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Shift Your Money Frequency Vibration - The Cognitive Soul – Best Life Coach

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Shift Your Money Frequency Vibration - The Cognitive Soul – Best Life Coach

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How's your relationship with money, do you have enough, do you wish you had more, does it slip through your fingers, is it the biggest issue in your life?

Like all things in this Universe money is energy and most of us have many blocks to this energy flowing in our lives.

Our relationship to money is built on our beliefs around it, are you aware of your money beliefs? The problem with our beliefs around money is they are largely unquestioned, and they are rarely our own.

Growing up we were programmed by our parents, caregivers, grandparents, authority figures, media etc., and we've taken on these without questioning their validity. Subconsciously we soaked everything we saw, heard and felt about money, even though we had no idea we were paying any attention.

Our money beliefs are determining our relationship with money right now.

So the first step is to get clear on what your money beliefs are.
Step 1 - Identify your beliefs
Get a piece of paper and start with the heading - MY CURRENT MONEY BELIEFS.

Now make a list of all your current beliefs about money. Think about the kinds of things you say when money comes up.

What do think when bills arrive?

How do you feel when you want/need to buy something you "can't afford"?

What's the dialogue you have with yourself and others when discussing money? I

If you argue about money, what's your side of the story?

Your list of money beliefs might look something like this:

1. People have to work hard to get money

2. Money doesn't grow on trees

3. I only need enough money to get by

4. Money doesn't buy happiness

5. Being rich will lose me my friends

Dig deep; you can't change what you don't acknowledge. Get as many beliefs out as you can, at least 5 or more.
Step 2. - Who do these beliefs really belong too?

Now, next to or underneath each belief write down who or where you think this belief came from.

Example:

1. I have to work hard from money - Came from Dad

2. Money doesn't grow on trees - Mum used to say that when I asked for something.

3. I only need enough money to get by - Mum used to say this when she was complaining that she never had enough no money.

Let's just stop for a minute....

Take a moment to really allow yourself to absorb this discovery, that the beliefs you have been carrying, your story about money, isn't actually yours.

Let yourself to recognize that these beliefs are not working for you anymore than they worked for those who taught them to you.

Now consider that we always get what we believe. So those who believe that you must work hard for money, just notice how they are the ones who do just that; work hard, often for little money.

Think about how each belief you have is playing out in your life.
Step 3 - Turn it around
Now under a new heading - TURNAROUNDS - you are going to take that same list and turn each one of those beliefs around to its exact opposite. And then give an example underneath of where this belief is true.

Example:

1. People don't have to work hard to get money
Example; people can win money, marry money, be left money, find money.

2. Money does grow on trees
Produce can be grown on trees and exchanged for money, money is everywhere. There is actually no shortage of money in the world.

3. Money can buy happiness
Example: Money can buy freedom and freedom can create happiness.
Stop for another minute....

Allow yourself to absorb this new discovery that you don't even have to convince yourself of these beliefs because there is already real evidence to support that they are true.
Step 5 - My new beliefs
Get a fresh piece of paper and write the heading - MY NEW MONEY BELIEFS. Now write out each of the turned around beliefs that you've evidenced as being true.

These are now your new beliefs around money - they make sense, you've seen them to be true, and the more you affirm them and keep reminding yourself of them the more they will work FOR you in the same ways your old beliefs worked against you.

Print them out and put them somewhere you can see them every day, and keep a look out for the ever emerging new evidence that will continue to arrive to support them.

It takes work to enforce new beliefs; you've been enforcing the old ones for a long time. Keep doing the work, keep challenging those old beliefs every time they surface and replace them with the new truer beliefs.
Happy money manifesting! and for any help, visit us by clicking on manifesting mindset coaching

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Shift Your Money Frequency Vibration - The Cognitive Soul - Best Life Coach

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How's your relationship with money, do you have enough, do you wish you had more, does it slip through your fingers, is it the biggest issue in your life? Like all things in this Universe money is energy and most of us have many blocks to this energy...

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How To Forgive Them When They Aren’t Sorry

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How To Forgive Them When They Aren’t Sorry

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In perfect world they’ll all be sorry. Everyone who hurt us will step forward, guilty hands in the air, owning their shit and asking for our forgiveness.

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In perfect world they'll all be sorry. Everyone who hurt us will step forward, guilty hands in the air, owning their shit and asking for our forgiveness.

And they'll mean it.

They'll break down even; tell us how sorry they are for f*cking up and hurting us, how it was all their fault and how eternally grateful they'll be for the opportunity to make it up to us, if only we'll let them.

Unfortunately it's not a perfect world.

You might get the odd apology here and there, especially for the small stuff. But the big stuff, the doozies, the crap that breaks your heart into a thousand pieces and knocks the stuffing clean out of you, that stuff you won't get a sorry for.

That's certainly been my experience.

I've had some deep wounds, especially in childhood, and by my own family. And I haven't received one apology, not ever. Quite the opposite, I've actually been blamed for the very hurts they caused.

I know I'm not alone, maybe that's your experience too. If it is, I feel you. I know you might be telling yourself you can't move on without them being sorry. You need closure, you need to know that they know how much they hurt you.

But sweetheart, you may never get it, and the truth is you don't need it.

Waiting on an apology that's most likely never coming is damaging. Not only is it keeping you energetically tied to the event and person you need to move on from, but it's also keeping you stuck in the deep, dark, dense energy of victimhood.

And that shit can hurt you more than the original wound.
So how do we move on without an apology, or without them even being sorry?
Firstly it's important to understand why so much hurt happens and goes unacknowledged.

Why aren't people sorry for what they've done?

Why can't they just admit they did wrong?

There's one key reason why, and it's almost like a disease that's infected so many people and lies not just at the heart of the lack of apologies, but also beneath most of the bad behaviour itself.

That reason is shame.

Shame is the reason you won't get the apology you deserve.

Shame is the reason you might even get the blame.

Years ago when I blew the lid on the sexual abuse I'd endured throughout my childhood, not only was it not admitted, acknowledged or apologised for, but my Mother actually launched a campaign of hate against me accusing me of lying and being "spoilt" and "hurtful."

She reckoned I should be ashamed of myself for saying such disgusting things about my own family.

She wrote it in a letter. It arrived on my birthday. A long list of accusations, signed off at the bottom, "from MUM. "

For some reason that always seemed strange to me.

More than 12 months would pass from receiving that letter before we had our day (4 days actually) in court. A guilty verdict was received; multiple prison sentences handed down, and yet still after all that, my mother refused to accept what was true.

The shame had morphed into deep denial. To admit to it now would be synonymous with death. Such is the power of shame and denial. To this day, more than two decades on, to my knowledge, my mother still refuses to acknowledge the abuse happened.

I'll most likely never receive a sorry from her, not in this lifetime.

And I don't need one, because I already forgive her.

Yes, I know, it's hard to hear a mother could do such a thing. To turn her back on her own child, to abandon her to abuse, deprive her of protection and then blame her with such vengeance. It's quite shocking, wicked even. How could I forgive her?

Well, I see beyond the stories. I see the shame. I see a woman wracked with guilt so deep, so dark, so destructive she simply can't look at it. All she can do is project it onto me, in an attempt to hide from the unconscious parts of her that have swallowed whatever goodness was left.

She has nothing to cling to now but denial, and the bitter sweet relief and protection it gives her from a reality too grim to bear.

The thing about denial is the worse the crime, the deeper the denial goes. It's done at such an unconscious level that the person themselves often believes the denial completely.

If we want to understand why human beings hurt each other we have to delve deeper than just writing them off as bad apples. Because underneath the bad behaviour are deeply wounded, disconnected human beings entrenched in guilt and soul destroying shame.

We can demonise them, but that doesn't help us understand.

And it doesn't help us heal. Assigning roles of victim and perpetrator might on the surface help. It's important to have our story heard and validated. But it doesn't go deep enough to create real healing.

And it doesn't help us untie ourselves from the train-wreck childhoods most people never recieve an apology for, and still blame themselves for.

The truth is hurt people hurt people. That we're abused, beaten, neglected, abandoned or rejected for example is not because of who we are, but because of who we were born to.

And we're not at fault for that.

My childhood couldn't have happened any other way. Born to those parents, abuse was inevitable.

But what if there's a bigger picture? A purpose to our experiencing pain and trauma, and if it's already happened and we can't change that, is there a way to use it as a catalyst to lift us out of victimhood and into a new destiny?

I believe so.

I believe we all carry ancestral burdens and unhealed trauma from not only our own past, but from our ancestral lineage. The abuse I suffered wasn't new. Lke all abuse it was recycled. My father was apparenly abused as a boy by his father. What isn't resolved in our lifetime is energetically (and also through conditioning) passed down to the next generation.

But we can break the cycle.

And we don't need an apology to do it. We don't even need to forgive in the traditional sense. Instead we can use Radical Forgiveness which offers us a unique way of raising our consciousness to see a higher perspective of our past pain and find the seed of purpose contained within our wound. Radical forgiveness can help us transform trauma to destiny, pain to purpose, confusion to clarify and anger to peace.

And we can emerge stronger, more grateful, more loving, more aligned with our soul.

I can't change my childhood. But the meaning I ascribe to it, and the purpose I draw from it, and the way I use it to fuel my own growth and evolution is my choice. Forgiving my parents set me free not just from them but from the ancestral bonds that had been passed down from generation to generation.

The trauma stops with me. If you want it to stop with you and discover how to forgive without an apology and how to use your experience as the catalyst for deeper growth, connect with me now for a free discovery session and find out how I can help.

Not getting an apology doesn't have to stand in the way of living a peaceful happy life. It didn't stand in way of mine, and doesn't have to stand in the way of yours either.

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How To Forgive When They Aren't Sorry | Dawn Lee

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The apology you think you need most likely isn't coming. Waiting on it is keeping you energetically tied to the very past you want to break free from, so can you move on without it? Can you forgive them when they aren't sorry? You bet you can.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do – 8 Reason’s Why It’s Hard To Let Go. 

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do – 8 Reason’s Why It’s Hard To Let Go. 

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It was so easy to imagine the life you’d have together, the wonderful love, the laughter, the joy, connection, the wedding, the little family.

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You just broke up with the once love of your life. The potential ONE. It started out so amazing; you thought nothing of letting yourself be swept away, in the wild, crazy love that just felt so right. It was so easy to imagine the life you'd have together, the wonderful love, the laughter, the joy, connection, the wedding, the little family.

And now it's all in tatters.

Your heart feels like it's been ripped from your chest and though a tiny speck of you knows it's probably for the best, every other cell in your body is aching for what should've been.

Breaking up is hard to do; FOR REALS.

We invest so much of ourselves and our energy into our relationships that when they fall apart it feels like we've fallen apart too. We feel lost, lonely and sad, unloved, confused hopeless and like a big fat failure.

One of our greatest life lessons is to learn to let go of what's no longer serving us. This is particularly true when it comes to relationships. They provide personal life coach in Australia and the perfect opportunity for massive growth not just in letting go but in showing us the parts inside of us that need healing before we move on.

And that can be the hard part.

But why is it so hard to let them go? Even when we know it's going nowhere, has turned toxic and is causing us oodles of emotional pain, why or why do we still hang on in there?

Actually lots of reasons. Here are 8 reasons why, and what you can do to cut the cord.

1. FEAR OF REJECTION

Rejection breeds obsession. When we think we're being rejected our response is to cling. Somewhere along the line we've decided that a failing relationship means we're not good enough (our biggest fear) and we feel compelled to prove this fear wrong.

The deeper we're invested in believing we're being rejected (which is often a recurring theme for us) the more we cling. And the more we cling the more we push the other person away. And the more rejected we feel.

It's a vicious cycle that we become subconsciously attached to, but back up a minute. What if there was no rejection? What if there are just two people unsuited and unaligned, who want different things, see the world in different ways, and who are destined for something better than the unfulfilling relationship their both experiencing (be honest, it's not filling you up either.)

Rejection is an illusion. Even if the other person says "I don't want you", it simply means they're not aligned with you or you with them. Do you really want be with someone who isn't right for you? And before you argue "but he's perfect" - if he/she doesn't feel the same way then they're NOT perfect for you.

You are not being rejected, you're being released.
2. FEAR YOU WON'T FIND SOMEONE BETTER

Be honest, just how good was your relationship? If it's broken it's hasn't good for a while. The spakrs died long ago as did the love and tenderness. You've been copping a lot of crap lately, maybe you;ve been dishing it out too.

So what makes you think you can't find better than that?

In a world of 7 billion people, you'll always find something better and more suited to you than the relationship that makes you miserable.

You really have to find the courage to truthfully consider, just how good is what you're holding on to? Also consider that if this person who isn't for you is standing in the way of the one who is.

Your greatest love is out there; don't keep him waiting by wasting time on someone who isn't for you.
3. YOU'RE AFRAID OF BEING ALONE.

You're scared of being alone, and lonely. But by now you're probably already doing pretty much everything on your own anyway. Sure, you're hiding under the guise of an 'in a relationship' status, but if it's not working, you've probably been feeling lonely for quite a while already.

You've been alone before, and there were even times, if you're honest, when you let yourself enjoy it. And if you haven't given yourself that gift yet then sister, it's time you did.

Being alone can be a wonderful opportunity of growth and getting to know who you are and what you truly want.

There's a whole world out there waiting to be explored and if this relationship hasn't worked out for you then there's a very good reason for that. And you owe to yourself to find that reason.

And remember the single you was the one who attracted in the relationship in the first place. So you being alone was when you were most magnetic!

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4. SINGLE IS A DIRTY WORD

You've probably already had the "when are you going to settle down" comments. You might even get it from well meaning, (unconscious and I'm going to say it down right old fashioned) friends who can't see past being in a relationship. Seriously peeps, its 2018! More people are choosing singlehood, for however long, and there's really no one size fits all.

Relax. You are not going to be left on the shelf, with your cats and your crocheting. It's cool to be single, enjoy, and be proud that you're not jumping into a relationship for the sake of it. That never ends well and you've already been hurt enough.

The world has changed. You won't find your worth in a wedding. Be patient and wait for the right fit.

Marriage is far from a measure of success either. There are countless people all over the globe who are miserable in relationships, heading for the divorce courts, or too scared to leave.
5. YOU SEEK VALIDATION THROUGH OTHERS.

If you're seeking validation through a relationship you're going to be disappointed. You simply can't be validated by anyone other than yourself. And the minute you start looking for validation you send a subtle but very clear message that says "I don't value myself enough to believe in me and I want you to do it for me." The problem with this message is that is undermines you as the confident, valuable catch your partner was initially drawn to.

Seeking validation sows seeds of fear and unworthiness and those seeds will eventually take root and grow. Your partners will very likely pull away from the task of having to keep validating you (an endless, tiresome, pointless quest) and you'll end up growing even more insecure. You and only you can validate yourself.

Self-belief is a highly desirable quality, and when we value who we are others are compelled to do the same.
6. YOU HATE YOUR OWN COMPANY

You're afraid to be with yourself and deal with all the noise and chaos in your own head. Well, news flash, it's not going away. You can push it down and distract yourself in a relationship but whatever's inside that isn't released will keep finding a way to let itself out. And it's going to impact your relationship more than you know.

It will be a constant source of conflict in your relationships, but you already know that don't you. We can't avoid ourselves and it's the years of trying that's led us to the wrong relationships.
If we can't be with ourselves, how can we expect someone else to? And therein lies one of our greatest fears. We don't believe that someone would really want to be with us; after all we can't be with ourselves.

That we're not worth being with is an illusion. Because beneath all the noise and chaos is the amazing, caring, fun loving, confident, connected you. The magnetic you, the beautiful, uncomplicated, happily imperfect you who far from being avoided should be embraced.

You don't need to avoid yourself, you need to find yourself!
7. YOU'RE ADDICTED TO DRAMA

You've become accustomed to the drama. Where there isn't any you create it because you've learned to be comfortable in it. You may even equate it with being loved and cared about.

But eventually the drama will destroy you. It's poison, it affects your body and your relationships. It's a self-sabotaging mechanism that keeps you safe from true intimacy. You're terrified of someone seeing the real raw, vulnerable you. The you that you fear isn't good enough. But drama just keeps us separate from love.
8. YOU'RE SCARED TO START ALL OVER AGAIN.

Better the devil we know, right? Wrong. Staying with someone because it's too hard to put in the effort to find someone new is a cop out. If you're honest, it's not even easier because by the time the relationship has gotten to the break up stage it's usually been quite a challenge for a while.

Finding another relationship doesn't have to be hard, once you're ready and you've resolves your inner stuff. And if you don't want to put in the work to resolve it, or you think there's nothing to work in then you'll either struggle to someone, or you'll keep attracting the same people who trigger you and keep those old wounds alive.

Healing isn't harder than staying wounded.

We come into this world alone, and we leave alone. No matter who walks beside us, there is only one person on the inside. And that's OK. We are not alone. We're not meant to lose ourselves in another but find ourselves and journey with the right person for us.

Staying in a relationship that you know you should move on from will only further destroy your relationship with yourself.

And that's the most important relationship of all.

When you get that right, you'll attract to you the most amazing person into your life and you'll wonder why you held on for so long to someone and something that had died long ago. Don't deny yourself real love. Learn to overcome your fears of being on your own and you'll find yourself far more connected than you ever knew was possible.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - 8 Reason's Why It's Hard To Let Go.

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You just broke up with the once love of your life. The potential ONE. It started out so amazing; you thought nothing of letting yourself be swept away, in the wild, crazy love that just felt so right. It was so easy to imagine the life you'd have together, the wonderful love, the laughter, the joy, connection, the wedding, the little family.