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Is Yellow Brick House effective in achieving the objectives of the feminism?

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Is Yellow Brick House effective in achieving the objectives of the feminism?

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From what I’ve seen on the organization’s website, I would say that the Yellow Brick House is very effective in serving the purpose of a social organization. When entering the website, there are statistics posted on the bottom of the page. For example, last year the organization was able to answer 2596 crisis calls, serve 5581 children and women and put in 10034 volunteer hours to make it possible (“Our Yellow Brick House”). These are just a few statistics that highlight the effort and effectivity of the organization, which are already so astonishing. The amount volunteer hours put in are especially important because it shows the amount of effort, which is a key aspect of creating change. In addition, the Yellow Brick House blog also shares a number of meaningful articles that can help educate the public. Not only is this organization made to support abused women and children economically, put also there to educate the common public on how to protect abused women and children. Through proving education this organization is able to support the feminism movement by creating well educated, independent women that will not abide by societal expectations of domesticity.

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Betty Friedan novel The Feminist Mystique 

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Betty Friedan, the writer, thinker and activist who almost single-handedly revived feminism with her 1963 book "The Feminine Mystique," died of congestive heart failure yesterday, her 85th birthday, at her home in Washington.

Her insights into what she described as the soul-draining frustrations felt by educated, stay-at-home women in the 1950s, "the problem that has no name," startled a society that expected women to be happy with marriage and children. Her book became an instant and controversial bestseller, and Friedan became the leading spokeswoman for a revitalized women's movement.

One of the most recognized names and faces of the late 20th century, Friedan pushed for equal pay, sex-neutral help-wanted ads, maternity leave, child-care centers for working parents, legal abortion and many other topics considered radical in the 1960s and 1970s.

Impatient that the federal government, in implementing the Civil Rights Act of 1964, did not appear to be taking equal pay for women seriously, she helped found in 1966 the National Organization for Women, the largest and most effective organization in the women's movement, and served as its first president. She led the 500,000-person Women's Strike for Equality in New York in 1970, on the 50th anniversary of women winning the right to vote.

She was a founder of the National Women's Political Caucus in the 1970s and of the abortion rights organization now known as NARAL-Pro Choice America. She was an organizer and director of the First Women's Bank and Trust.

"Many of us think of her as one of the mothers of the modern women's movement," said Kim Gandy, NOW president. "She played a very pivotal, very critical role in launching the second wave of the modern women's movement."

"She was a giant in the 20th century for women and most significantly was a catalyst for change in the American culture," said Eleanor Smeal, president of the Feminist Majority Foundation. "She defined the problem, and then she had the courage to do something about it."

Friedan's was a voice that was loud, insistent and sometimes divisive. She split with NOW in the 1970s after she came to believe that the organization focused too many resources on lesbian issues and that too many feminists hated men. Her 1981 book "The Second Stage" prompted some feminists to denounce her as reactionary.

Her 2000 memoir, "Life So Far," said that her husband, Carl, beat her during their marriage. He strenuously objected, and Friedan amended the declaration to say that both of them fought physically during their marriage, which ended in divorce in 1969. He died in December.

She turned to other issues, focusing on ageism, family issues and economic empowerment. "It isn't that I have stopped being a feminist, but women as a special separate interest group are not my concern anymore," she said in 1993.

Friedan's cousin, Emily Bazelon, said: "Her feminism was an aspect of her humanism, and she really cared about the economic well-being of families and of all people," Bazelon said yesterday.

Bettye Goldstein was born Feb. 4, 1921, in Peoria, Ill., the Jewish daughter of an immigrant jeweler and a mother who quit her job as an editor of the local newspaper's women's pages to become a homemaker. She skipped second grade and was a high school valedictorian, then moved 1,000 miles east to attend Smith College. She edited the college newspaper and graduated summa cum laude in 1942.

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Betty Friedan, the writer, thinker and activist who almost single-handedly revived feminism with her 1963 book "The Feminine Mystique," died of congestive heart failure yesterday, her 85th birthday, at her home in Washington.

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Yellow Brick House has many ways in which they reach out to individuals, one of them being through Twitter. 

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Yellow Brick House has many ways in which they reach out to individuals, one of them being through Twitter. 

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Yellow Brick House (@rebuildinglives) | Twitter

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The latest Tweets from Yellow Brick House (@rebuildinglives). Empowering abused women and children to rebuild their lives and live free from violence. York Region, Ontario, Canada

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This organization is part of the social movement against domestic violence however has huge emphasis on feminism. This organization specifically focuses on abused women and children, and aims to protect women from toxic relationships. There have been three different waves of feminism, in which each wave put emphasis on different social problems. Though the feminist movement as a whole aims to empower women and allow for equal representation, the second wave of feminism had more focus towards domestic abuse. The first wave of feminism was more focused on female representation legally, such as the right to vote; after WWII the second wave of feminism started to emerge which focused on a number of problems like domesticity, sexuality and addressed things such as violence against women. This wave would help women through their economic, personal and political life. For example, many feminist groups formed during this wave to help add to the feminism movement. The National Organization for Women (NOW) was formed in the 1960’s and attempted to write a Bill of Rights for women. Additionally, NOW continued to fight for women's rights and laws against sexual harassment and women’s violence (Burkett, 1998).

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Teaching youth about toxic relationships.

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This online training is geared towards assisting teachers and youth workers to facilitate discussions with students about abuse.

This is an online training course that participants can work through at their own pace. The course teaches important information about abuse, such as how to identify it. The entire training takes approximately 45 - 60 minutes and is divided into 6 different sections. The course is free and available to anyone who wishes to improve their learning in this area.

With the awareness gained from this training we hope that participants will feel more knowledgeable, confident, and better equipped to facilitate meaningful lessons and discussions with their students regarding abuse and relationships.

Learn about:

Introduction to abuse

Types of abuse

Recognizing abuse and its effects

How you can help

Upon successful completion of modules you gain access to 10 downloadable lesson plans for ages 13-17. These plans provide discussion prompts, activities and resources specific to the topic of interest.

Yellow Brick House is York Region's largest provider of services to women and children who have experienced violence and abuse.

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Want to facilitate discussion with youth about abuse?

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Yellow Brick House is excited to launch a new online project This online training is geared towards assisting teachers and youth workers to facilitate discussions with students about abuse. This is an online training course that participants can work through at their own pace.

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Initially founded in 1978, from a small thought to help others, sparked the idea of Yellow Brick House. Since then this organization has provided help for abused women and children in various ways. From a 24 hour crisis help line to temporary shelter and transitions homes, Yellow Brick House has been able to help many ("Our Yellow Brick House").

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Why is Yellow Brick House Relevant today?

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Why is Yellow Brick House Relevant today?

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This social organization is relevant today because domestic violence still occurs. According to an article written on the Yellow Brick House blog, in Canada, on average a women is murdered every 6 days by her partner. This single statistic goes to show that domestic violence is very real and a hard issue to reach out about and escape from for many reasons ("Why doesn't she just leave," 2016).

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Link to Yellow Brick House website, providing 24 hour service.

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Are You in Danger Right Now?

Call 911. If you cannot speak, just dial 911 and leave the phone off the hook; a police car will automatically be dispatched.

If there is no 911 number in your area, check your phone book for the crisis/emergency number.

Do You Need to Get Away?

Call Yellow Brick House at 1-800-263-3247. You can speak confidentially and get advice on your next steps.
If You Are Being Abused and Want to Leave

Don't tell your partner that you're thinking of leaving.

Take your children with you.

Plan your emergency exits.

Keep emergency phone numbers with you at all times.

Set aside money for a taxi, and quarters or pre-paid phone cards for payphones.

Take valuable documents with you such as passports, birth certificates, marriage certificates, immigration papers, OHIP card, SIN card, bank books and bank cards.

Make photocopies of all important documents and leave them with a person you trust.

Bring documents that prove you have been living at the same address with your partner.

Take your and your kids' prescriptions and medicines.

Open a bank account in your name or in the name of a person you trust. Make sure that bank statements are not mailed to your home.

Save as much cash as you can.

Hide extra clothing, house keys, car keys, money etc., at a friend's house.

Have an emergency suitcase packed if possible.

Include some special toys and comforts for your children.

Are you being abused?
If you are being abused, or think you may be, do not hesitate to call and speak with one of our staff. A trained staff is available 24 hours, every day of the week. Our crisis line is toll free and confidential. 1-800-263-3247.

Signs that you are in an abusive relationship
Keep a checklist, if your partner exhibits behaviours like the ones listed below may be at risk for abuse:

Speak badly about other people in your life so that you won't associate with them anymore

Constantly find fault in you or in others

Over competitive with your time and attention

Refuses to discuss their feelings and then blows up when you push the subject

Disapprove of how you spend your money or how you dress

Doesn't understand the difference between affection and sex

Accuse you of lying

Demand to know where you are at all times

Constantly becomes jealous or angry when you want to spend time with your friends or family

Find it hard to apologize or take responsibility when they've done something wrong

Doesn't take no for an answer

Threaten to harm you or themselves if you leave the relationship, they may threaten suicide

Twists the truth to make you feel you are to blame for their actions

Calls you offensive or derogatory names

Humiliates or embarrasses you in front of other people

Threatens you with physical violence, abandonment, or harm to others you love

Threatens to harm themselves if you don't comply with their wishes

Expresses excessive jealousy about your friends and family

Expresses excessive jealousy over friends of the opposite sex

Isolates you from friends, family, or your local community

Tries to control what you wear, eat, say, spend time with, spend money on, etc

Blames you for their actions or mistakes

Threatens to infect you with an illness, such as a sexually transmitted disease

Withholds medication, or threatens to withhold medication

Pressures you into having sexual contact you do not want

Becomes violent or controlling when she or he is under the influence of drugs or alcohol

Steals money from you, or does not allow you access to your own moneyAttempts to forbid you from working or making money

Answering yes to any number of these questions may indicate that you are in an abusive relationship. Get help now.

Safety Plan

The following is a suggested safety plan for women. Please note that all of the information may not apply to everyone, but it is designed so that one may extract what they feel is helpful.

Safety Plan

Suggestions for Increasing Safety In the Relationship
I will have important phone numbers available to my children and myself.
Important Phone Numbers:
Police: __________________________
Hotline: _________________________
Friend: __________________________
Physician: _______________________
Shelter: _________________________

I can tell ______________________ and _______________________ about the violence and ask them to call police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my home.

If I leave my home, I can go to ____________________________.

I can leave extra money, car keys, clothes and copies of documents with: _____________________.

If I leave, I will bring:
▪ Identification
▪ Birth certificates for me and my children
▪ Social Security Cards
▪ School and medical records
▪ Money, bankbooks, credit cards
▪ Keys - house/car/office
▪ Driver's license and registration
▪ Medications
▪ Change of clothes
▪ Welfare identification
▪ Passport(s), green card(s), work permits
▪ Divorce papers
▪ Lease/rental agreement, house deed
▪ Mortgage payment book, current unpaid bills
▪ Insurance papers
▪ Address book
▪ Pictures, jewelry, items of sentimental value
▪ Children's favorite toys and or blanket
For more information and to get detailed guides in other languages, please visit The York Region Violence Against Women Coordinating Committee website.

Suggestions for Increasing Safety When the Relationship is Over
I can change the locks, install steel/metal doors, a security system, smoke detectors and an outside lighting system.

I will inform ____________________ and ________________ that my partner no longer lives with me and ask them to call the police if he is observed near my home or my children.

I will tell people who take care of my children the names of those who have permission to pick them up. The people who have permission are: ___________________ and _________________.

I can avoid stores, banks and ___________ that I used when I was with my partner.
If I feel down and ready to return to a potentially abusive situation, I can call _________________ for support.

I will inform people at school about my situation.

What is Abuse?

Abuse is any behaviour or action that is used to scare, harm, threaten, control or intimidate another person. It can come in different forms; physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial, or spiritual. If you are trying to decide whether or not a situation may be abusive, simply look at the person's intention behind their action. If the person's intention is to do any of the above, you may be at risk for abuse.

Source: The York Region Violence Against Women Coordinating Committee

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Click on menu "hamburger icon" top right corner
Step 2: Click on "Settings"
Step 3: Click on "Show advanced settings..."
Step 4: Click on "Clear browsing data..."

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Tools in the menu bar. Open the Internet Options Dialog Box and select the General Tab.
Step 2: In the Temporary Internet Files, click Delete Files. Check the "Delete all offline content" and click OK.
Step 3: In the History, click Clear History.
Step 4: In Temporary Internet Files, click Delete Cookies and then OK.
Step 5: Click OK to exit the Internet Options Dialog Box.

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Tools in the menu bar, then select the Options.
Step 2: Click on the "Privacy" Option, with the picture of a padlock.
Step 3: Select the "History" tab. Click on "Clear Browsing History Now".
Step 4: Select the "Cache" tab. Click on "Clear Cache Now".
Step 5: Click "OK" to exit the Options dialogue box.

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Edit in the menu bar, then select the Preference.
Step 2: Under the Category, select Navigator. Then click Clear History as well as Clear Location Bar.
Step 3: Under Privacy & Security, select Cookies. Then click View Stored Cookies. Lastly, click Remove All Cookies.
Step 4: Under the Category, select Cache under Advanced. First click the Clear Memory Cache followed by the Clear Disk Cache.

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select Explore)
Step 1: Select Windows in the C drive.
Step 2: Open the Temporary Internet Files Folders. Select all the files inside this folder and delete.
Step 3: Open the History folder (e.g. c:\windows\history\today in Win 98), select all the files inside this folder and delete.
Step 4: Open the Cookies folder (e.g. c:\windows\cookies in Win 98), select all the files inside this folder and delete.
Step 5: Disable the AutoComplete in the windows and/or browser options.
Step 6: Finally, after completed the above deletions, you should also empty the recycle bin.

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Click on "Chrome" on the main menu
Step 2: Click on "Clear Browsing Data"

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Go to "history" tab on the main menu.
Step 2: Scroll down to "clear history".

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Go to "preferences" under the "Firefox" tab in main menu.
Step 2: Click on "Privacy" tab then go to the "Private Data" section on the bottom.
Step 3: Click "Clear Now".

(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Go to "Edit" menu and select "Preferences".
Step 2: Select "Navigator" under the "Category" listing.
Step 3: Select "Clear History" in the "History" area.
Step 4: Click "OK" to erase history.

CAUTION:
When you clear the cache and the history list, you erase ALL information that had been previously stored there. If your partner notices that the cache and history list have been deleted, they will realize that you know how to delete your tracks and could possibly think that you have something to hide.

A way to avoid suspicion is after clearing the CACHE and HISTORY LIST spend some time visiting sites that you think your partner wouldn't object to. This way, the cache and history list start to get filled up and your partner might be less likely to notice that old information is missing.

A spouse or partner can often tell when a woman makes up her mind to stop the abuse. Do not underestimate your spouse. Always erase your tracks.

When you call Yellow Brick House, or any organization that assists women in danger, you must be careful to use a telephone that will not keep a record of the number you called. If you call long distance, the phone number will appear on the bill. Cell phones can also keep records of the numbers that have been called. Internet-based telephones, which also go by names like "VOIP", or "Network Telephony", keep records of all calls. Web-based telephone systems, such as "Skype", also keep records. You should not use these types of telephone systems to call for help if your partner has access as well.

A local call made on a regular telephone line will not produce a record of the call. However, many telephones have a "redial" button, and you may want to call a friend or other "safe" number after you make any call you don't want your partner to know about - they can check up on you just by pressing "redial".

One way to be sure your home telephone uses a regular telephone line is to check your telephone bill. It will come from a Telephone Company, such as Bell or Rogers. It will not list any local numbers, only long distance. If you still aren't sure, you should use extra caution.

The safest way to call or to receive calls from us is from a friend's phone, a public phone, a work phone, or any telephone that has nothing to do with your partner.

Help your friend recognize the abuse:
Ask questions and acknowledge the abuse that is happening to them. Help your friend to see it is not normal and that they don't deserve to be treated that way. Tell them it will probably escalate and get worse.

Be nonjudgmental:
Validate your friend's feelings and listen to what they want, even if you don't agree with it. If your friend wants to stay in the relationship, or goes back and forth about it, try not to tell her that she is wrong. Tell her that you are worried about her safety and self-respect. Don't give your friend ultimatums, it may make them feel like they can't trust you or that you wont be there to support them. Help your friend recognize the abuser's excuses for being violent (which blame the victim).

Help your friend with safety plans:
Help your friend focus on staying safe. Having a safety plan can help save lives when moments count.

If your friend breaks up with the abuser, keep up the support:
Keep in close contact with your friend, they may be feeling lonely, scared, embarrassed or angry. Your friend may want to get back together with her abuser. She may miss them or not feel strong enough to resist any pressure the abuser is putting on her. The risk of violence in often increased after the victim leaves her abuser, it is important to still be vigilant with safety precautions.

Help your friend talk to adults to get help if she is a minor:
Talk with your friend about telling parents or other trusted adults. Provide her with resources of local organizations that could help. If she won't talk to an adult, then you must find an adult you trust to talk to about it. Ask your parents or a school counselor, nurse, or administrator. Ask the adult to help, to reach out, to intervene. Talk to your friend's parents about what is happening to your friend. Don't assume that your friend's parents know about the abuse.

If you become frightened or frustrated, get support from friends and family members or other adults:
Educate yourself about dating violence. You can't rescue your friend by yourself. But with support from other resources, family or friends, you can calmly support your friend as she deals with the violence in her life.

What to do if you are sexually abused
Victims of abuse should go to the Domestic Abuse Sexual Assault Centre (DASA) at Mackenzie Health:

Provides a 24/7 specialized healthcare response by a specially trained forensic nursing team.

Consists of an acute care and follow up component.

Supports the enhanced police investigation by collecting forensic evidence of injuries from an assault.

Staff will attend court to testify re: injuries documented.

Provides client education and support.

The victim should go to the hospital within 72 hours of the assault. Do not shower or bathe as that washes away evidence. Forensic nurses will look at the nature of the current assault, look for a history of abuse, conduct a risk assessment, look at the mental health of the client, and collect forensic physical evidence that can be used in court.

The Forensic Physical Exam is a head to toe examination of the client (undressed). Palpation and documentation of any areas of tenderness will be recorded and all injuries will be identified and recorded with a detailed description. Trace forensic evidence such as fibres, hair, swabs, DNA, will be collected.

Treatment includes forensic documentation of injuries and areas of tenderness, forensic photography of injuries (pre and post treatment), treatment of any injuries (sutures, etc), three doses of antibiotics for a sexual assault, and one shot of an HIV preventative. Recommendations will be made (medical follow up, shelter, etc), collection of forensic evidence (ripped clothing, fibres, etc) and a risk assessment will be completed, followed by safety planning. A follow up appointment will occur within 2-3 days.

If over the age of 16; DASA will not report the abuse to the police. It is a confidential service. They will hold on to your file for up to 6 months so you can decide if you would like to report the assault to the police.

FAQ

Question: Can I bring my pets to the emergency shelter?

Answer: Unfortunately we cannot accommodate pets in the emergency shelter unless your pet is a service dog. We will try to assist you by suggesting alternatives. The Ontario Veterinary Medical Association OVMA's SafePet Program, which is dedicated to assisting women leaving abusive partners by providing temporary housing and care for their pets. http://www.ovma.org/pet_owners/safepet.html

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Are You in Danger Right Now? Call 911. If you cannot speak, just dial 911 and leave the phone off the hook; a police car will automatically be dispatched. If there is no 911 number in your area, check your phone book for the crisis/emergency number. Do You Need to Get Away?

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I would personally support this organization and the larger social movement it is a part of because I feel that it is very relevant in today’s world and could be a reality for anyone close to me. I’ve known of men in my distant family unfortunately treating their wives wrong and I can’t imagine what life would be like if me, my mother, sister or anyone close to me were treated badly. For that reason, I wholeheartedly would support this organization.

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Not only does Yellow Brick House provide financial and physical aid for abused women and children but is also used as an educational tool. The various blogs and articles, like this one, will allow our community help others through the smallest gestures.

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" Oh, dear, not another one," you think as you click and share the latest missing child announcement that has shown up on your Facebook feed. That cherubic face tugs at your heart, and you imagine how you would feel if one of babies were missing. Sharing this news with your Facebook friends in hopes that someone will recognize this child is the least you can do to help. Right?

Two nights later, the lead story on the evening news is of a young woman who has been brutally murdered by her ex-boyfriend. " Not another one," you think again. She had left him and gone into hiding just like a woman in an abusive situation is encouraged to do. She almost made it. Almost.

What if we told you that murdered woman was the mother of the "missing child" whose picture was shared so widely across Facebook? What if we told you that the many well-intended "clicks and shares" are what led her killer straight to her front door?

Lotta Sonemalm at the Swedish Association of Women's Shelters and Young Women's Empowerment Centres warns that a well-meaning person who just wants to help reunite a child with his distraught family may actually be contributing to "someone being beaten, raped, or killed."

We have recently become aware that sometimes these missing children are not actually missing, but are in hiding with their mother who has fled An abusive ex, a non-custodial parent, a stalker, a pedophile - a person of malevolent intent - may have posted that picture knowing that some "helpful" soul would respond and deliver his victim right into his hands. Social media is a fun pastime and often a useful tool, but in insidious hands, it can turn any charitable, helpful citizen just trying to do his civic duty into a powerful weapon.

So what is one to do?

First, verify that the missing child report actually originated with a law enforcement agency.

A legitimate missing child claim, if legitimate, will also be reported by a reputable newspaper or radio/TV station, and not only on Facebook or Twitter. Even if these qualifiers are present, it is still possible that the posting is part of a clever scam. It requires the armchair activist to do more than a passive "click and share," but a phone call to the police station, a quick internet search to see where else this is being reported, for example.

While on the topic of social media safety, we should also caution about the practice of sharing pictures taken with a smart phone. Smart phones and some other devices employ "exchangeable image file format" which stores information, including location data. Many mobile phones include built-in GPS receivers which can pinpoint the precise latitude and longitude of where a picture is taken (geo-tagging). This feature is set up as the default in many devices, and the user is unaware that every time he posts, shares, or tags a picture, he may be giving the exact location of an intended victim.

The good news is that Facebook and Twitter now eliminate much of the metadata from uploaded pictures in an attempt to ensure privacy. As technology evolves, though, it seems that hackers have been able to stay one step ahead, so caution is still advisable.

To further protect yourself and others, you may turn off your device's GPS feature. If your smart phone or other device cannot use GPS to determine your location when you take a picture, it cannot store the locator data, either.

Most women who have fled an abusive situation have (hopefully) already taken measures to protect themselves from location thanks to smart technology. Sadly, however, another person may unwittingly betray a victim's whereabouts simply by sharing something that seems innocuous.

If you care enough about others to share a missing child's picture in hopes of finding him or her, then please careful enough to take the extra step of verifying the accuracy of the report before you share it.

Messieh, Nancy, Joel Lee, and Angela Randall. "Missing Child: How Sharing That Picture Can Put Lives At Risk [Weekly Facebook Tips]." MakeUseOf. N.p., 29 Oct. 2013. Web. 08
"Smartphone Pictures Pose Privacy Risks." Snopes.com. 23 Oct. 2016. Web. 08 Mar. 2017.

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Online Safety - Missing Child. Beware Before You Share

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" Oh, dear, not another one," you think as you click and share the latest missing child announcement that has shown up on your Facebook feed. That cherubic face tugs at your heart, and you imagine how you would feel if one of babies were missing.