years, can be linked to adult offending such as domestic abuse, rape and other serious sexual offences.

What is the Law?

Police Investigation
In cases where teen sexual harm is reported the priority is to safeguard all young persons involved, above criminalisation, using a multi-agency response to educate and protect from further harm. Police will always seek to resolve reported cases without a formal sanction, which can impact a young person's future. However, in serious cases this may not be avoidable.

Charges and convictions
In cases where formal action is necessary, it is important young people know that being charged with an offence will result in having a criminal record which can impact their future, and this is also disclosable in a DBS vetting check, and can limit certain opportunities such as travel abroad, and working with children.

If the young person investigated is not charged, the crime will still be recorded and details will be held on police record, this is not a criminal record, however, young people need to know that enhanced levels of vetting may still disclose details of their involvement in a case to future employers or travel departments.

When should I be concerned?
It's normal for children and young people to display sexual behaviours as they grow up, but sometimes they may behave in ways inappropriate for their age and stage of development - this is referred to as 'Harmful Sexual Behaviour', which can take place at school, at home, at social events and online

In a recent report by NSPCC ("Is this sexual abuse?" NSPCC helplines report 2018), they mention contact from parents concerned about their child/another child displaying sexualised behaviour which they did not feel confident to decide was normal or harmful, and weren't sure of the best way to respond to it.

Parents will have to take a common sense approach to deciding this - is a young child just exploring or does an older child have an unhealthy attitude towards sex and relationships?

Below are some indicators and concerns which may assist you, but if you're unsure about your child's sexual behaviour, talk to the NSPCC, your child's teacher or a health professional for further advice.

In the same report, the NSPCC state that calls to their helpline were mostly about children U11 years - given younger children lack knowledge of sex and sexuality due to their age, this makes it more difficult for them and others to recognise sexual assault.

The most common behaviours reported to the NSPCC are:

using sexually explicit language inappropriate for their age

sexualised role-play/games

exposing private parts to other children

inappropriate sexual touching

simulating sexual acts

older children involving younger children to perform/watch sexual acts

creating and sharing sexually explicit images

Sexual assault, including rape.

When questioned, many children referred to another, often older, child they had spent time with, whose behaviour they said they were copying, or that the other child had encouraged them into sexual activities - not always having a clear understanding of why the actions are inappropriate.

For primary aged children, peer sexual assault was more likely to be a one-off incident taking place in school, for example being touched inappropriately by another child or seeing another child expose themselves in the changing rooms or toilets; in the playground; on school buses; and in classrooms.

Those who display harmful sexual behaviour may not recognise they're doing so, and those who experience it may realise it makes them feel unhappy or unsafe, but they aren't always clear about how to deal with it as often the person may be a friend; boyfriend or girlfriend; ex-partner; or another young person U18 not related to them.

This conflict is not helped by the confusion and misunderstanding caused by puberty as relationships and feelings change and can lead to offences and harm.

Older children report that they experience peer sexual assault at school over longer periods of time, as well as in public spaces, such as parks; at other young people's houses; at parties (alcohol); and online.

The most common complaints include:

Consent is a big issue relating to sexual assault - many young people say they are confused about consent, often worried about jeopardising their relationships if they don't agree to sex/sexual activity - some say there is an assumption that, consent is automatically given in a relationship.

Young people who have been sexually assaulted by a partner often talk about other types of abuse, such as emotional and physical abuse including behaviours which are controlling, manipulating, threatening, jealous, violent, aggressive, coercive and insulting.

It is important to ensure your child is aware of consent and what behaviour is healthy in a relationship - this can help them avoid being a victim or offender now or in their future.

What can I do as a parent?

It is crucial to discuss with children so they are aware of what is and is not acceptable behaviour - both in terms of being offender and/or victim.

We know it is not easy to discuss topics such as sexual harassment or sexual assault with your child, but there a numerous benefits of openly talking to them about this issue which include educating and empowering them to develop skills needed to make safe and responsible choices growing up. It is important that schools and colleges consider sexual harassment in broad terms. Sexual harassment (as set out earlier) creates an atmosphere that, if not challenged, can normalise inappropriate behaviours and provide an environment that may lead to sexual violence.

Talking provides an opportunity to help them understand what makes a safe and loving relationship, and to know what makes it unsafe and unhealthy. If no one helps them understand the difference, they will find it difficult to develop the skills to know if they are a victim or an offender.

Educate
When talking to your child about these issues, it is important to include information about risks, consequences, and the law (as provided in the above sections).

Reassure
It is so important your child knows you are always there to support them in life if ever they find themselves worried or pressured by anyone or any situation; this gives confidence when it's needed, to come to you at any time without fear of being judged, knowing they can confide in you and have your support in any risky or challenging situation.
For parents concerned about their child's sexualised behaviour
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/harmful-sexual-behaviour/signs-symptoms-effects/
Support Services

Hampshire PoliceTel: 101 for non-emergency assistance
If your child is in immediate danger call 999

Victim Support
Tel: 0845 30 30 900 8am - 8pm Mon-Fri; 9am - 7pm weekends; 9am - 5pm bank holidays

Share Aware: nspcc.org.uk/shareaware gives parents the skills and confidence to talk to their children about staying safe online.

: net-aware.org.uk is a guide to the social networks children use, giving parents advice about features like privacy settings, safety, and reporting problems.

The NSPCC website offers advice to parents about healthy sexual behaviour and talking about difficult topics. nspcc.org.uk/healthy-sexual-behaviour
nspcc.org.uk/talkingtips

Online and telephone support for young people on a variety of topics.

Radio One
Advice and information on a variety of topics for young people.

Services for young people

The Survivors Trust
Tel 0808 801 0818. (Mon-Thurs 10am-4pm & 6pm-8pm/Fri 10am-4pm)
The Survivors Trust (TST) is a UK-wide national umbrella agency for 130 specialist organisations for support for the impact of rape, sexual violence and childhood sexual abuse throughout the UK and Ireland.

Childline
Free confidential service for young people under 19, provided by NSPCC
Tel: 0800 11 11

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Cyberbullying can be one of the toughest types of bullying to cope with. Smartphones and other devices mean there is no escaping it and so it can continue to happen around the clock. Words and images are preserved online for others to see which can contribute to more people joining in on bullying.

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Chatting and meeting new people on the internet can be fun and appealing for children. There are lots of online apps and communities that can be educational and supportive for them, however there are opportunities online for adults to contact children.

No matter how young your child is, if they are using a device that has the internet- it is important to talk to them about people who contact them online.

We understand that you can't always be there with them, although if they are 11 and under we would always recommend that their device is used in a public space, making it all the more important that your child knows that they can come to you if someone online says or does something that makes them uncomfortable, worried or upset.

Sexualised chat and images

It is a criminal offence for an adult to send a sexual message to a child or incite them to perform sexual acts. This could include;

An adult exposing themselves on webcam

Engaging a child in chat about sexual acts and fantasies

Telling a child to watch pornographic images/videos

Telling a child to perform a sexual act or expose themselves

"Children have told us that they send out friend requests to increase their friend count, and are worried that if they have talked to people they don't know and something goes wrong or upsets them, their parent or carer will over react and take their technology away from them."

If your child is engaged in sexualised contact they might react in many different ways from excitement to distress, but they may also feel guilty. It can be helpful for your child to know who to talk to if something does go wrong, and it can help to suggest taking a break from an app for a period of time. This can help them learn from what happened, rather than banning them from the internet all together.

Why might a child engage in sexual chat or talk to adults online?

It is never a child's fault if they have been engaged in sexual chat by an adult, however it might seem difficult to understand how this could happen even if conversations about safety and not talking to strangers online have happened.

It is important not to blame your child if this does happen , but also to try and understand what sort of things could influence a child's behaviour.

Developmental stage: Children's brains are still developing so it is hard for them to distinguish between fantasy and reality. When they are online they feel invisible and more confident to engage in behaviour that they would not do in 'real life'.They need support from adults to make good decisions and use the internet safely.

Sexual exploration: It's natural for children to start exploring their sexual feelings, and talking to people online can feel exciting. Adults can exploit this natural curiosity by talking about sex and introducing new things that might be inappropriate. Direct your child to age appropriate information about sex and relationships at Childline or Brook.

Fear: Adults can pressure, intimidate and coerce children into doing things that they are not ready for. Therefore it is important that a child knows that they are not to blame and that reporting to CEOP or in the app can help protect them and others in the future.

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Reducing the Risk - Child on Parent Violence

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Child on Parent Violence (CPV) or Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse (APVA) is any behaviour used by a young person to control, dominate, or coerce their parents.  It is often threatening and intimidating and can put family safety at risk.  Whilst it is normal for adolescents to demonstrate healthy anger, conflict, and frustration during their transition from childhood to adulthood, anger should not be confused with abuse or violence.  Violence is a range of behaviours including non-physical acts aimed at achieving ongoing control over another person by instilling fear, similar to in cases of domestic abuse.

Most abused parents have difficulty admitting even to themselves that their child is abusive. They feel ashamed, disappointed and humiliated and blame themselves for the situation, which has led to this imbalance of power. There is also an element of denial where parents convince themselves that their child's behaviour is part of normal adolescent conduct.

Although specific programmes to address CPV/APVA are in their early stages, help and support for abused parents is available through local Early Intervention and/or Domestic Abuse services.

The Information Guide: Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse  is the culmination of research and practice pointers that have been developed in response to practitioners identifying the need for bespoke interventions that incorporate the specific circumstances of families where there is CPV/APVA.

It outlines the complexities of CPV/APVA, the challenges it poses and the identification that there appears to be no clear single or set of pathways into this form of familial violence. Equally, there is no one response to CPV/APVA. Research demonstrates that practitioners have adapted or moulded existing services or programmes as a way of providing interventions. It was also identified that there are some pockets or examples of specific and excellent programmes that are specifically designed to tackle CPV/APVA, but these are few and far between, and most existing programmes do not meet the needs of these families.

The launch of the Information Guide is a strong beginning and marks an acceptance and recognition of CPV/APVA together with the need to work to support families who experience it.

Further reading and resources

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Child to Parent Violence Services

Child to Parent Violence (CPV) is a pattern of physical, psychological and emotional behaviour seen in children and adolescents who cannot regulate their feelings in other ways and/or have a great need to gain control over their parent/s or carers. In families who experience CPV, violence as well as destructive behaviour by the child are more often than not the most pressing concern; it has the potential to destroy families.

CPV services we offer

CPV is a serious issue for many families, which is often misunderstood or overlooked. It can be a difficult and seemingly impossible task for parents and carers to acknowledge that this is happening in their family.

As an adoptive parent, seeking help for a child who is displaying such behaviours can be a very shaming experience which can, in turn, prevent parents from accessing the support they need.

PAC-UK offers a broad range of specialist CPV services for parents, carers and professionals. These services are approved for funding by the Adoption Support Fund.

In addition to the services listed below, PAC-UK's Child & Family Service has extensive experience in all aspects of supporting families with adopted or otherwise permanently placed children.

One Day CPV-NVR Awareness Raising Workshops

Child to Parent Violence is now recognised as a real risk factor in adoptive and other permanent placements. Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) is an approach that helps parents learn how to deal with these violent behaviours in their children. This workshop will set out the principles of NVR. It is highly recommended for all adoptive parents, special guardians and foster carers whose children are violent or destructive on a regular basis.

Participants will become familiarised with the principles of NVR and learn how to build 'new authority' in the family and re-connections with their child. Workshops open for online booking are listed below and on our Workshops for Adoptive Parents & Carers page.

CPV-NVR Parent Groups

Our CPV-NVR Parent Groups are designed to teach the NVR principles, as well as provide a space for sharing, and building connections/mutual support between parents. Skills that are taught help parents resist out-of-control and violent behaviours whilst developing a collaborative solution-focused approach to problems (for example: de-escalating conflicts, increasing parental presence, announcing their decision to make a stand, 'sit-ins' and developing support networks). Parents also learn to counter giving-in to their child's demands or responding in a reactive way which can lead to even more violence.

One of the biggest things we take away from the course, in general, was that we wished we had accessed this support earlier in our parenting roles.Becky, CPV-NVR Parent Group participant (read her guest blog via the above link)

Our CPV-NVR Parent Groups consist of 10 weekly 1.5 hour sessions which include short presentations, sharing, discussion and optional role plays. Structured homework tasks help reinforce the ideas from the sessions and help parents make an active connection to situations with their children at home.

The groups are facilitated by PAC-UK Child and Family Therapists who are experienced in working with adoptive families and hold a variety of skills including training in NVR. Parent Graduates co-facilitate the groups. Parent Graduates are adoptive parents or special guardians that have trained in NVR as well as in other relevant knowledge and skills (including therapeutic parenting techniques). Group participants tell us that the role of the Parent Graduate in the group is crucial as this ensures that the parent's voice and experience helps to shape and design the service delivery.

At the end of the group sessions, further support may be offered by means of a follow-up support group, which continues to be facilitated by a therapist and/or Parent Graduate.

In addition to this, we can also offer support to children, parents and education providers through our PAC UK Education Service.

CPV-NVR Parent Groups open for online booking can be found below and are also listed on our Workshops for Adoptive Parents & Carers page.
We run many CPV-NVR Parent Groups throughout the year, so if there are groups listed below that are fully booked and/or you are interested in attending a future group please contact us (details listed at the bottom of this page).
Individualised/Direct Support

This is intended for parents who need more intensive, one-to-one support (or who are unable to attend a CPV-NVR Parent Group). Our CPV services can be tailored to deliver bespoke, direct and individualised support in either a clinical setting or in their family home. The service is delivered by a qualified therapist or an accredited NVR practitioner.

The direct service will be based on the same principles as the group based model NVR, communication, self-care, educational support and intensive group support.

Training for professionals across health, social care, education and support services

Direct training to all staff in social care, health, education and support services is available through PAC-UK.

Our CPV service has contributed to an evaluation study undertaken by Julie Selwyn. Outcomes and evaluations of the CPV-NVR services accessed by parents/families were gathered and analysed to evidence the impact of such interventions for parents and families.

For information on relevant training and workshops please visit our Workshops for Professionals page.

For professionals wishing to seek additional support on behalf of a family or to make a referral, please email cpv@pac-uk.org to book in a call with a member of our team.

Behaviour considered to be violent if others in the family feel threatened, intimidated or controlled by it and if they believe that they must adjust their own behaviour to accommodate threats or anticipation of violence.Paterson et al. (2002) Adolescent violence towards parents: Maintaining family connections when the going gets tough

Parent feedback

There has been no advice as valuable as the ideas and delivery of this course, even if some of it feels alien - hang on in there.CPV-NVR Parent Group participant

Exceptionally good, knowledgeable and experienced course facilitators. Every adoptive family needs these people. Top marks.CPV-NVR Parent Group participant

Further information and enquiries

For more information about our CPV-NVR services please email cpv@pac-uk.org.

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Who Are We?

This site is run by Sarah-Jayne Caroline Bass (formally Caroline Hensby). We're an ADD/ADHD non-profit support group based in Thanet, Kent, England. Caroline has an adult son (Richard) with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and has also been diagnosed as having ADD; so we have some experience of dealing and living with both child and adult ADHD.

Contents in Adders.org

Full list of all articles in Adders.org.

APA Reference
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Welcome to ADDISS, The National Train your child to do what you want them to do. Easy to follow steps for disciplining without yelling, arguing or smacking. proven successful programme. Attention Deficit Disorder Information and Support Service.
We provide people-friendly information and resources about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder to anyone who needs assistance - parents, sufferers, teachers or health professionals. Whatever you're looking for in ADHD, we'll do our best to help.

This website contains just a fraction of the information that we have on ADHD. If you would like to know more, visit our Bookstore. It has a wide range of resources about all aspects of ADHD and associated conditions, with special sections for parents, children, teenagers and professionals.

If you would like to talk to someone about ADHD, telephone us on 020 8952 2800, or you can send us an e-mail if you have any questions or need more information about anything you see on this site.

ADDISS is a proud member of ADHD Europe, an organisation founded to advance the rights of, and advocate on every level throughout Europe for people affected by AD/HD and co-morbid conditions in order to help them reach their full potential.
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ADHD Awareness Month 2020 - Common Questions, Reliable Answers

Working in partnership with organisations around the globe, we've reached out to people with ADHD and their families across the globe to find the most commonly asked questions. We've taken these questions to world-leading ADHD experts, who have given us answers you can rely on! Check out these answers at adhdawarenessmonth.org. For more information, visit our 2019 project website on myths and facts at adhdisreal.org.

COVID-19 and ADHD

ADDISS is determined to continue supporting people with ADHD during these difficult times, and we appreciate the support of each and every one of our members and the ADHD community. For more information on how to access support during this crisis, pleasesee our Facebook page, where you can get in touch if you need us.

We know that this pandemic is creating new challenges for people with ADHD, so we'd like to share this guidance from the European ADHD Guidelines Group - click here to view a PDF article.

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We are pleased to announce a new and exciting way to support ADDISS that won't cost you a penny. In fact, it could even save you money on your online shopping! A NEW WAY TO SUPPORT ADDISS... THAT COULD EVEN SAVE YOU MONEY!

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Bereavement and loss of a loved one (such as a family member, friend or pet) can be devastating. People may also feel a sense of loss when an important relationship ends (such as a relationship break up or friendship break down). When someone experiences a bereavement or loss, it can be hard to understand, process, or adjust. They may experience many thoughts and feelings including, sadness, worry, anger, or confusion. If the person they have lost has been unwell, they may experience other feelings such as relief. Some people may not experience any strong feelings at all. There is no right or wrong way to feel think or behave; everyone processes grief differently. Some days they may feel more able to cope than other days.
What it might look like if someone is struggling with bereavement or loss:
Everyone processes grief differently. However, you may notice the following;

A range of emotions from sadness, anger, fear, relief or even nothing at all

Difficulties accepting the loss

A sense of guilt, regret, or responsibility

Difficulties concentrating and poor motivation; you may notice, or they may report it being harder to do school work, or home work

Preferring to be by themselves; not wanting to speak to, or spend time with other people, OR not wanting to be by themselves, and wanting to be close to people they feel comfortable with

Having worries that bad things might happen to them, or other people they love and care about

Having thoughts or urges about wanting to end their life to be with the loved one they have lost

Constant thoughts about what has happened to the loved one they have lost

Disinterest and loss of enjoyment in hobbies and interests

Difficulty sleeping (nightmares, difficulties getting to, or staying asleep, early morning wakening)

For some young people they may wet the bed at night (this is often a sign of unhappiness and stress)

Loss of appetite or comfort eating

Things that might help someone struggling with bereavement or loss:

Acknowledging and normalising that it is usual to feel a range of emotions from sadness, anger, fear, relief or even nothing at all. Some people find anniversaries and certain days (such as birthdays) harder to deal with, so thinking together about how to manage particularly tough days or dates can be helpful.

Try to keep normal routines going as much as possible.

Encourage your young person to keep doing activities they enjoy and spend time with friends and family. Let them know that it is okay to feel happy, to laugh or to have fun. This does not mean that they don't care about the person they have lost.

If they are finding it hard to talk about how they feel, they might find it easier to write down how they are feeling, rather than talk.

Create a memory box full of pictures and items which remind them of good times they had with the person they have lost

Grieving takes a lot of energy. Make sure they eat, drink and rest regularly. Physical activity and getting outside for fresh air daily can help.

There is more information on the Hampshire CAMHS website: Hampshire CAMHS

Use coping techniques and strategies (see videos below)

Simon Says Bereavement Support (Hampshire Based); Simon Says

Winston's Wish Bereavement Support; Winston's Wish

Hope Again Bereavement Support; Hope Again

Help To Make Sense Bereavement Support; Help to make sense

Grief Encounter Bereavement Support; https://www.griefencounter.org.uk/ (Helpline; 0808 802 011, weekdays 9am-9pm)

Survivors of Those Bereaved by Suicide; SOBS

Share concerns with your child's school/college and identify whether additional pastoral support is available

Seek advice, guidance and support from Young Minds Parent Helpline: 08088025544

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We know that suicide affects everyone in the family and community, regardless of their age and we all need the right support. If you are under 18, there are some excellent organisations who you can talk to and seek support from.

We are sorry but you cannot use our services if you are under 18, even if you are accompanied by someone older, as we do not have the appropriate qualifications or insurance. We strongly encourage you to get in touch with one of the organisations below.

If you are an adult caring for a young adult or child who has been bereaved by suicide, take a look at supporting children and young adults for more information.

Organisations who can help you if you are under 18:

Papyrus - the national UK charity dedicated to the prevention of young suicide. They have a confidential helpline (0800 068 41 41) or you can email them ( pat@papyrus-uk.org) or text them 07786 209697

CALM - the Campaign Against Living Miserably exists to prevent male suicide in the UK. They use young men's peers, their voices and interests to reach them and their materials and communications are created by young men. You can call or text their helpline - see their site for details depending on your location.

under 18's support - part of Cruse Bereavement Care, this site is designed by young people for young people and includes an interactive section. If you are a young person you can send a private message to one of their trained volunteers at info@rd4u.org.uk who will reply to you by email. If you want to talk to someone direct, you can call their FREE phone helpline on 0808 808 1677. Cruse also offer support to adults caring for bereaved children or young adults.

Winstons Wish - the leading childhood bereavement charity and the largest provider of services to bereaved families in the UK. They have specialist expertise in supporting children bereaved by suicide and they also have a site for young people.

Grief Encounter is a leading UK bereavement charity, offering free, professional support to bereaved children, young people and their families. Our qualified team offer face-face and online therapeutic services, including grieftalk, our national, free helpline, open weekdays, 9am - 9pm which can be reached on 0808 802 0111 or via Grief Encounter grieftalk@griefencounter.org.uk. We also offer best practice bereavement training and support to schools, professionals and organisations.

Samaritans - if you are under 18, you can still talk confidentially to the Samaritans . They won't tell you what to do, they will listen and try to understand what you're going through. Their number is 116 123 (UK) or look at their site for other ways to contact them.

Step by Step is a Samaritans service that provides practical support to help schools prepare for and recover from a suspected or attempted suicide.

Childline - Childline is a private and confidential service for children and young people up
to the age of nineteen. You can contact a Childline counsellor about anything - no problem is too big or too small. Call them free on 0800 1111, have a 1-2-1 chat online or send an email.

If U Care Share - If U Care Share Foundation are a charity promoting emotional well being in young people & supporting families affected by suicide.

Child Bereavement UK - supports families and educates professionals when a child dies or is dying or when a child is facing bereavement. Young people can contact them confidentially by phone on 0800 02 888 40 or email them.

Richmond's Hope supporting Children from the age of 4 to 18 who have suffered a bereavement. Referrals can be made by contacting 0141 230 6123. email glasgow@richmondshope.org.uk

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Thinking of suicide?

Are you, or is a young person you know, not coping with life? For confidential suicide prevention advice contact HOPELINE247.

My whole way of thinking has changed. I feel positive about my future and the people around me. I'm now looking forward to the future and helping others just like me!

Thank you so much for the incredible support PAPYRUS and HOPELINE247 has given me. You helped me in that moment and it kept me alive.

I intend to continue to fundraise for and promote PAPYRUS. I am so proud and humbled to be involved with a wonderful charity, and to have received the support that I have.

Having been personally bereaved by suicide I understand the importance and need for our charity. I am surrounded by others who are as passionate as I am about saving lives.

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Our upcoming events

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Hampshire Parent Carer Network (HPCN) offers parents and carers of children and young people aged 0-25 with any additional needs, or disability including mental Health (diagnosed or undiagnosed) the opportunity to tell the Local Authority, Health and other services, what life is really like. email participation@hpcn.org.uk or visit our page.

We Are Hiring!

We are looking for passionate and dedicated individuals to fill two exciting roles for projects we are running:

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Future in Mind (FIM) Coordinator - FIM Job Des.docx

If you are passionate about making a difference and believe you have the qualifications and experience we are looking for, we encourage you to apply.

Deadline to submit Applications : 28th June 2024

Join us in making a positive impact at HPCN. We look forward to hearing from you!

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Hampshire Parent Carer Network (HPCN) offers parents and carers of children and young people aged 0-25 with any additional needs, or disability including mental Health (diagnosed or undiagnosed) the opportunity to tell the Local Authority, Health and other services, what life is really like. email participation@hpcn.org.uk or visit our page.

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PARENTS INFORMATION LEAFLET

Information leaflet for UK parents - click here

FRIENDS AND FAMILY LEAFLET

Information leaflet for families and friends - click here

Regional Parent Support Meetings listed

Click on the thumbnails below to read more and purchase the book.

Novaturient Productions have kindly made the moving PANS and PANDAS documentary 'Stolen Childhood' publicly available at no cost and we are delighted to share it here.

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PARENTS INFORMATION LEAFLET Information leaflet for UK parents - click here FRIENDS AND FAMILY LEAFLET Information leaflet for families and friends - click here Regional Parent Support Meetings listed Click on the thumbnails below to read more and purchase the book.

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CHADD - Improving the lives of people affected by ADHD

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Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD) is the nation’s leading nonprofit organization serving people affected by ADHD.

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© 2018 - 2023 STAMMA, British Stammering Association trading as STAMMA, reg. charity no. 1089967/SC038866, reg. company no. 04297778 (England & Wales)

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In July 2020, we joined forces with The Sleep Charity as part of a strong, ambitious mission to empower the nation to sleep better.

Both organisations have worked hard individually, over the years, to achieve change and support to those affected by lack of sleep. By merging, we have strengthened our complementary services to speak with one voice, improve the impact of our work and to raise the profile of sleep as a major factor for health and wellbeing.

The majority of content has now moved over to The Sleep Charity website where you will find a comprehensive resource of sleep information. The Sleep Council website will shortly be removed. Thank you for your support.

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In July 2020, we joined forces with The Sleep Charity as part of a strong, ambitious mission to empower the nation to sleep better. Both organisations have worked hard individually, over the years, to achieve change and support to those affected by lack of sleep.

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Includes stress, anxiety, depression and eating disorders.

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Peer-reviewed publications reporting on studies of moodgym:

McDermott, R., & Dozois, D. J. A. (2019). A randomized controlled trial of Internet-delivered CBT and attention bias modification for early intervention of depression. Journal of Experimental Psychopathology, 10(2), 2043808719842502.

Dorow, M., Stein, J., et al. (2018). Implementation of the Internet-Based Self-Management Program "moodgym" in Patients with Depressive Disorders in Inpatient Clinical Settings - Patient and Expert Perspectives. Psychiatr Prax, 45(5), 256-62.

Howell, A. N., Rheingold, A. A., et al. (2018). Web-based CBT for the prevention of anxiety symptoms among medical and health science graduate students. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, 1-21.

Lobner, M., Pabst, A., et al. (2018). Computerized cognitive behavior therapy for patients with mild to moderately severe depression in primary care: A pragmatic cluster randomized controlled trial (@ktiv). J Affect Disord, 238, 317-26.

Gilbody, S., Brabyn, S., et al. (2017). Telephone-supported computerised cognitive-behavioural therapy: REEACT-2 large-scale pragmatic randomised controlled trial. The British Journal of Psychiatry, 210(5), 362-267.

Healey, B. J., Griffiths, K. M., & Bennett, K. (2017). The effect of programme testimonials on registrations for an online cognitive behaviour therapy intervention: a randomised trial. Digital Health, 3, 2055207617729937.

Lobner, M., Stein, J., et al. (2017). Innovative E-Health-Ansatze fur komorbide Depressionen bei Patienten mit Adipositas: Nutzungsakzeptanz aus Patienten- und Expertenperspektive. [Innovative E-Health Approaches for Comorbid Depression in Patients with Obesity: Patient and Expert Perspectives on User Acceptance]. Psychiatr Prax, 44(5), 286-95.

Yeung, A., Wang, F., et al. (2017). Outcomes of an online computerized cognitive behavioral treatment program for treating chinese patients with depression: A pilot study. Asian Journal of Psychiatry, 38, 102-7.

Brabyn, S., Araya, R., et al. (2016). The second Randomised Evaluation of the Effectiveness, cost-effectiveness and Acceptability of Computerised Therapy (REEACT-2) trial: does the provision of telephone support enhance the effectiveness of computer-delivered cognitive behaviour therapy? A randomised controlled trial. Health Technol Assess, 20(89), 1-64.

Twomey, C., & O'Reilly, G. (2016). Effectiveness of a freely available computerised cognitive behavioural therapy programme (MoodGYM) for depression: Meta-analysis. Australian and New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry, 51(3), 260-9.

Gilbody, S., Littlewood, E., et al. (2015). Computerised cognitive behaviour therapy (cCBT) as treatment for depression in primary care (REEACT trial): large scale pragmatic randomised controlled trial. BMJ, 351.

Guille, C., Zhao, Z., et al. (2015). Web-based cognitive behavioral therapy intervention for the prevention of suicidal ideation in medical interns: A randomized clinical trial. JAMA Psychiatry, 1-7.

Sorensen Hoifodt, R., Mittner, M., et al. (2015). Predictors of Response to Web-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy With High-Intensity Face-to-Face Therapist Guidance for Depression: A Bayesian Analysis. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 17(9), 1-22.

Kolstrup, N. (2014). The Internet as a medium for delivering treatment for depression. Possibilities and challenges highlighted by our experiences with MoodGYM. Tidsskrift for Forskning i Sygdom og Samfund, 21, 19-36.

Lillevoll, K. R., Vangberg, H. C., et al. (2014). Uptake and adherence of a self-directed internet-based mental health intervention with tailored e-mail reminders in senior high schools in Norway. BMC Psychiatry, 14, 14.

Menga, G., Ing, S. M. D., et al. (2014). Fibromyalgia: Can Online Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Help? The Ochsner Journal, 14(3), 343-9.

Phillips, R., Schneider, J., et al. (2014). Randomized controlled trial of computerized cognitive behavioural therapy for depressive symptoms: effectiveness and costs of a workplace intervention. Psychological Medicine, 44(4), 741-52.

Schneider, J., Sarrami Foroushani, P., et al. (2014). Acceptability of online self-help to people with depression: users' views of MoodGYM versus informational websites. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 16(3), e90.

Twomey, C., O'Reilly, G., et al. (2014). A randomized controlled trial of the computerized CBT programme, MoodGYM, for public mental health service users waiting for interventions. Br J Clin Psychol, 53(4), 433-50.

Wilhelmsen, M., Høifødt, R. S., et al. (2014). Norwegian General Practitioners' Perspectives on Implementation of a Guided Web-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Depression: A Qualitative Study. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 16(9), e208.

Calear, A. L., Christensen, H., et al. (2013). Adherence to the MoodGYM program: outcomes and predictors for an adolescent school-based population. J Affect Disord, 147(1-3), 338-44.

Christensen, H., Farrer, L., et al. (2013). The effect of a web-based depression intervention on suicide ideation: secondary outcome from a randomised controlled trial in a helpline. BMJ Open, 3(6).

Donker, T., Batterham, P. J., et al. (2013). Predictors and moderators of response to internet-delivered Interpersonal Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behavior Therapy for depression. J Affect Disord, 151(1), 343-51.

Donker, T., Bennett, K., et al. (2013). Internet-Delivered Interpersonal Psychotherapy Versus Internet-Delivered Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Adults With Depressive Symptoms: Randomized Controlled Noninferiority Trial. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 15(5), e82.

Hoifodt, R. S., Lillevoll, K. R., et al. (2013). The clinical effectiveness of web-based cognitive behavioral therapy with face-to-face therapist support for depressed primary care patients: randomized controlled trial. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 15(8), e153.

Lillevoll, K. R., Wilhelmsen, M., et al. (2013). Patients' experiences of helpfulness in guided internet-based treatment for depression: qualitative study of integrated therapeutic dimensions. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 15(6), e126.

Lintvedt, O. K., Griffiths, K. M., et al. (2013). Evaluating the translation process of an Internet-based self-help intervention for prevention of depression: a cost-effectiveness analysis. Journal of medical Internet research, 15(1), e18.

Lintvedt, O. K., Griffiths, K. M., et al. (2013). Evaluating the effectiveness and efficacy of unguided internet-based self-help intervention for the prevention of depression: a randomized controlled trial. Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy, 20(1), 10-27.

Powell, J., Hamborg, T., et al. (2013). Effectiveness of a web-based cognitive-behavioral tool to improve mental well-being in the general population: randomized controlled trial. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 15(1), e2.

Sethi, S. (2013). Treating Youth Depression and Anxiety: A Randomised Controlled Trial Examining the Efficacy of Computerised versus Face‐to‐face Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Australian Psychologist, 48(4), 249-57.

Wilhelmsen, M., Lillevoll, K., et al. (2013). Motivation to persist with internet-based cognitive behavioural treatment using blended care: a qualitative study. BMC Psychiatry, 13, 296.

Farrer, L., Christensen, H., et al. (2012). Web-Based Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Depression With and Without Telephone Tracking in a National Helpline: Secondary Outcomes From a Randomized Controlled Trial. Journal of medical Internet research, 14(3), e68.

Ellis, L., Campbell, A., et al. (2011). Comparative randomized trial of an online cognitive-behavioral therapy program and an online support group for depression and anxiety. Journal of Cybertherapy and Rehabilitation, 4(4), 461-7.

Farrer, L., Christensen, H., et al. (2011). Internet-Based CBT for Depression with and without Telephone Tracking in a National Helpline: Randomised Controlled Trial. PLoS One, 6(11), e28099.

Hickie, I. B., Davenport, T. A., et al. (2010). Practitioner-supported delivery of internet-based cognitive behaviour therapy: evaluation of the feasibility of conducting a cluster randomised trial. Med J Aust, 192(11 Suppl), S31-5.

Hind, D., O'Cathain, A., et al. (2010). The acceptability of computerised cognitive behavioural therapy for the treatment of depression in people with chronic physical disease: A qualitative study of people with multiple sclerosis. Psychology & Health, 25(6), 699-712.

Sethi, S., Campbell, A. J., & Ellis, L. A. (2010). The Use of Computerized Self-Help Packages to Treat Adolescent Depression and Anxiety. Journal of Technology in Human Services, 28(3), 144-60.

Topolovec-Vranic, J., Cullen, N., et al. (2010). Evaluation of an online cognitive behavioural therapy program by patients with traumatic brain injury and depression. Brain Injury, 24(5), 762-72.

Calear, A. L., Christensen, H., et al. (2009). The YouthMood Project: a cluster randomized controlled trial of an online cognitive behavioral program with adolescents. J Consult Clin Psychol, 77(6), 1021-32.

Neil, A. L., Batterham, P., et al. (2009). Predictors of adherence by adolescents to a cognitive behavior therapy website in school and community-based settings. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 11(1), e6.

O'Kearney, R., Kang, K., et al. (2009). A controlled trial of a school-based Internet program for reducing depressive symptoms in adolescent girls. Depress Anxiety, 26(1), 65-72.

Batterham, P. J., Neil, A. L., et al. (2008). Predictors of adherence among community users of a cognitive behavior therapy website. Patient Prefer Adherence, 2, 97-105.

Burgess, N., Christensen, H., et al. (2008). Mental health profile of callers to a telephone counselling service. J Telemed Telecare, 14(1), 42-7.

Mackinnon, A., Griffiths, K. M., & Christensen, H. (2008). Comparative randomised trial of online cognitive-behavioural therapy and an information website for depression: 12-month outcomes. The British Journal of Psychiatry, 192(2), 130-4.

Christensen, H., & Griffiths, K. (2007). Reaching standards for dissemination: a case study. Stud Health Technol Inform, 129(Pt 1), 459-63.

Christensen, H., Griffiths, K., et al. (2006). Free range users and one hit wonders: community users of an Internet-based cognitive behaviour therapy program. Australian and New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry, 40(1), 59-62.

Christensen, H., Griffiths, K. M., et al. (2006). Online randomized controlled trial of brief and full cognitive behaviour therapy for depression. Psychological Medicine, 36(12), 1737-46.

O'Kearney, R., Gibson, M., et al. (2006). Effects of a cognitive-behavioural internet program on depression, vulnerability to depression and stigma in adolescent males: a school-based controlled trial. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, 35(1), 43-54.

Christensen, H., Griffiths, K. M., & Jorm, A. F. (2004). Delivering interventions for depression by using the internet: randomised controlled trial. BMJ, 328(7434), 265.

Christensen, H., Griffiths, K. M., et al. (2004). A comparison of changes in anxiety and depression symptoms of spontaneous users and trial participants of a cognitive behavior therapy website. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 6(4), e46.

Griffiths, K. M., Christensen, H., et al. (2004). Effect of web-based depression literacy and cognitive-behavioural therapy interventions on stigmatising attitudes to depression: randomised controlled trial. The British Journal of Psychiatry, 185, 342-9.

Christensen, H., Griffiths, K. M., & Korten, A. (2002). Web-based cognitive behavior therapy: analysis of site usage and changes in depression and anxiety scores. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 4(1), e3.

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moodgym - Interactive skills training for depression and anxiety

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moodgym is an interactive self-help program that provides cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) training to help users prevent and cope with depression and anxiety.

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Support Groups

National Support Groups

Living with ADHD

This website has been developed to support those who come into contact with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) - parents/carers and teachers - and also provides resources for children and teenagers themselves, to help them understand and manage the condition.
www.livingwithadhd.co.uk
addup was set up to bring families together, to guide parents in the right direction to find the practical help they need for their children and to promote both public and professional awareness of ADHD.
http://www.addup.co.uk
ADD / ADHD Online Information
www.adders.org
ADDISS, The National Attention Deficit Disorder Information and Support Service
www.addiss.co.uk
ADHD VOICES

ADHD Voices brings the perspectives and experiences of children into international debates around rising child psychiatric diagnoses and the increasing use of drugs in child psychiatry. These voices contribute to an empirical evidence base that helps to inform ethical debate, clinical judgment, and national policy. VOICES is a Wellcome Trust funded research project based at the London School of Economics and Political Science.
www.adhdvoices.com
ADHD Foundation
www.adhdfoundation.org.uk
ADDNI Children's Charity - Belfast
www.addni.net Mindroom is a special needs charity for children and adults affected by learning difficulties and learning disabilities www.mindroom.org
PATOSS - The professional association of teachers of students with specific learning difficulties
www.patoss-dyslexia.org The Royal College of Psychiatrists
The Royal College of Psychiatrists has a Policy Unit which deals with issues affecting National Mental Health policy and psychiatric practice. Details can be found on the website www.rcpsych.ac.uk/policy (under Policy and Parliamentary).

The Children and Young People's Mental Health Coalition

The Children and Young People's Mental Health Coalition brings together leading charities to campaign jointly on the mental health and wellbeing of children and young people. http://www.cypmhc.org.uk/

Baldock / Hitchin / Letchworth / Royston / Stevenage

Angels Support Group - http://www.angelssupportgroup.org.uk/index.htm

Brighton

ADHD Brighton Support Group - http://adhdbrighton.org.uk/

Bristol

Adult ADHD Support Group - http://aadduk.org/help-support/support-groups/bristol-adult-adhd-support-group/

Cambridgeshire

C ambridgeshire Adult ADHD Support Group - http://addventure-within.co.uk/support/

Chichester

The Hyperactive Children's Support Group - http://www.hacsg.org.uk/page6.html

Coleraine

Phoenix ADHD Project - http://www.phoenixadhdproject.org/contact/

Essex

Chelmsford ADHD Support Group - http://www.adhd-support.org.uk/index.html

Gateshead

Gateshead ADHD Support - http://www.gatesheadadhdsupport.co.uk/whatis.html

Support group for parents of children with ADHD/ADD and Autism in Farnborough Hampshire. We run every month (1st Tuesday of every month) at the Ship Inn Pub in Farnborough. - Contact Nikki Roberts - adhdtimeout@outlook.com

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdandASDtmeout/
Harrow
Centre for ADHD and Autism Support Harrow - http://adhdandautism.org/

Contact : adhd@adhdandautism.org

Hastings

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Hertfordshire

Understanding ASD and ADHD in Hertfordshire - http://www.add-vance.org/

Lambeth ADHD Support Group: - http://turneyschool.co.uk/2018/10/14/lambeth-adhd-support-group-meetings/

Lancashire

ADHD Lancashire Support Group - http://www.adhdlancashire.co.uk/

Lincoln

Lincoln ADHD Support Group - http://lincolnadhd.org/

Liverpool

Liverpool Adult ADHD (Ladders of Life, LOL) - http://www.meetup.com/Liverpool-adult-adhd-ladders-of-life-meetup-com/

London

London adult ADHD support group - https://sites.google.com/site/joyfivolous/home

Manchester

Manchester Region Attention Deficit Disorder Group - http://www.maddchester.com/

Newcastle

KICK ADHD Support Group - http://www.netmums.com/newcastle/local/view/support-groups/special-needs-adhd/kick-adhd-support-group-keep-including-challenging-kids

Norfolk

Oxfordshire

ADHD Oxfordshire - http://www.adhdoxfordshire.co.uk/Support-Group.html

Richmond

Richmond ADHD Support Group - https://www.facebook.com/AdhdRichmond

Stockport

Stroud District Adults with ADHD - Support and Social Group (Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2123882871088294) or email stroudadhd@gmail.com for more information.

Central Scotland Adult ADHD Support - https://sites.google.com/site/scottishadhdadultsorg/Home

Dundee and Angus Support Group - www.adhddasupport.org

Glasgow Support Group - www.adhdglasgow.org

West Yorkshire

West Yorkshire ADHD Support Group - https://www.facebook.com/WestYorkshireAdhdSupportGroup

Life Coach Directory

Life Coach Directory was set up to increase the awareness of life coaching and enable visitors to find the most suitable coach. Coaching is the process of guiding a person from where they are, to where they want to be. To ensure a professional website is maintained, only life coaches who have shown proof of qualifications and insurance cover, or proof of membership with a professional body, are listed.

The directory has a page dedicated to ADHD - http://www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/articles/adhd-coaching.html

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Support Groups | The UK ADHD Partnership

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The UK ADHD Partnership supports clinicians and allied professionals to identify and meet the needs of children and young people affected by this disorder. ADHD is now recognised as a condition that may cross the lifespan and there are multi-modal interventions for ADHD that can be delivered at every age.

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On Thursday 30 November from 2:30am - 7:30am, you won't be able to contact Childline whilst we do some important maintenance to our systems. This means that 1-2-1 chats, calling and messages to Childline will be unavailable. You'll still be able to use the Childline website for advice and information.

If you're in danger or it's an emergency, you should always call 999

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Get help and advice about a wide range of issues, call us on 0800 1111, talk to a counsellor online, send Childline an email or post on the message boards.

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About BRAAIN

BRAAIN was founded by three Mums of children with special needs. When their children were diagnosed with ASC & ADHD the Mums struggled to access the information that they needed to support their children. The more they researched, the more they realised there was so much support available but it was extremely difficult to find - families were potentially missing out. So, the idea of BRAAIN was born. BRAAIN stands for Be Ready ADHD ASD Information Network.

We are a voluntary organisation based on the Surrey and Hampshire borders. We were formed to try and make life a little bit easier for parent and carers of children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Autistic Spectrum Disorder/Condition (ASD/C) by providing them with a single website to find local clubs, support groups, financial support and lots more.

Parenting a child with special needs is tough. It can be extremely isolating, stressful and exhausting. When faced with an Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) diagnosis and/or Autistic Spectrum Condition (ASC) diagnosis it’s an extremely challenging time, the whole family needs to adjust. A child with ASC/ADHD has the right to appropriate support and care to help them to flourish both emotionally and practically.

BRAAIN was formed to help parents navigate their way through an ADHD or an ASC diagnosis. To help parents find the information that they need quickly and simply to help them provide the best possible support to their child. BRAAIN will work with other services, charities and organisations to form a network of information. BRAAIN will have links to various websites, organisations and leaflets on the website providing families with a central place to find everything they need.

In addition, the organisation will also continue to run the monthly face to face support group at The Ship Inn, Ship Lane, Farnborough (Time Out Support Group) on the 1st Tuesday of every month from 8pm.

There is also the Facebook group with over 300 members which enables parents to talk within a closed group.

BRAAIN are also running various courses or workshops on different subjects to help families manage or understand the daily behaviours. For more details please contact us or visit our Facebook page

Who to contact

E-mail

enquiries@braain.co.uk

Website

www.braain.co.uk/

Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/BRAAINSurreyHants/

Twitter

https://twitter.com/braaintweets

Notes

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/braainsurreyhants/

We also run a closed Facebook group for professionals who wish to share events, information, activities etc. with us to share with our families/carers in the closed group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/BRAAINProfessionals/

Other Details

Availability

Referral Details

We run a monthly support group at The Ship Inn public house on the borders of Farnborough and Frimley. This is held on the 1st Tuesday of every month from 8pm. It's an informal chance to chat with or just listen to other parent/carers. No diagnosis is needed.

We run a monthly coffee meet up at the Mytchett Sure Start Centre. Please see the Facebook page for the dates

Local Offer

Who does your service provide for?

We provide information for families/carers and professionals who work with families/ carers of children who have ADHD and/or Autism. We will try our hardest to give support to families/carers of children with other special needs as well.

How can I start using the service?

Our website is accessible to anyone in the world but a fair bit of the information is for the Hampshire and Surrey areas (we hope to expand in the coming months to Berkshire and West Sussex).

We have a closed facebook page for parents/carer or adults with special needs who live local to the Hampshire and Surrey areas.

We also have a closed facebook group for professionals who work with families/carers of children with special needs.

How are decisions made about who can use your service?

The closed groups are for people who live in Surrey or Hampshire (we will allow the part of Berkshire which borders with Hampshire). We require people to answer questions to join both our closed groups.

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BRAAIN (Be Ready ADHD ASD Information Network) | Family Information and Services Hub

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Kooth is your online mental wellbeing community. Access free, safe and anonymous

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ADHD isn't just a childhood condition - it affects young people and adults as well. ADHD can affect all aspects of life, including home, school or workplace and relationships; that's why getting the condition diagnosed and treated is so important.

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ADHD and you | Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

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If you want to know more about ADHD, you've come to the right place. ADHD isn't just a childhood condition - it affects young people and adults as well.

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SENDIASS - Impartial Special Educational Needs and Disability Information, Advice and Support  in Hampshire

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SENDIASS - Impartial Special Educational Needs and Disability Information, Advice and Support  in Hampshire

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Grief can be overwhelming - you don’t have to deal with it alone. Cruse Bereavement Support is here. Call our helpline or chat online.

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YoungMinds | Mental Health Charity For Children And Young People

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YoungMinds are a mental health charity for children, young people and their parents, making sure all young people can get the mental health support they need.

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Provides evidenced based parenting programmes for parents and carers who have children aged 5-17 who:
1. Have a diagnosed Autistic Spectrum Condition (ASC)
2. Have a diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
3. Are experiencing mild-moderate conduct disorder
4. Have behaviour that challenges
5. Are teenagers displaying anti-social behaviour including child to parent violence

We offer the following programmes with wrap-around support:
Cygnet (for ASC) Core programme, with additional supporting siblings and puberty, sexual health and relationships modules
The Parent Factor for ADHD
Family Links The Nurture Programme
Teen Positive Parenting Programme
Talking Teens

Parents and carers can self enrol on to a parenting programme or can be referred by a health, education or early help professional.

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Hampshire Specialist Parenting Support Service

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Provides evidenced based parenting programmes for parents and carers who have children aged 5-17 who: 1. Have a diagnosed Autistic Spectrum Condition (ASC) 2. Have a diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) 3. Are experiencing mild-moderate conduct disorder 4. Have behaviour that challenges 5.

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Survive, Revive, Thrive - Do-IT Profiler

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We’re Mind, the mental health charity | Mind

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We're Mind, the mental health charity. We're here to make sure no one has to face a mental health problem alone.

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Child Autism UK helping children

Child Autism UK helps children with autism achieve their potential. We provide services to enable children to overcome difficulties with communication, learning and life skills and give families the techniques and strategies to cope with autism through the use of evidence-based strategies. Child Autism UK also provides training for families, schools and professionals working with young children.

Autism, according to the NHS Information Centre, is estimated to affect around 1% of the UK population. That's 700,000 people who live with the condition. Autism is a lifelong condition but the difficulties autistic people in life can be significantly managed through support at an early age. Skill and coping strategies learned as children have lifetime relevance and can make an enormous difference to their ability when they become autistic adults to make the most of their lives.

Is my child autistic?

Often the first contact between a family and Child Autism UK is when a family is struggling to come to terms with any distress their child may be experiencing and any behaviours they may have. Child Autism UK provides a helpline that can provide parents in this situation with valuable advice. We offer information to help them make informed decisions about their next steps.

How do we get a diagnosis for autism?

Assistance available for the families of autistic children depends on the diagnosis of the child and how the child is being affected by the condition. The diagnosis process and the Education and Healthcare (EHC) Plan process are significant hurdles. Child Autism UK provides advice and support to families facing the processes on which funding for the treatment of the condition depends. We can also provide a limited number of Bursaries to families unhappy with their final EHC Plan (subject to meeting eligibility criteria).

What support is available for autism?

There is a range of support that can be put in place to help your child overcome obstacles they are experiencing. Child Autism UK promotes early behavioural intervention based on strategies from Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA). This ensures children learn life skills and coping mechanisms that will equip them for life within education and adult life. ABA used within a properly designed programme at an early age can help transform the lives of autistic children and their families.

Child Autism UK

Child Autism UK has been providing services in the UK for over 25 years. Under our previous name 'Peach', we were instrumental in establishing ABA in the UK. We have a very dedicated team that continues to provide excellent services, and information and advice to parents. We want every autistic child to reach their potential. We really value partnerships working with families, schools, other professionals and ABA practitioners.

Child Autism UK has been involved in setting standards and ethical practises in the UK for many years and the CEO and Clinical Manager are involved through the UK Society for Behaviour Analysis. The UK-SBA sets standards and ensures ethical and values-led practise of Behaviour Analysis here in the UK. Their register of practitioners is accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA) and all Child Autism Staff are registrants.

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Support, advice and services for autistic children - Child Autism UK - releasing potential

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Peach offers early intervention for young children with autism and is the leading UK provider of EIBI / ABA (Applied Behavioural Analysis) services and support.

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Feeling stressed, anxious, low or struggling to sleep? Every Mind Matters can help with expert advice, practical tips and personalised actions to help stay on top of your mental wellbeing.

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From our digital delivery platform, Panacea, to our CBT-based app, ThinkNinja, creating innovative solutions to everyday challenges is an essential part of our work at Healios. By uniting technical skills and clinical expertise, we help children and young people to access high quality care.

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Healios is an online mental health, autism and ADHD service provider for children, young people and families.

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How autism can affect you and your family

Having an autistic child can put a lot of strain on you and your family.

You might need to spend a lot of time helping your child get the support they need. This can be very stressful and exhausting.

It may be hard to make time for the rest of your family and can affect your relationships with each other.

If you feel you need help, you can get support from lots of places.

Things that can help you and your family

Do

ask friends and family if they can help with day-to-day things or just be there to talk to

get advice from other parents of autistic children or autistic adults - find out where to get support

listen to other parents' stories - the charity healthtalk.org has stories of parents of autistic children, or you can search online for blogs, videos and books

ask your local council for a carer's assessment - you might be able to get extra support and financial benefits

think about doing a course for parents of autistic children - such as the EarlyBird course from the National Autistic Society

Don't

do not feel guilty for taking time for yourself when you can - even just going for a walk on your own can help give you a break

If you have questions about your child or family, you can call the National Autistic Society helpline on 0808 800 4104.

Talking to your child about autism

It's your choice when you want to tell your child about their autism.

Some parents do it straight away, while others wait until their child's a bit older. There's no right or wrong time.

When you tell your child, it may help to:

do it when they're feeling calm or relaxed

talk to them in a place where they feel comfortable, with no distractions

explain they do not have an illness, but they might need extra support to help them with some things

explain they might find some things harder than other people, and some things easier

bring them to a support group to meet other autistic children

The Autism Easyread guide from the National Autistic Society might help you explain autism in a way your child will understand.

Supporting your other children

Some children can find it hard if their brother or sister is autistic.

If you have other children, there are things you can do to help them.

Do

make time for them whenever you can - try to do some activities with just them

talk to them about what's going on and ask if they have any questions or worries

let them have time on their own or with their friends - for example, sleepovers at friends' houses

check the advice from Sibs, a charity for siblings of disabled children

Don't

do not be afraid to involve them in things like meetings with health professionals - it can help them understand what's going on

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Help for parents and families of autistic children

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Summer support: looking after your health and well-being

The summer holidays can be filled with fun, laughter and adventure, but it can also be a lonely and isolating time. With schools closed, it can be a difficult to know who to turn to. You might be feeling worried, anxious or alone, but there's lots of ways you can still access help and support from No Limits during the summer. To find out more, click here.

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children and young people have attended one of our therapeutic courses

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Tara's Story

17-year-old Tara (not her real name) is caring for her mum who has depression while also being primary carer for her younger brother who has hyper-sensory issues and ADHD. Often Tara takes on the primary caring role for her other younger siblings as well as managing the household. She was experiencing severe anxiety and low moods which were leading to self-harm and becoming a barrier to engaging at college and with friends.

No Limits worked with Tara, her mum and her college, to put in a full package of practical and emotional support. She is receiving support for historical trauma, is attending counselling, has joined a No Limits respite group and a therapeutic group for anxiety. She has managed to stay at college and is happier at home.

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The summer holidays can be filled with fun, laughter and adventure, but it can also be a lonely and isolating time. With schools closed, it can be a difficult to know who to turn to. You might be feeling worried, anxious or alone, but there's lots of ways you can still access help and support from No Limits during the summer.

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From Monday 26th July , we will be open for drop ins between midday and 4pm Monday to Thursday each week. We will be closed Fri, Sat & Sundays.

Drop ins mean you can come in without an appointment and get one to one support, career advice or access to free contraception (condoms) and pregnancy tests. Appointments such as counselling sessions etc. will be available outside of the 12-4pm window during the holiday. We are running a combination of online and in person sessions for counselling and career support depending on each individual situation.

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Youth in Romsey is a support centre that offers a confidential advice, support and information service for young people from the ages of 6-25 years. We offer a variety of services including; counselling, careers advice, sexual health services, youth clubs and much more.