# data[].attributes.body
Speak with the child’s parents to help reward her to encourage her good efforts.

Sit down with student to set realistic goals with her.

# data[].attributes.body
Q: have you put in your best effort for this test and there’s nothing more than you can done?
Q: what was your target for this test?

# data[].attributes.body
Can I   speak to your parents about this and see if we could come out with plans to help you?
Lkike goal setting, i could be yr mentor, …

# data[].attributes.body
Know that you have your parents, teachers and friends who can help you.

You can always talk to one of us.

# data[].attributes.body
Help her see that her results simply tell her where she stands now and this is an opportunity to find solutions to bring her closer to her target. It’s the same for all other aspects of life - sports, health, career, arts, hobbies etc… she will be doing this for the rest of her life so don’t stress abt it.

# data[].attributes.body
What can you do to achieve success?

Highlight that each individual have their own strengths and weaknesses.

# data[].attributes.body
You may not have done as well as you would like it to be, but it's alright, it's a good learning experience.

It is an opportunity for you to learn from your learning experience.

You might be scared of your parents' reaction but you can always talk it out.

# data[].attributes.body
Follow up with parents on realistic expectations

# data[].attributes.body
Q: You know you had put in effort, so it is okay. Failure is the stepping stone to success. Every unsuccessful attempt is a learning experience to achieve a better outcome. Look at Thomas Edison when he was unsuccessful 99% of the time. It was the last attempt he was successful.

So don’t be discouraged. Keep trying.

# data[].attributes.body
Give her words of encouragement and assure her that there is future support to help her achieve better results.

# data[].attributes.body
What do you think you can do next time?

# data[].attributes.body
Q. How do you feel about your marks?

A : lousy.

A : I am a failure

Q : why do you have such thoughts?

A : I want to get full marks

A : I am a failure... Can't do such simple things

Q : how about relooking at your target?

Q : let's move towards your target I've step at a time and celebrate small steps success

# data[].attributes.body
Encourage a perfectionist to rethink their situation by prompting them to recall past experiences where imperfections or setbacks led to positive outcomes. You could say, "Remember a time when things didn't go exactly as planned. What did you learn from that experience, and how did it contribute to your growth?" This approach utilizes their own history to illustrate that challenges and imperfections can be valuable opportunities for learning and development.

# data[].attributes.body
What do you think being successful is?

What is a good grade for you?

# data[].attributes.body
Why do you say that you are a failure?

What made you think this way?

Is what you set out to achieve realistic?

How does this expectation serve/help you?

# data[].attributes.body
To help a perfectionist reconnect with reality, gently encourage them to consider a more realistic perspective. You might say, "Let's step back and look at the bigger picture. What are the positive aspects of what you've achieved, and how does it align with realistic expectations?" This prompts them to reassess their standards in a more balanced way and fosters a healthier mindset by acknowledging achievements within the context of reality.

# data[].attributes.body
Q: Am I too hard on myself?

# data[].attributes.body
Facilitate a parent-child reconciliation

# data[].attributes.body
Why do you feel this way?

Why do you think they set this expectation?

Did you do your best at that time?

# data[].attributes.body
Parents love their children. And I'm sure yours too. Would you like me to speak with them?

# data[].attributes.body
Q: What made you think that you have failed?

Q: have you had similar feelings and what caused you to feel that way?

Q: what did you do when you feel this way back then?

# data[].attributes.body
You mentioned that your parent will be very upset. Can you share more?

Can u tell me more about a similar experience?

# data[].attributes.body
Q: I see you taking medication. How are you feeling now? Can you tell me why you are feeling this way?

# data[].attributes.body
Ask her when did she start having this feeling.

when she saw her results?

When she saw others’ results?

When someone said something?

# data[].attributes.body
Encourage a perfectionist to shift their mindset by framing it positively. You could say, "Instead of focusing on what didn't go perfectly, can you identify something positive or a lesson learned from this experience?" This approach guides them toward constructive reflection and helps in replacing negative thoughts with more optimistic and growth-oriented perspectives. It's about fostering a habit of acknowledging achievements and progress, even if things didn't meet their initial expectations.

# data[].attributes.body
Q: how are you feeling?

Q: Would you like to talk about it?

Q: What makes you feel this way?

# data[].attributes.body
Recall abt her unrealistic expectation.

# data[].attributes.body
Q: How do you feel?

Q: Why do you feel this way? (In gentle tone)

# data[].attributes.body
When addressing a perfectionist, consider using open-ended and non-judgmental language to encourage them to rationalize. For example, you might say, "Can you walk me through your thought process on this? I'm interested in understanding your approach." This approach allows the perfectionist to share their perspective without feeling criticized. Additionally, expressing curiosity and asking questions that prompt reflection can help them reconsider their standards and possibly find a more balanced perspective.

# data[].attributes.body
Question to ask her
- what happened?
- why are you taking the medication? Does it help?
- is there anything that you want to tell me or anything I can help you?
- is your marks okay?

If not happy- why upset? Did you not study or put in your best? Personal target is? Are you aware of how others have done?

# data[].attributes.body
What were your thoughts?

What made you take the medication?

How were you feeling?

On a scale of 1-10, how intense is that feeling?

# data[].attributes.body
Recall

Ask her to recall what is her feeling?

Rationalise

List down factors and evidence that justify her reasons and feelings

Is she meeting her own expectations?

Replace

How to adjust her coping mechanism for failures ( to meet up to her own personal failures)

Set up a routines to speak to people and share and helping her to build resilience

Is she meeting her own expectations?

Reconnect

To assure her and put her in a support group

# data[].attributes.body
Q: What are you thinking?

A: I am a failure.

A: My parents will kill me.

Q: How do you feel when this thought came to you?

A: I feel scared.

Q: On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the highest, how would you rate your feeling?

A: 8 out of 10