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Topics for Discussion with High School Aged Youth

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Topics for Discussion with High School Aged Youth

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The links below are suggested mentoring activities.

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The links below are suggested mentoring activities.

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Note:Some activities may not be appropriate for this mentoring program.

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This webpage contains resources to support your mentoring relationship throughout the school year.

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This webpage contains resources to support your mentoring relationship throughout the school year.

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If you have any questions or need further support, please contact;
Marcus Wimberly
Mentor Facilitator
mwimberly@bcps.org
443-809-3971

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Tips for Building a Mentoring Relationship

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Tips for Building a Mentoring Relationship

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Thank you!
Thank you for committing to being a mentor for the 2016-2017 school year. Your impact will last well beyond this year.

I look forward to working with you on this exciting and meaningful initiative.
Introductions
Please take a moment to introduce yourself and why you chose to become a mentor.
Mentoring
Mentoring is a close relationship built on trust and respect. The mentor guides the mentee and helps him or her problem solve.
Mentoring is not a chance to be the boss, an expert who wont listen or share, or another adult or older person passing judgement on the mentee
Facts on Mentoring
1 in 3 young people will grow up without a mentor
Youth with a mentor are more likely to engage in productive and beneficial activities
The longer the the relationship lasts, the greater the value for the youth
Youth find tremendous value in successful mentoring relationships
Youth who had a mentor are more likely to become a mentor
Optional Training (TBD)

Responsible Mentoring-October
Exploring Diversity-December
Program Overview
One-on-one mentoring program. You will work directly with a ninth grade male student at a BCPS high school.
Students were identified for mentoring based on attendance and/or course failure in 7th and 8th grade
Mentors will be expected to meet with mentees a minimum of 2 times a month
Qualifications
What is it that we as men, in this stage of our life , have to bring to the table that makes us great mentors?

What makes us a natural to rise to this challenge?
Mentor Training
Baltimore County Public Schools
2016-2017
Does anyone have a personal mentoring story they would like to share?
Often in mentoring we hear phrases such as"there for me," "listened to me," "nonjudgmental," "caring," and so forth
Youth Today
What do we know about them?

What adjectives do we hear in the
media about today's youth?

If the Baltimore Sun was going to write an article about the young man you mentored this year, what would the headline read?
Lets Change the Perception
Characteristics of 14-16 Year-Olds
Stages of the Mentoring Relationship
Stage 1-
Developing Rapport and Trust

This is the "getting to know you" stage and is the most critical stage.
Predictability and Consistency
Testing
Establish Confidentiality
Goal Setting- (transition to stage 2)
Stages of the Mentoring
Relationship
Stage 2-
The Middle- Reaching Goals

Once trust is established, begin working on goals made in stage 1.
Closeness
Affirming the uniqueness of the relationship
The relationship may be rocky or smooth
Rely on support
Stages of the Mentoring
Relationship
Stage 3-
Closure

The opportunity to reflect and say a proper, "see you later" to your mentee.
Identify natural emotions, such as grief, denial, and resentment
Provide opportunities for saying see you later in a healthy, respectful and affirming way
Address appropriate situations for staying in touch
Effective Communication Skills
Effective communication is essential to establishing a strong relationship

Active Listening
eye contact
open and positive body language
verbal cues such as "yes," "sure," and "ah"
"I" Messages
"I" messages don't accuse or point fingers
avoid judgments
communicate information and respect
Effective Communication Skills Cont.
Paraphrasing
supports active listening
reflection of what others are saying
"So you're saying that..."
"You feel that..."
"Your reaction is..."
Open-Ended Questions
Collect information by exploring feelings, attitudes, and points of view
"How do you see this situation?"
"Can you give me an example?"
Roadblocks to Effective Communication
These actions can potentially close down communication.
Ordering, directing, commanding
Moralizing, preaching
Lecturing, giving logical arguments
Judging, criticizing, disagreeing, blaming
Withdrawing, distracting, sarcasm, humoring, diverting
Initial Meetings with Mentee
Ground Rules
boundaries
confidentiality
rescheduling meetings
Fun
Expectations
dates for meetings
role of mentor and mentee
goals
brainstorm list of activities
Goal Setting
(First and Second Meeting)
Important Reminders for Goal Setting
Realistic and personal
Achievable
Plan to achieve goals
Celebrate achievements
Thank you for your support!
mwimberly@bcps.org
443-809-3971
*The Mentoring Effect, 2015

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Mentor Training Baltimore County Public Schools

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Thank you!Thank you for committing to being a mentor for the 2016-2017 school year. Your impact will last well beyond this year. I look forward to working with you on this exciting and meaningful initiative.IntroductionsPlease take a moment to introduce yourself and why you chose to become a mentor.MentoringMentoring is a close relationship built on trust and respect.