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Make a list of positive “I” statements of the things you can do, your strengths and what you are good at. This will enable you to be your best self despite the set-back that you have faced.

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Get feedback after the interview from the panel, see where you could improve upon for next interviews, but being able to make note of the lessons learnt and how you can apply them

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Try Again
Don’t take loads of time out otherwise students will constantly delay it . Keep trying for new interviews

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Learn from your mistakes and use it to improve on next time

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Learn from your mistakes and use it to improve on next time

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Always ask for feedback after an interview so can pick up on where you lost points etc. From the feedback you are able to write down things you can improve on for the next time. This can then help improve your skills and interview technique.

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Yes, you put lots of time and dedication into your application and it can feel like you are an absoloute failure when an interview doesn't work out, it is truly heartbreaking. It is important to have a mindset, that a failed placement interview simply 'wasn't meant to be'. See this as an opportunity to grow as an individual, and come back even stronger in your next interview. It's all part of the process.

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Seeing is believing, and by seeing yourself in a positive light during the interview it will trick your brain into believing you will do well. See yourself walk into the room, smile and give a firm handshake. Tell yourself, “I am looking forward to my interview at … Company.”

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Prepare some sample answers for questions that you believe that you did not answer well in your first interview

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Once you have reviewed the interview, ask yourself where you might have gone wrong/ what you can do differently to fix the problem and prevent this from happening in future interviews

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Confidence is key and have faith in yourself and your own knowledge to deliver your skills and attributes

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Practice is an essential part in securing a placement. You need to research the business and practice answer competency based questions. This will allow you to be more prepared and should help calm your nerves. One positive outlook to focus on after a failed interview is that it could have been a sign that that business was not the right place for you. There are better suited opportunities out there for you and with the practice and feedback from failed interviews you will be able to get your dream placement!

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If you don’t appear confident in yourself, why should an employer feel confident in you?
The more interviews you attend, the less scary it should become. Confidence will grow as interview experience grows. As your interview skills improve, so will your confidence.
Take failures as learning opportunities, ask for feedback and make changes to your technique.

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Learn to forgive yourself

You can’t blame yourself for not succeeding in an interview, you need to move on and focus on the next step of your placement journey. In order to do this focus on the next interview and build your confidence back up again.

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Practice keeping good eye contact while listening, and equally important- while speaking
Confident people smile. Nervous people grimace or wrinkle their face up and look super serious or distracted.

Don’t be disheartened if you are not successful, what is meant for you won’t pass you.

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Accept what has happened. Many of us will think, “Why is this happening to me?” but asking a negative question leads to a negative answer, psychotherapist Rebecca Howard explains. “Acceptance is recognising that as human beings we experience emotions, such as disappointment, and it is pointless fighting them.”

INSTEAD use the negative energy or stress you are feeling as a result of your setback. Having connected with the motivation behind the stress, you can channel that energy in a positive way by asking, “What can I do right now?” and “How do I do it?”

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Student should contact the interviewer, and request (if able to) some feedback on where they weren’t wrong with the interview. Once any feedback has been received, a meeting with the employability office to discuss further the feedback would allow the student to see what they should not do and what they need to start bringing to the interview next time.

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The key thing to do after rejection is to think about what happened? did i prepare enough? did my confidence lack? did i not show the panel my personality. After your interview ask for detailed feedback, from this you can learn and grow from it.
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“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” - Robert F. Kennedy

After a setback or failure we must take time to reflect but not dwell, learn from and not regret, be inspired and not disheartened.

You are not the only one who has ever failed at something - have the courage to go again, and then again, and AGAIN.

Don't stop trying, don't be fearful, be FEARLESS.

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Practice

A failed interview may outline areas for improvement. Look at what went well and what didn’t go so well. Target these areas and set targets to improve these. Facing fears and making mistakes will improve self confidence and resilience

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See the feedback provided and the mistakes you personally know you made as an opportunity to develop a growth mindset and use this information to improve on your next interview.

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Have you ever left a job interview knowing you completely bombed it? Chances are you have-and you probably dealt with it by beating yourself up and abandoning that opportunity. But walking away from the job or employer with a negative attitude won't benefit anyone.

"Bad interviews can be very discouraging and cause feelings of inadequacy, shame, frustration, and even depression," says Dr. Katharine Brooks, director of Liberal Arts Career Services at The University of Texas at Austin and author of You Majored in What? Mapping Your Path from Chaos to Career. "We all like to think of ourselves as successful and when we have an experience that contradicts that image, it can be difficult to recover. Particularly when the interview involves a lot of pressure-the person desperately needs the job-this just makes the bad job interview worse."

Sylvie Stewart, an assistant director of career services at the University of Dayton, adds, "People tend to spend time wishing they could rewind and do it over. It is very normal to feel negative after a bad interview. As an unemployed job seeker, you are naturally very emotionally raw and vulnerable."

A 'bad interview' can mean a lot of things; the candidate believes retrospectively that he or she flopped on a majority of the questions, he or she didn't adequately prepare for the interview, the candidate is dressed inappropriately, says something offensive or arrives late, or a personal issue-like a family death or a break-up-distracts the candidate during the interview, among other things.

Brooks says if your talents are extremely valuable to the organization and they really want you, the employer might overlook small mistakes. However, if they're on the fence about you, or you aren't in the strongest position vis-à-vis the other candidates, the mistakes might not be fixable. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try.

"If the candidate believes the interview went poorly, absent any direct feedback from the employer, he or she could look for redemption," say Jay Canchola, an HR business partner for Raytheon. It's always better to make an effort to redeem yourself than to leave the interviewer with a bad taste in their mouth.

"The expression 'never burn your bridges' can apply to interviews as well," Canchola adds. "Because people and circumstances are constantly changing, and if the prospective employer is one that aligns with your individual goals, you should continue to make the best impression possible." You never know if another great opportunity at that company will present itself in the future.
In Pictures: 7 Things You Can Do After A Really Bad Job Interview
You can't rewind and redo the interview-nor can you change the employer's decision to offer you a job. But there are a few things you can do after a bad job interview to help you avoid such mistakes in the future, to mend the employers impression of you, and, if you're really lucky, to help them understand and overlook your mistakes.
1. Reflect on the experience.
"I talk to many students who believe they have bombed the interview," Brooks says. "The first thing I do is ask them what went well. It's important to discover what went well first so that you're able to look at the negative aspects with a less defeated attitude. I then ask what one thing they would change." If you have a bad feeling about the way things panned out, identify exactly what went wrong.
2. Learn from it.
Make a list of the mistakes you made during the interview, learn from them, and do better next time, Stewart says.

"The best thing to do with a bad interview is learn from it," Brooks adds. Don't wallow in self-pity or allow the bad interview to be an excuse for not following-up or not interviewing for a while. Instead, ask yourself what you would do differently to prepare next time; figure out what information you should have had that you didn't; and think about how you would handle a difficult question next time.
3. Learn to forgive yourself.
"This will help you to play better in the game in the future," Stewart says.

Nothing good ever comes from beating yourself up. It's natural to feel uneasy for a little while-but don't let the feeling linger and don't let it discourage you from reaching out to the employer to make things better. Accept your mistakes and move forward.
4. Explain what went wrong in a follow-up thank you note.
Don't make excuses, but do acknowledge your blunders. "For example, if the candidate believes their responses to questions were off target, he or she can send a well crafted follow-up letter to the interviewer admitting a misunderstanding of the questions. This might make a difference," Canchola says.

However, make sure you only draw attention to the mistakes you're absolutely certain the employer caught, or you'll bring light to an issue that the interviewer might have otherwise missed.
5. Use the thank you note to add anything you might have forgotten to mention.
"Maybe the candidate forgot to tell the employer a significant part of their work experience or education that would be relevant," Brooks says. "Or maybe they forgot to mention a connection they have in the organization. This sort of thing can be remedied with a quick thank you e-mail to the person who interviewed you." The thank you note is also a great place to remind the employer of your strong points or what went well during the interview.
6. Inform the employer of any outside distractions.
If your interview fell flat because you were distracted by a serious life event-it's okay to call or e-mail the employer afterward to explain, Canchola says. They may take this into consideration when they assess the interview.
7. Never apologize for a bad interview-but do say sorry for specific slip-ups.
Remember, you don't know what the employer is thinking, and maybe it wasn't as bad as you think, Brooks says. If you did something that requires an apology, it's a judgment call. "If you already apologized in person--say you accidentally spilled water on the interviewer--there's no point in repeating that apology." You don't want to keep reminding the interviewer of what went wrong.

However, if you realize you accidentally called the interviewer by the wrong name, for instance, but didn't realize it until later that you called her Mary instead of Marie, that might warrant an apology in your e-mail. "Mention that you were mortified after the interview when you realized that you called them by the wrong name," Brooks says. "You can use an excuse, like 'my best friend is named Mary' or you can just say, 'sorry, I'm usually much better with details than that.'"
In Pictures: 7 Things You Can Do After A Really Bad Job Interview

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Author of 6 best-selling books on job-hunting and job interview questions, business etiquette, frugalista style, advertising, and office politics. Read full profile

As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,

"Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down."

The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner's definition of "kind" to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.

5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism

Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today's computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out-not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.

Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:

1. Advocate for Other's Ideas

Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members' good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team's success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague's innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.

2. Show Compassion

If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it's not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it's someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person's work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.

3. Communicate Regularly

Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.

Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.

4. Ask for Feedback

Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.

If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn't mind receiving.

5. Give Credit Where It's Due

Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It's a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.

How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?

Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:

Work Doesn't Feel So Much Like Work

According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don't weigh as heavily.

You Can Find Good Help

It's easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating-especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another's help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.

Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork

Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.

Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.

You Pull Together as a Team

Great teamwork starts with having an "abundance mentality" rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.

Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!

Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck

Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don't overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.

Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss's boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn't expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.

Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company's "golden child." Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.

Your Job Won't Stress You Out

Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress. Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.

Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group's esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.

Your Career Shines Bright

Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?

Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.

When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, it is "who you know" not "what you know." When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you-who want to see you succeed.

At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.

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Vicky Oliver Author of 6 best-selling books on job-hunting and job interview questions, business etiquette, frugalista style, advertising, and office politics. Read full profile As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s, "Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down."