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"This is not so good," she said at last. "It is just leftover strips. And the fur is too short, no long hairs." "How can you criticize a gift!" I protested. I was deeply wounded. "He gave me this from his heart." (Tan 186) 

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"This is not so good," she said at last. "It is just leftover strips. And the fur is too short, no long hairs." "How can you criticize a gift!" I protested. I was deeply wounded. "He gave me this from his heart." (Tan 186) 

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"I thought I was doing the right thing, taking the crab with the missing leg. But my mother cried, ' No! No! Big one, you eat it. I cannot finish"" (Tan 202).

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"That's the way Chinese mothers show they love their children, not through hugs and kisses but with stern offerings of steamed dumplings, duck's gizzards, and crab" (Tan 226)

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"Why are you here? Why are you crying? Something has happened! ... Hate? Why do you think I hate your future husband?" (Tan 200)

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"My mother seemed to be doing again, making me see black where I once saw white. In her hands, I always became the pawn. I could only run away. And she was the queen able to move in all directions, relentless in her pursuit, always able to find my weakest spot." (Tan 199)

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Lena should have seen that her relationship with Harold was more of a business agreement before she married him.

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"My mother knows how to hit a nerve. And the pain I feel is worse than any other kind of misery. Because what she does always comes as a shock, exactly like an electric jolt, that grounds itself permanently in my memory. I still remember the first time I felt it" (Tan 186).

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"My mother looked at me and smiled. "Only you pick that crab. Nobody else take it. I already know this. Everybody else want best quality. You thinking different.'" (Tan 233)

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Waverly is just immature and petty even though she's just a reflection of her mother

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"and then i see my mother sitting by the open window, her dark silhouette against the night sky, She turns around in her chair, but i can't see her face. "Fallen down" she says simply. She doesn't apologize. "It doesn't matter," i say, and i start to pick up the broken glass shards. "I knew it would happen". "then why don't you stop it? asks my mother. And it's such a simple question (Tan 181).

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"'A girl is like a young tree," she said. "You must stand tall and listen to your mother standing next to you. That is the only way to grow strong and straight. But if you bend to listen to other people, you will grow crooked and weak. You will fall to the ground with the first strong wind. And then you will be like a weed, growing wild in any direction, running along the ground until someone pulls you out and throws you away"' (Tan 212).

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"Or maybe we shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. Maybe Harold is a bad man. Maybe I've made him this way" (Tan 180).

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"And when I got into the car, I still had the glow of that feeling and I touched his hand and said, 'Harold, I love you.' And he looked in the rearview mirror, backing up the car, and said, 'I love you too. Did you lock the door?' And just like that, I started to think, It's just not enough" (Tan 174).

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Waverly could've at least told Ted what dinner was like in Chinese culture. I know Ted could've researched himself but like how was he supposed to know that all of the things he was doing was unacceptable?? Waverly shouldn't have been that upset because she didn't try to help him.

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"At first I thought it was because I was raised with all this Chinese humility," Rose said. "Or maybe it was because when you're Chinese you're supposed to accept everything, flow with the Tao and not make waves. But my therapist said, Why do you blame your culture, your ethnicity? An I remembered reading an article about baby boomers, how we expect the best and when we get it we worry that maybe we should've expected more, because it's all diminishing returns after a certain age.

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"I hated the way she tried to take all the credit. And one day I told her so, shouting at her on Stockton street, in the middle of a crowd of people. I told her she didn't know anything, so she shouldn't show off. She should shut up. Words to that effect"

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"I hated the way she tried to take all the credit. And one day I told her so, shouting at her on Stockton street, in the middle of a crowd of people. I told her she didn't know anything, so she shouldn't show off. She should shut up. Words to that effect"

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All the men in this book (except for rich) are terrible but the daughters are to blame for how toxic all of their relationships turned. All the warning signs were there, they just didn't want to confront the truth.

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A key theme in this chapter is the impact that a person's words can have on their lives and emotions. Rose says, "The power of [An-mei's] words was that strong" (Tan 185). Even though An-mei doesn't realize it, what she says truly affects Rose. At the end of the chapter, Rose says, "The power of my words was that strong" (Tan 196). This is when she told Ted she was keeping the house which made him scared and confused, showing that like her mother, words can have an effect on someone.

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"now I felt nothing, no fear, no anger. I say im staying, and my lawyer will too, once we serve you the papers. I said. Ted pulled out the divorce papers and stared at them. His x's were still there, the blanks were still blank. What do you think your doing. He said"

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"now I felt nothing, no fear, no anger. I say im staying, and my lawyer will too, once we serve you the papers. I said. Ted pulled out the divorce papers and stared at them. His x's were still there, the blanks were still blank. What do you think your doing. He said"

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"Over the next few weeks and later months and years, i continued to play, but never with that same feeling of supreme confidence. i fought hard, with fear and desperation. when I won, i was grateful, relieved. and when i lost, i was filled with growing dread, and then terror that i was no longer a prodigy, that i had lost the gift and had turned into someone quite ordinary." Tan (190)

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Everyone needs to stop thinking about themselves and how to one up each other and truly look into why their relationships are failing

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"To this day, I believe my mothers has the mysterious ability to see things before they happen... She only sees bad things that happen to our family. One time when I was growing up in San Francisco, she looked at the way our new apartment sat too steeply on the hill. She said the new baby in her womb would fall out dead, and it did" (Tan 161). There's more examples of how she predicted bad things that happened for her family on the bottom of 161 and 162.

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june caused her own embarrassment when she brought up Waverly's firm owing her

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"And seeing the garden in this forgotten condition reminded me of something I once read in a fortune cookie: When a husband stops paying attention to the garden, he's thinking of pulling up roots. When was the last time Ted pruned the rosemary back? When was the last time he squirted Snail B-Gone around the flower beds" (Tan 214).