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1. Stop ignoring red flags. PERIODT.
2. Do not need to go down obsessive research moments- you know what you know, I don't need to spend time on this (also, giving myself grace right now)
3. Realize the importance of no contact.
4. When dating again, ask the important questions (mental health, social life, control/possessive, family connections, trauma)
5. Not getting into detrimental thinking - cant give people my power, and also not projecting
6. Exploring my sexuality/sensuality in queer spaces
7. Its okay to have fun right now!
8. Active self love habits/routines and getting back to a healthy relationship with myself
9. I don't need to be healed, recovered or reformed to date again

January 2022: Update and reflection questions:What does it take for me to have more grace and compassion for myself? What does it look like?; Work on "sharing in the moment" to prevent spirals; work on pace when dating (cool, calm and collected).

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Be more rigid about my non-negotiables, stop compromising for some dick and attention-stop wasting time

If I am planning to spend time for some dick, stop being so critical and be more present (lower expectations) or don't hang anymore
Update-WOW what's wrong with me?! I don't know how I have created this goal? I am learning much more about my self worth

Always remain honest about how I'm feeling about the direction of my dating relationships both with myself and my partner early on
-i've been more rigid with boundaries and really growing in this area

Continue to pray for the partner I want to manifest
-Haven't done this but I want to

Look for someone I can build a partnership with
-added more serious questions to my profile

Know my worth, what I deserve, what I need, what I want
-going to therapy for this

Work on the areas I know I still struggle with
-managing emotions -more aware
-making assumptions -more aware
-being bratty/childish when I can just speak my mind, say what I want/need/deserve, be direct and honest
-don't demean others -working on that
-work on never saying the worst thing that can come out my mouth
-emotional co-dependency
-expecting too much from my partner/balance
-slowing down the process -yes
-being too critical/acceptance -yes
-projecting past experiences on new partners
-trust

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1. Boundary setting - know how to say no or to express when I don't have capacity and be honest about that
2. As a therapist, I talk to people all day -- somedays I JUST DON'T WANT TO TALK! Im holding people's stuff all the time, I do not have time to hold everyone's stuff all the time. Sometimes I just want to text or connect differently and I wish people would respect that more.
3. Mutual aid funds and supporting friends organizations if they are fund raising/engaging in collective funds
4. Not isolating!
5. Joining more community spaces/classes/events that folks are hosting online - its really really fun!
6.  Acts of kindness monthly
7. Active gratitude practice and prayer for my community

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Community/Activism:
Stay consistently in touch with/see my friends/family (will spend more on this on that specific note)
-Visit Grandma once a week/bi-weekly
-Visit Cousins once every other week
-Visit Nieces once every other month (start college bootcamp with them bi-weekly)
-Spend quality time with my Mom once a week (watching a movie, dinner, cooking, self-care. etc.)
-Spend quality time with my Razi
-Visit my Aunt in Bakersfield once every couple months
-Be in touch with besties regularly
-Place B-days on my calendar
-When I think of someone, shoot them a text/IG message
-Pray consistently for my loved ones
-Visit Uncle/Aunt in Calabasas Once every couple months/at least call them once a month

Stay connected in supporting marginalized communities/activism (locally based)

Create community in OC/LA/SD (peeps who are here, work with doctoral students-Parisa, Avriel, Marquis, Louie, Tim, Velveth?, Chaz?, Susha?, Mark Kabban......)

Get connected to the Persian community out here (cultural events, clubs, social justice, dance?)

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Nina's Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Health Goals 

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Nina's Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Health Goals 

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Routines to Sustain my Holistic Health:
I want to start my day with a bible verse, meditation, or prayer (prayer generally and for peeps in my life).

I want to end my day reading 10 pages of a book that's not academic.

I want to plug back into therapy---seek a therapist of color (once a month) to check-in

Seek more nature-based activities (take advantage of CA) beach, dessert, mountains, valley.

Incorporate one of my hobbies (acting or DJing) one time a week in my schedule.

Cook one meal a week/meal prep.

Work in my backyard once a week.

Clean once a week (Thursdays)-Make sure my room, living room, kitchen, all that looks clean.

Community/Activism:
Stay consistently in touch with/see my friends/family (will spend more on this on that specific note)

Stay connected in supporting marginalized communities/activism

Create community in OC/LA

Get connected to the Persian community out here

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1. Workout 3-4 times a week - even if its 30 mins a day!
2. Safe intermittent fasting
3. Morning yoga and stretching
4. Making sure I am wearing comfortable shoes/proper shoes, esp. with hiking/walking --> need to invest!
5. Taking more vitamins and holistic medicine
6. Need to schedule breast exam and physical exam, as well as go to the dentist (liver check?)

NOV 2021: Intentional walking journey! During the breaks and gaps in schedule; need to get vitamins and probiotics; follow up on breast exam, HPV process, and pap smear.

Jan. 2022: Accomplished working out, taking supplements, good shoes for support, scheduled physical exam, doing more yoga and meditation in morning' accomplished more walks during my breaks.

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1. Ongoing therapy - may need to find a new therapist, I need to engage in deeper work  and/or
2. join a support group for emotional abuse/healing from narcissistic relationships
3. Do not isolate and keep telling my story
4. Consistent journal practice (my therapy cards, guided prompts) - apart of routines/habits as well
5. Notice countertransference with clients - be open to not working with clients who trigger you
6. Perhaps working with a relationship coach or life coach (it is more active, less clinical)
7. Have nature/beach days by myself to get outdoors - safely, of course
8. Overall, work on gaining my confidence and self esteem back with all of the above

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I want to move 3 times a week.
^Update Jan 2022, moves 3-4 times a week

I put my Gym Membership on hold till feb 2022 because I didn't want to waste money
I want to get consistent and then restart membership
^Update will cancel gym membership

Eat close to 100 grams of protein a day
^Update- need to work on my diet

Drink a gallon of water a day
^Update did it for a month but now down to 3 times a week but only have done it once

Incorporate some intermittent fasting each week (maybe 1 day a week and use that day to detox generally)
^Update haven't done this

Lose 60 lbs by September of 2023 (5 pounds a month)
-Updte-hopefully it will happen..i think im on the right track

Nails/Massage once every other month.
-Update Got 3 thus far

Deep Condition/Clean My Hair/Scalp Once A Week /Bi-Weekly
-Update do this more

Stay on top of my teeth routine every day (go back to Aunt to fix my front teeth and my cavities)
-Update haven't gone back but will...need to get better

Stay on top of my face routine.

Eat my vitamins daily.

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Highlights:
I am an academic
I am a researcher
I ask critical questions
I think hard
I can synthesize people's arguments
Have started a structure with accountability partner(s)-need to sustain and put a bit more work outside of these hours more seriously

Growth:
Grammar and Sentence Structure
Writing Consistently
Reading More

Goals:
Convo with Nancy this Friday Sept 10th
Then need to email Ebony to set-up meeting and have her reach out to Nancy
Look into Grants
Begin Pub Paper End of September
Begin Field Statement End of September
See if I can interview Guidance, Admin, and Teachers by end of October-add some new data into my pub paper
Figure out my research site/org end of October
Apply for IRB November
Finish Draft of Pub Paper Jan 1st 2022
Finish Draft of Field Statement Jan 1st 2022
Complete Orals-By End of Feb 2022
Write Dissertation Proposal March 2022
Begin Collecting Data for Dissertation April 2022
End Data Collection May 2023
Write dissertation throughout 2022-2023 while I collect data
Submit dissertation by Feb 2024
Graduate May of 2024

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1. Register/pay for TDC class for law and ethics
2. Need to take a law and ethics 12 hour course - BLEH
*Take law and ethics test again in Jan/Feb?
3. Calculate current hours for months of June, July, August - (and then est. time of licensing)
4. Then, purchase TDC exam study prep for licensing test

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1) Can I get good at DJing and monetize it? Can I look to friends to help me get good and throw them a little bone?

2) Can I send some auditions in for acting and see if I can monetize this?

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Nina's Professional Goals Part 1-Grow My Business and/or Grow New Opportunities 

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Nina's Professional Goals Part 1-Grow My Business and/or Grow New Opportunities 

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1) Speaking with Steve Fund Mid-September (about curriculum development and longer term work?)-gonna see what's up with that.

2) Checking-in next week with Dr. El-Amin and Becca about longer term E&O work for this year. I'm gonna ask about a part-time role and see if we can make that happen. Or at least long-term RA work. 10 hours a week is like $1,368 a month which is low but can go towards my credit card debt.

3) Want to secure a NYC DOE contract and LA Unified Contract for longer term PD, consulting, research, or curriculum development work. I saw a solicitation for NYC but haven't looked at it deeply.

4) Need to register for SBA and Minority Women Business. I had started this process and left it.

5) Need to add passive income to my work. A business of some sort/a product? Add this to my website?

6) Need to secure a part-time contractual job.

7) Want to update my resume and my website.

8) Add org change work towards anti-oppressive practices to my work/website and offerings.

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Tiana's business and professional goals 

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Tiana's business and professional goals 

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1. Gain 2 more partnerships this month - 1 with SFW and 1 with Narrative ink. From there, one partnership/collaboration a month.
2. Gain 4 coaching clients by the end of year
3. Manifesting opportunity with Women of color healing retreat (I always get notifications that they are accepting facilitators, but my imposter syndrome and procrastination was holding me back)
4. Get licensed by summer 2022, and then work on integrating private practice within SoulFree Wellness - leave LBD  by the fall of 2022, no later than the end of 2022.
5. Increase rate for workshops to 2,500 - 3,500 for the rest of this year, and need to revisit based on brand. Bigger brands will be 3,500- 4,000; smaller orgs  can be 2,500+.
6. Advocate for "series" of workshops- like the reclaiming wellness series (3 part sessions: aim for $10,000 for entire series).
7. Start collecting testimonials and put them on website (ex. CB4A, Ingenio, UNH)
8. Create flyers to promote series (reclaiming wellness series, racial equity series) and send to networks, IG, etc. - reach out to friends and send flyers to them to help promote and spread work
9. Connect with Natanya Bravo for one on one  (next month - October) to talk about promotion/building brand)

NOVEMBER 2021 - Need to hit up a CPA/finances

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Nina's Financial Goals 2-Steady Job/Savings/Debt

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Nina's Financial Goals 2-Steady Job/Savings/Debt

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I want a consistent job that covers my bills: ~$6,000 (Mom contributes ~$2,000)
^Update Jan 2022: I have a monthly contract with TSF for $4K a mont.
Rent: $3,400
Car: $540
Insurance: $150
Phone: $155
Internet/TV: $200
Gas:
Water:
Trash:
Electricity:
Food: $400
Credit Card Bills: $600
Gas: $150

I then did additional income about $2,000 more a month to pay off my credit card debt: which is ~$20,000
^Update Jan 2022-I paid off my credit card debt :)

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1. This month, secure one more partnership this month or workshop presentation opportunity that is $2,500+
2. Start paying off this UC Davis loan thing that I have been putting off
3. Connect with first time home buying programs this month - By November deciding if I want to be in a new lease or pursue home buying process (or sooner)
4. Have $10,000 in savings by the beginning of November
5. Monthly line budget for mutual aids to BIPOC vulnerable communities
What I accomplished that Im proud of : paying off my credit cards!

January 2022 celebrations: savings goal of 20,000 was exceeded and met!

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I want to start the first-time home owner buyer program. My vision is to buy a home in Long Beach area or North Orange County by February of 2022.

One step includes the $99-8 home counseling classes. I want to complete this by January of 2022.

Simultaneously, I want to pay off my credit card debt by June 2022. If I get a steady job, then I may be able to pay this pff sooner.

I also need to save money for a downpayment. My mom and I have been working on this (but I also need to pay my debt off which is causing me a hurdle to do both). If together we can save at least $20,000, I think we should be good for now.

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Habits, Routines and Patterns goals/intentions 

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Habits, Routines and Patterns goals/intentions 

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-Tiana needs to follow up on getting study materials paid for by LBD

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P&T will work on spreading the word of series workshops  in advance to friends/networks

Both need to work on updating websites with "series"

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T & P will connect around goals of home ownership and supporting BIPOC/marginalized communities.