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Many people assume breastfeeding just comes ‘naturally’ but it’s a learning process for many mums and babies. Here are our tips on getting the hang of it…

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Useful guide to expressing, when to express, why its useful, and how to do it! Details of hand expressing and pump, and how to use Expressed breast milk.

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Expressing milk means squeezing milk out of your breast so you can store it and feed it to your baby later.

You might want to express milk if:

How to express breast milk

You can express milk by hand or with a breast pump. How often you express your milk, and how much you express, will depend on why you're doing it.

Sometimes it takes a little while for your milk to start flowing. Try to choose a time when you feel relaxed. Having your baby (or a photo of them) nearby may help your milk to flow.

You may find it easier to express if you cover your breasts with a warm towel first, or after you have a shower or bath.

Expressing breast milk by hand

Some find it easier to express milk by hand, especially in the first few days or weeks. It also means you can express without needing a pump, or an electricity supply.

Hand expressing allows you to encourage milk to flow from a particular part of the breast. This may be useful, for example, if one of the milk ducts in your breast becomes blocked.

Hold a sterilised feeding bottle or container below your breast to catch the milk as it flows.

These tips may help:

Before you start, wash your hands with soap and warm water.

Have something clean ready to collect the milk in.

Some find gently massaging their breasts before expressing helps their milk to let down.

Cup your breast with one hand then, with your other hand, form a "C" shape with your forefinger and thumb.

Squeeze gently, keeping your finger and thumb a few centimetres away from your nipple, just outside the darker area around it (areola). Do not squeeze the nipple itself as you could make it sore. This should not hurt.

Release the pressure, then repeat, building up a rhythm. Try not to slide your fingers over the skin.

Drops should start to appear, and then your milk usually starts to flow.

If no drops appear, try moving your finger and thumb slightly, but still avoid squeezing the darker area near your nipple.

When the flow slows down, move your fingers round to a different section of your breast, and repeat.

When the flow from one breast has slowed, swap to the other breast. Keep changing breasts until your milk drips very slowly or stops altogether.

Watch a video about expressing milk by hand on the UNICEF website

Expressing milk with a breast pump

There are 2 different types of breast pump: manual (hand-operated) and electric.

Manual pumps are cheaper but may not be as quick as an electric pump.

You may be able to hire an electric pump. Your midwife, health visitor or a local breastfeeding supporter can give you details of pump hire services near you.

The suction strength can be altered on some electric pumps. Build up slowly. Setting the strength to high straight away may be painful or damage your nipple.

You may also be able to get different funnel (the part that goes over your nipple) sizes to fit your nipples. The pump should never cause bruising or catch your nipple as it's sucked into the funnel.

Always make sure that the pump and container are clean and sterilised before you use them.

Find out how to sterilise baby bottles

Storing breast milk

You can store breast milk in a sterilised container or in special breast milk storage bags:

in the fridge for up to 8 days at 4C or lower (you can buy fridge thermometers online) - if you're not sure of the temperature of your fridge, or it is higher than 4C, use it within 3 days

for 2 weeks in the ice compartment of a fridge

for up to 6 months in a freezer, if it's -18C or lower

Breast milk that's been cooled in the fridge can be carried in a cool bag with ice packs for up to 24 hours.

Storing breast milk in small quantities will help avoid waste. If you're freezing it, make sure you label and date it first.

Defrosting frozen breast milk

It's best to defrost frozen breast milk slowly in the fridge before giving it to your baby. If you need to use it straight away, you can defrost it by putting it in a jug of warm water or holding it under running warm water.

Once it's defrosted, give it a gentle shake if it has separated. Use it straight away. Do not re-freeze milk that's been defrosted.

Once your baby has drunk from a bottle of breast milk it should be used within 1 hour and anything left over should be thrown away.

Warming breast milk

You can feed expressed milk straight from the fridge if your baby is happy to drink it cold. Or you can warm the milk to body temperature by putting the bottle in a jug of warm water or holding it under running warm water.

Do not use a microwave to heat up or defrost breast milk. This can cause hot spots, which can burn your baby's mouth.

Storing breast milk if your baby is in hospital

If you're expressing breast milk because your baby is premature or sick, ask the hospital staff caring for your baby for advice on how to store it.

Read more about breastfeeding a premature or sick baby

If you're having difficulty expressing breast milk

If you're finding it difficult or uncomfortable to express your breast milk:

Ask your midwife, health visitor or breastfeeding supporter for help. They can also tell you about other breastfeeding support available near you.

Search online for breastfeeding support in your area.

Call the National Breastfeeding Helpline on 0300 100 0212 (9.30am to 9.30pm daily).

The Bliss website also has advice about expressing milk for a premature or sick baby

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When it comes to breastfeeding, you might wonder what you can do to support your partner and baby. The truth is you can make a huge difference.

Did you know that a mum is more likely to choose to breastfeed if she's sure her partner is positive about it? And if she does decide to breastfeed, she's much more likely to have a good experience and manage any difficulties if her partner supports her decision (Tohotoa, 2009; Rempel, 2011). A partner's emotional support is so important for helping mums to breastfeed for longer too (Tohatoa et al, 2009; Su, 2016).

Why is breastfeeding important?

If your partner is breastfeeding your baby - or planning to - that's fantastic because breastmilk has so many benefits for babies. For instance, breastmilk can help to reduce the risk of your baby getting infections and diseases (NHS, 2017). It also contains hormones that help your baby's development (Victora et al, 2016).

Overall, breastfeeding will have a positive impact on your baby's health. What's more, it can influence their health as an adult too (Victora et al, 2016).

Is breastfeeding hard or will my partner just know what to do?

Many parents see breastfeeding as a natural process but it can take time for mum and baby to learn this new skill together. It might take around six weeks to get the hang of it fully (NHS, 2016).

The good news is that with the right support, your partner can overcome any challenges and continue breastfeeding if she wants to. If you think your partner needs more information, support or just someone to talk to, why not give one of our trained breastfeeding counsellors a call on our support line: 0300 330 0700. The line is open every day from 8am to midnight, including bank holidays.

You might find it helpful to read up about breastfeeding and attend a breastfeeding session before your baby is born. This can help you know what to expect and perhaps give you a little more confidence. It can also help you both talk about feeding your baby and raise any questions or worries you might have.

What do I need to know about breastfeeding?

You might find it helpful to know how breastfeeding works and what normal behaviour is for breastfed babies. Here are a few quick and handy facts:

Babies are happier if they're fed as soon as they show signs of being hungry.

Babies usually feed frequently (anything from eight to 12 times or more in 24 hours) in the early weeks, especially during the evenings.

Some babies are slow feeders at first, but they get quicker as they get older.

The more a baby feeds, the more milk their mum makes because it's the removal of milk that drives the production of it.

The Department of Health recommends exclusive breastfeeding for at least your baby's first six months. Breastfeeding is also beneficial for toddlers because it gives them a health boost every time they feed. So your partner can breastfeed your baby for as long as they both want to.

Nipple soreness or pain during feeding might be a sign that a baby needs some adjustment to their attachment at the breast. If there is soreness or pain when breastfeeding, talking to a healthcare professional or breastfeeding counsellor can help.

Women enjoy feeding more when they are comfortable and relaxed.

(Department of Health, 2011; La Leche League, 2016; NHS, 2016)

What can I do to help support my partner with breastfeeding?

There are lots of things you can do to support and encourage breastfeeding.

Here are 10 tips:

1. Boost your partner's confidence by encouraging her and being positive about her progress. As with learning any new skill, reassurance and praise are a massive help.

2. Listen and talk honestly about how you each feel about finding your way with your new baby.

3. Be involved with your baby in other ways so that the caring is shared (see below).

4. Help to reduce the household chores so your partner can feed your baby for as long and as often as they need.

5. Try to help your partner to relax by giving them a massage.

6. Women don't need to eat anything special while breastfeeding, but it's a good idea to encourage your partner to eat and drink regularly.

7. Help her get specialist support if she's struggling with breastfeeding. As mentioned above, you can both talk to one of our breastfeeding counsellors on 0300 330 0700.

8. Help out by bottle feeding your baby expressed milk once your partner and baby have got the hang of breastfeeding (see below).

9. Accept your partner's decision on when to stop breastfeeding.

10. Try to remember that with your support, breastfeeding can quickly become just another part of your family life.

(Rempel et al, 2010)

What practical support can I give to my baby if my partner is breastfeeding?

You might expect to feel like a bit of a spare part with feeding but it's good to remember that each parent plays a different and vital role. The decision on how you feed your baby is certainly a joint one (deMontigny et al, 2018). It might take a while to get used to the different parts you play though.

Whatever you decide to do, you might actually find feeding is less important to you than you expected anyway. Especially if you're hands-on with your baby in different and rewarding ways.

Tips for being a hands-on partner with your baby

Changing nappies and generally caring for your baby - it's great if you can spend time with your baby and interact (see below) with them while you're looking after them.

Bathing your baby - you could bath your baby or even have a bath with your baby. You'll both enjoy the bonding benefits of skin-to-skin contact and one-to-one time together (NHS, 2018).

Talking and playing - babies enjoy hearing gentle sounds. They even recognise the muffled tones of people talking from their time in the womb and they'll be aware of familiar voices like yours (Lee and Kisilevsky, 2013). So a chat with your baby might be a little one-sided but rest assured, they know it's you. Socially interacting with your baby through their senses helps to stimulate their brain development; for example, you could pull some different expressions (Boucenna et al, 2010).

Baby carrying - this means taking your baby out and about in a sling. It can be a rewarding and comforting experience for both you and your baby (Miller, 2019).

For more ideas on being a hands-on parent, see our article about bonding with and getting to know your baby.

How can I share feeding our baby?

If you're keen to feed your baby, you could give them expressed breastmilk from a spoon, syringe, cup or a bottle. But only introduce your baby to a bottle once breastfeeding is going well. For more on expressing, see our 10 bottle feeding tips for breastfed babies article.

And once your baby's moved on to solid food, there are so many ways you can get involved with that...chopping, mashing, cleaning up all the food that ends up on the floor...

I want to support breastfeeding but will it affect our sex life?

Possibly, but tiredness - and your partner's birth experience and recovery - is more likely to affect their sex drive rather than breastfeeding (Rowland et al, 2005). See our article about breastfeeding and sex for more details.

What if I feel uncomfortable about my partner breastfeeding in public?

If you're feeling uncomfortable or nervous about your partner breastfeeding in public, have a chat with her so you can talk it through. Maybe you're worried about your partner showing her breasts in public? Yet in reality, very little breast actually shows when a baby is feeding. You might have even seen a mum breastfeeding before without realising it.

It might also help to talk to other families where the mum is breastfeeding and find out about both partners' experiences of it. The chances are, you'll change your mind as you get used to seeing breastfeeding.

It's good to know that breastfeeding in public is protected by the law under the Equality Act 2010. That means providers of any services or facilities open for the public are not allowed to discriminate against women who are breastfeeding (Maternity Action, 2019).

Many places now welcome breastfeeding and have special facilities for mums if they'd prefer to feed in private.

Some mums might feel uncertain themselves about feeding in public at first and may appreciate the reassurance of having their partner with them.

At the end of the day...

Don't underestimate the huge difference you can make if your partner is breastfeeding. With you both on board, breastfeeding can quickly become an everyday part of your lives (Rempel, 2011).
This page was last reviewed in October 2017.
Further information

NCT supports all parents, however they feed their baby. If you have questions, concerns or need support, you can speak to a breastfeeding counsellor by calling our helpline on 0300 330 0700, whether you are exclusively breastfeeding or using formula milk. Breastfeeding counsellors have had extensive training, will listen without judging or criticising and will offer relevant information and suggestions. You can also find more useful articles here.

You might find attending one of our Early Days groups helpful as they give you the opportunity to explore different approaches to important parenting issues with a qualified group leader and other new parents in your area.

Make friends with other parents-to-be and new parents in your local area for support and friendship by seeing what NCT activities are happening nearby.

Visit our breastfeeding support contacts page.

NHS Choices breastfeeding information.

National Breastfeeding Line (government funded): 0300 100 021.

Health Talk has some interesting videos about different people's experiences of breastfeeding, click here to view them.

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deMontigny F, Gervais C, Larivière-Bastien D, St-Arneault K. (2018) The role of fathers during breastfeeding. Midwifery. 58:6-12. Available at: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29272696 (Accessed 1st July 2018)

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Whether it's sleep deprivation, money worries, new responsibilities, or the relationship dynamic shifting, dads also have a lot to take on board. This is a huge life change for both parents. On top of this, dads and co-parents might feel guilty about what their partner is going through, knowing they aren't the ones breastfeeding at 3am or healing from labour and birth.

Here's what you need to know about postnatal depression in partners. (Most of the research has been conducted in fathers to date, so while we often refer to dads below, we know it can apply to all types of partners.)

1. Dads and partners can experience depression in the first year after birth

The number of men who become depressed in the first year after becoming a dad is double that of the general population (Davé et al, 2010). Twenty five percent of dads experience mild depressive symptoms (Noorullah et al, 2020) and around 10% to 12% have a diagnosis of depression (Paulson et al, 2010; Philpott and Corcoran, 2018).

First time dads are appear to be more vulnerable to postnatal depression than dads welcoming subsequent children (Fatherhood Institute, 2010).

2. Postnatal depression in men and other partners often goes undiagnosed

The peak time for postnatal depression in men is three to six months after the birth (Fatherhood Institute, 2010).

As with postnatal depression in mums, it often goes undiagnosed. The symptoms can look a lot like the everyday stresses of having a newborn (Musser et al, 2013).

If you have concerns about your own or your partner's mental health, do seek help from your GP who can help you to access support services.

3. Hormonal changes may play a role

Just as with mums, changes in hormones might make postnatal depression in dads more likely (Saxbe et al, 2017).

Hormones including testosterone, oestrogen, cortisol, vasopressin, and prolactin may change in dads during the period after their babies arrive (Kim and Swain, 2007).

4. Postnatal depression in dads and partners is more likely if the mum has depression too

If one of you is experiencing emotional or mental health difficulties, it's more likely that the other is too. Of fathers with depressed partners, a quarter to half may experience depression themselves (Fatherhood Institute, 2010).

5. A range of factors can make dads and partners more likely to get postnatal depression

Dads who are under 25 are more likely to experience postnatal depression than their older counterparts (Davé et al, 2010).

Yet age isn't the only risk factor for postnatal depression in men. Other major risk factors include a history of depression and anxiety, financial pressures, and no longer being in a relationship with the child's mother (Huang and Warner, 2005; Wee et al, 2010; Nazareth, 2011).

Other factors that make postnatal depression in men more likely include: sleeping or crying issues with the baby; drug abuse or dependence; and feeling unsupported by their partners (Huang and Warner, 2005; Fatherhood Institute, 2010; Stadtlander, 2015).

However, the relationship between these factors is unclear so they might not necessarily be the direct cause of mental health difficulties.

6. Postnatal depression in dads and partners can show itself in different ways than in mums

Symptoms can include:

fear, confusion, helplessness and uncertainty about the future

withdrawal from family life, work and social situations

indecisiveness

frustration, irritability, cynicism and anger

marital conflict

partner violence

negative parenting behaviours

alcohol and drug use

physical symptoms like indigestion, changes in appetite and weight, diarrhoea, constipation, headaches, toothaches and nausea.

(Musser et al, 2013; Stadtlander, 2015)

7. Postnatal depression in dads and partners can take its toll on their relationships

Postnatal depression in dads can affect their relationship with the baby's mother (Wee et al, 2011; Demontigny et al, 2013). It can also affect the relationship they have with their child. They may play and engage less with their children and talk more negatively about and to them. They may sing and read less to their children, and may discipline them more harshly (Sethna et al, 2015).

8. Postnatal depression in dads and partners can have an impact on the development of their child

Dads' depression is associated with emotional, social and behavioural problems as well as developmental delay in their children (Fatherhood Institute, 2010).

The association is stronger when a father experiences antenatal as well as postnatal depression, and when his symptoms are particularly severe. There is also a stronger association when the mum also has mental health problems (Stadtlander, 2015).

9. Screening is available

You might associate screening with physical illness but mental health diagnoses are catching up. Men who are concerned about their mental health can use this NHS screening tool (NHS, 2020). Alternatively, if you're concerned, see your GP or call NHS 111.

10. Postnatal depression in dads and partners is treated the same as postnatal depression in mums

The treatment of paternal postnatal depression is in its early stages. Currently, the options for treatment are the same as for mothers with psychotropic medication and/or talking therapies (Nazareth, 2011; NHS, 2018).

Relationship counselling may also be useful (Musser et al, 2013).

Most, importantly share how you're feeling. You're not alone and support is available.
This page was last reviewed in February 2022.
We run Partners in Mind, a peer-to-peer support group for dads and partners in the North West. There are lots of videos and online resources to help you manage your mental health, as well as groups so you can meet and talk to other dads. Take a look at their information page here, email parentsinmindnw@nct.org.uk or follow them on Instagram @nctparentsinmindpartners and on Facebook @NCT Parents in Mind.

Our support line offers practical and emotional support in all areas of pregnancy, birth and early parenthood: 0300 330 0700. We also offer antenatal courses that are a great way for both parents to find out more about birth, labour and life with a new baby.

For information and support, visit Fathers Reaching Out run by Mark Williams, campaigner, speaker and writer.

The Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) is leading a movement against male suicide, the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK.

The Hub of Hope is a national mental health database, bringing help and support together in one place, with a focus on grassroots organisation.

ANDYSMANCLUB is a non judgmental, talking group for men.

DadsNet offers support and knowledge through a community of dads on practical parenting and fatherhood.

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Whether it's sleep deprivation, money worries, new responsibilities, or the relationship dynamic shifting, dads also have a lot to take on board. This is a huge life change for both parents. On top of this, dads and co-parents might feel guilty about what their partner is going through, knowing they aren't the ones breastfeeding at 3am or healing from labour and birth.

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When should I feed my baby?

As a rough guide, babies need to feed at least eight to 12 times (sometimes more) over 24 hours during the first few weeks (NHS, 2019a; UNICEF, 2010). That means they'll probably need to feed every two to three hours.

Watch our video for tips on how often and how long to breastfeed your baby for.

It's best to feed babies responsively or in a baby-led way rather than sticking to a feeding schedule (WHO, 2009; Entwistle, 2013; Fallon et al, 2016). Letting your baby feed when they want will help them get the milk they need. It will also stimulate your milk supply (Infant and Young Child Feeding, 2009).

What if I'm struggling or worried about the number of feeds?

We know from the experiences of new mums that breastfeeding responsively can feel emotionally and physically challenging (Fallon et al, 2016).

A baby that breastfeeds frequently can give parents a sense of reassurance but it can also cause worry. Some people may think frequent feeding is a sign of insufficient milk, or that baby isn't getting enough breastmilk during feeds. This sometimes leads to women supplementing feeds with formula milk or deciding to stop breastfeeding (Leurer, 2015).

Try and keep in mind that a newborn baby's stomach is really small. They need to feed little and often (NHS, 2020). It's really common for babies to have a good feed and then appear to be hungry again quite quickly. This doesn't mean something is wrong or that they're not getting enough milk. It's just the way newborn babies feed (Kent et al, 2012).

All of this also means that newborn feeding is frequent. In fact, much of the time, it's not really a question of clearly-defined 'feeds' with clear beginnings and endings (WHO 1998).

Your baby knows your voice, your smell and your taste but they are much less familiar with the 'world' outside your womb. Staying close to you gives them a vital sense of safety and reassurance. This builds their confidence that they are loved and cared for (Crenshaw, 2007).

If you're worried, it can really help to talk through your concerns with a breastfeeding counsellor. So call our Infant Feeding Support line on 0300 330 0700.

Will I produce enough milk?

The more you breastfeed your baby, the more milk you will produce (Daly & Hartmann, 1995). If your baby is attached properly, and you're both comfortable and feeding them when they ask for it, you will make enough milk for them (Kent et al, 2012; WHO 2019).

How do I know when to feed my baby?

When your baby is hungry they may give you little signals, known as early feeding cues (NHS, 2019a,b). They might:

* get restless

* suck their fist or fingers

* make murmuring sounds

* turn their head and open their mouth (rooting).

Looking out for and responding to these cues is important. It can help prevent your baby from becoming upset and frustrated, which will make it more difficult to feed them (WHO, 2009). Here's what you might see...

How long should each feed last?

Every baby is different and they will go through different patterns of feeding as they grow (Kent et al, 2012). How much milk a baby needs per breastfeeding session will vary. It's best to be guided by your child (Kent et al, 2012).

Some feeds will seem to last a long time, with your baby dozing for short periods before wanting more. And more. And still more! It's normal for a young baby to be on the breast many times a day and night. 12-15 'visits' to the breast is well within a normal range (Entwistle, 2013).

As a general rule, babies who are feeding well will feed for between five and 40 minutes at each feed (UNICEF, 2010). Your baby will let you know when they've had enough milk. They will usually come off the breast themselves, look sleepy or calm, and look around (UNICEF, 2010).

During each breastfeed, your milk changes slightly. So the milk at the end of the feed is more creamy and filling than the milk at the beginning of the feed (Ballard and Morrow, 2013). Offer one breast and let your baby feed until they stop drinking. If they still appear hungry, offer the second breast - allowing them to drink as much as they want (NICE, 2015).

Should I wake my baby up to feed?

In most cases, healthy, thriving newborns will wake up for feeds and, provided they are well latched on, get all the milk they need (Australian Breastfeeding Association, 2017). But there might be reasons why a newborn might be more sleepy and therefore need to be woken up for feeds.

This includes medical reasons, such as jaundice, infection or a heart problem, or perhaps because the pain relief used during birth is still affecting them (Australian Breastfeeding Association, 2017). If you're worried your baby might be sleeping too much and this is affecting their feeding, talk to your health visitor or call our Infant Feeding Support line on 0300 330 0700.
This page was last reviewed in March 2021
Further information

We support all parents, however they feed their child. If you have questions, concerns or need support, you can speak to a breastfeeding counsellor by calling our helpline on 0300 330 0700, whether you are exclusively breastfeeding or using formula milk. Breastfeeding counsellors have had extensive training, will listen without judging or criticising and will offer relevant information and suggestions. You can also find more useful articles here.

National Breastfeeding Line (government funded): 0300 100 0212.

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Engorgement means that there is an excessive build up of milk within the breast.

It is normal for the breasts to feel warm, heavy and tender when they first fill with milk around 3 days after the baby is born. However, if the breasts feel hot, painful, hard and tight this is not normal and needs to be addressed in order to prevent future problems such as mastitis and reduced milk supply. Engorgement is common in the first week after birth, but can also happen at any time if the milk is not being removed effectively from the breasts.

How can engorgement be prevented?

Engorgement is prevented by making sure that milk is removed efficiently from the breast so it is not allowed to build up excessively. This is done by:

Making sure positioning and attachment are effective - help may be needed to improve this

Feeding frequently so milk is removed

Avoiding infant formula which replaces breastfeeds and dummies which may reduce the frequency of breastfeeding

How can engorgement be treated?

It is important that engorgement is managed quickly and effectively in order to prevent complications such as a reduced milk supply, blocked ducts and mastitis. Enabling the baby to attach effectively can be difficult with an engorged breast. Gently hand expressing some milk at the start of feeds to soften the breast tissue can help to enable the baby to attach and have an effective feed. Following feeds, if the breasts remain full, further expression to soften the breast until comfortable will help avoid milk stasis which can reduce future milk production. Warmth before feeding/expressing can help milk flow more easily.

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It is normal for the breasts to feel warm, heavy and tender when they first fill with milk around 3 days after the baby is born. However, if the breasts feel hot, painful, hard and tight this is not normal and needs to be addressed in order to prevent future problems such as mastitis and reduced milk supply.

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Some evidence suggests that mums who give birth by caesarean can find it more difficult to establish breastfeeding and are more likely to stop breastfeeding earlier. But other research has found that the type of birth has very little effect on the numbers of mums still breastfeeding when their babies are six months old (Prior et al, 2012; Hobbs et al, 2016).

We discuss why a caesarean birth might make breastfeeding more difficult. And here are some helpful suggestions for breastfeeding your baby after a caesarean birth, including how some positions can make it easier.

How to get breastfeeding off to a good start after a caesarean birth

Skin-to-skin contact between mum and baby are recommended immediately after birth (NICE, 2021; UNICEF, no date). This means your baby is placed naked onto your bare chest. This helps babies adjust to the world, begin bonding and start breastfeeding.

Babies in skin-to-skin contact with their mums soon after birth are more likely to have a successful first feed and are more likely to be breastfeeding at four months (Moore et al, 2016). Mums who give birth by caesarean are more likely to stop breastfeeding earlier than those who give birth vaginally (Hobbs et al, 2016). Yet there is no difference in breastfeeding rates with different types of birth in babies who have early skin-to-skin contact (Lau et al, 2018).

Skin-to-skin contact within the first hour after a caesarean birth is more challenging, but mums who request this - and who are supported by health professionals to achieve this - are more likely to have a positive outcome (Stevens et al, 2018). Guidelines on caesarean birth recommend that women who want to breastfeed should be supported to have skin-to-skin contact with their babies as soon as possible after birth (NICE, 2021).

The many benefits for you and your baby of holding them skin-to-skin include:

(Stevens et al, 2019)

If a baby can't have skin-to-skin contact with their mum, skin-to-skin with the other parent is also beneficial (UNICEF, 2019b).

Tips: how to get the breastfeeding support you need after a caesearean

After a caesarean birth, early skin-to-skin contact should be encouraged and extra support offered (Beake et al, 2017; NICE, 2021). Extra support could include the following...

You can ask your midwife to help you to find positions that are comfortable for breastfeeding (NICE, 2021).

Your midwife or someone on the infant feeding team should support you with keeping your baby as close to you as possible. They should also support you to help your baby to have as much skin-to-skin contact and access to your breasts as possible (NICE, 2021).

They can check whether your baby is latching effectively, especially if they're drowsy from medication. They'll also help to make sure your baby feeds frequently and will continue to support you with breastfeeding your newborn.

If your baby is unable to breastfeed directly, they should show you how to express your milk. This is so that your baby can have your milk and your milk supply will be maintained (UNICEF, 2014).

Women do experience pain after a caesarean birth, which can have a negative effect on establishing breastfeeding. It is usually necessary to take pain relief. It's fine to take paracetamol and ibuprofen to help with the pain but aspirin and codeine are not recommended when breastfeeding (Karlström et al, 2007; NICE, 2021).

Babies born by caesarean absorb some of the IV fluids given to the mum during surgery, increasing the baby's weight at birth. These babies urinate more in the first 24 hours, which restores their weight to normal. That means it's more accurate for babies born by caesarean to have their birth weight recorded at 24 hours and for this to be used as a baseline to compare their progress with (UNICEF, 2019).

Do give yourself and your baby time to adjust, you've just been through an amazing but huge change in your life and your baby needs time to get used to life outside the womb. Plus, it takes time for you and your baby to recover physically from the caesarean birth and from any medications you had (NICE, 2019).

Do accept all offers of help and certainly don't be afraid to ask for it - you've just had an operation and a baby after all. Help isn't just good for you, it's good for your baby too. Research says that mums who 'look after themselves' by asking for more help are more likely to breastfeed for longer (Tully and Ball, 2014).

Breastfeeding positions

It's important to find a breastfeeding position that's comfortable for both you and your baby. This helps your baby to latch well and helps you to maintain the position for as long as your baby is feeding.

Some mums like to cover their caesarean scar to protect it, others prefer positions that keep their baby away from it. Some mums find the position of the cannula in their hand or arm from the caesarean can affect how easy it is to find a comfortable breastfeeding position. So it might be worth discussing this with midwives or breastfeeding supporters.

When your baby is breastfeeding, they should come to your breast chin first, nipple pointing up the nose, body in a straight line, nipple aimed towards the roof of their mouth and their body very close to you. Read our article How to help your baby attach and breastfeed for more information.

Here are some positions you could try...

Lying down on your side

Laid-back breastfeeding

Rugby-ball or underarm position

Why a caesarean birth might make breastfeeding more difficult

Frequent, effective removal of milk from a mum's breasts ensures she produces the amount of milk her baby needs. That's because the more milk your baby takes, the higher your levels of breastfeeding hormones (prolactin and oxytocin) will be and the more milk you'll make. We also know that the earlier breastfeeding starts, the more likely it is to continue. A caesarean birth could affect this in a variety of ways...

Pain - from the scar and from the baby not latching well at the breast because the mum finds it harder to get comfortable (Tully and Bull, 2014). This could cause her not to feed as often or for as long.

Loss of mobility - can make it harder to get into a comfortable position to feed and to pick the baby up when they want feeding (Tully and Bull, 2014).

Not going through labour - if a mum has an elective caesarean birth before labour starts, she will not have produced labour hormones. This might lead to lower levels of breastfeeding hormones in the mother and babies being less prepared for feeding (Prior et al, 2012; Zanardo et al, 2013; Hobbs et al, 2016).

Long and stressful labour - an emergency caesarean birth can leave women feeling tired and anxious for themselves and their baby. This stress can lead to lower levels of breastfeeding hormones (Hobbs et al, 2016).

Exhaustion - in both mum and baby can lead to the baby feeding less often and less effectively.

Medication - can lead to a mum feeling drowsy or unwell, which can make early breastfeeding less likely. Medication can also affect the baby, making them drowsy and less able to breastfeed effectively (Brown and Jordan, 2013; UNICEF, 2019).

Separation - if mum and baby are separated, this can mean less chances for early breastfeeds.

Less opportunities for early skin-to-skin and a delayed first breastfeed - caesarean births might mean less opportunities for skin-to-skin contact. Skin-to-skin contact and the baby having their first breastfeed as soon as possible after birth help breastfeeding to become established (Moore et al, 2016).

Effects of a caesarean on the baby - babies born by caesarean are more likely to have mucous in their lungs, which can affect how interested they are in feeding (Tully and Ball, 2014). The IV fluids during labour can also boost a baby's birth weight, which can lead to worries that they've lost too much weight and to early formula supplementation and less breastfeeding (Noel-Weiss, 2011; Chantry et al, 2014).

Loss of confidence - mums might be less likely to believe their bodies can nurture and feed their baby and that breastfeeding is going well. Well-meaning family members might also be more likely to suggest a mum gives her baby formula (this makes breastfeeding more difficult) so she can rest after her caesarean. Early formula supplementation reduces a mother's milk production and confidence in her ability to feed her baby (Tully and Ball, 2014).

Night feeds - feeding at night can be particularly difficult after a caesarean birth if family members or supporters are not available to help with picking the baby up. Some mums say they feel asking midwives for help is a sign of failure.

Take a look at our articles for more about the practicalities of recovering from a caesarean birth and for tips to help you recover more quickly.
This page was last reviewed in December 2021.
Further information

Our support line offers practical and emotional support with feeding your baby and general enquiries for parents, members and volunteers: 0300 330 0700.

You might find attending one of our Early Days groups helpful as they give you the opportunity to explore different approaches to important parenting issues with a qualified group leader and other new parents in your area.

Make friends with other parents-to-be and new parents in your local area for support and friendship by seeing what NCT activities are happening nearby.

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