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The poem seperation has to do with over all with the parents being divorced and how the children feels.Also how many things change when the divorce  happens.For example " The two  that once loved me so,Ripped my wold apart with only Two words".Another example  is that The dad is not with the children this can happened "i look back at those photographs you to filled with  content  laughs,but that night will never be forgotten". This shows me how this divorce really effects the kids to not only the parents.

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My parents have recently decided to separate I have found this a very hard thing to deal with. I am 15 and have never written poetry before, but one night I was feeling particularly upset so I just let my emotions flow.

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This book stand tall by, Joan Bauer is about how Tree does not  fit in because of the cause that his parents are getting  divorce.

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The novel book,Glory be ,Reinforce many stereotype  about not fitting in.For example ,In this story, the girl name laura and  glory were not fitting in because of how they were poor.The Author seems to suggest that just because your rich does not give you the right to judge the poor people,Another assumption that is being Reinforced is that people judge other by their Classism when we all are human.

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The novel book, Taking sides by,Gary be , Reinforced many stereotypes about its hard taking sides.For example,In the story it is hard  for lincoln to take sides.The author seems to suggest that Go with the person that you think best understands you,Another assumption is that Try to pick a side where you feel you are being treated nice do not pick a side where there is rich people and treat you bad go somewhere where they are treating you right

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The poem overall talks about how The kid feels because of the way his dad left him.For example"The ticking of the clock,turned our love into faded dreams.This all shows me how the divorce really is frustrating for kids because they don't see their dad's and they miss them.

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this video called "voice of child of divorce" overall talks about how He really feels about it.For example" its hard to me when i give up a parent". Also how the children needs love and attention. Another thing it talks about how the parents are more worried about winning the fight and they don't care about his life. How they are also showing him all this.They are making him feel like he came from a person who is unlovable.they are making him understand that he shouldn't love because he will get hurt.

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This video overall talks about how things don't really turn out good in some marriage. For example,how some live good and others just live fighting.Another thing is that how not only does the divorce affect the parents but it effects the family.For example, choosing witch side to go to if your dad's side or mom's side.

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TeenBetween - Caught up in your parents' divorce

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A short film about what its like to be caught up in your parents divorce. Teen Between is a specialized counselling and support service designed to help teenagers cope with their parents separation. www.teenbetween.ie

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Parents think that the divorce only effects them but what they don't know is that it affects the family to. For Example,Some of your family might not talk to you because they might believe the other person.Another example,they might feel  unsure about things because everything change  in the family.Last example is,they might just be mad because of what both of you guys decided.

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The question, "How does divorce affect the family?" is an important one because the end of a marriage doesn't only affect the couple but the entire family.

How Does Divorce Affect the Family: Understanding the Pain of Your Loved Ones

As you separate from your spouse, you may feel some awkwardness from your relatives. They may have a difficult time talking to you about it or may even be distant because they don't know what to do for you. They may also be unsure of how to feel because there's been a change in the family dynamic and everyone needs to time to accept it.

Why Your Relatives Mourn the End of Your Marriage

You may be surprised that your relatives are taking the news of your divorce hard. After all, you are the one getting the divorce, not your family. However, they are affected by the change because they have to alter their mindset.

When you got married, everyone started to imagine you and your spouse as a married couple, possibly having babies, and growing old together. The end of your marriage changed these beliefs. The things that they thought of are not congruent with reality. With this lack of congruency comes a loss of the thoughts and feelings they had for you and your spouse, which means they have to recreate mental images of you and your future.

For many families, they have also grown to love their son/daughter-in-law. When a couple divorces, the son/daughter-in-law goes off and may not have any further contact with the ex in-laws. This means that the family must also break off the attachment they formed, which can bring on sadness.

While your family should be supporting you through the divorce, it may be helpful to support them as well. If they feel as though they have a shoulder to cry on as much as you do, they may be more likely to help you when you are at your lowest. Acknowledge that this is a difficult time for all involved and listen to their thoughts and feelings. Offer your help and support whenever they need it. It will comfort them and help them find peace in this change so that they can be there for you.

How Divorce Affects Your Children

While you are dealing with the end of your marriage, you also must focus on your children's reaction to the divorce. They have also created beliefs about their parents staying married and growing old together. When these beliefs are broken, it can be difficult to face.Children react to divorce in many different ways. Some will act out behaviorally and others may isolate themselves. In addition, children may have difficulty focusing on schoolwork and their grades may fall. These reactions are normal but need addressing so they understand how to overcome the despair of their parents no longer living together.

If you don't feel strong enough to help your children through this difficult time, it's essential that you find outside help, such as professional counseling. Ignoring your children's reaction to your divorce can make their behaviors worse. Neglected negative feelings can turn kids to drugs, criminal activity and even suicide if there is a problem with depression.

It's All About You...and Your Family

Recovering from a divorce is difficult. You may feel as though you should be selfish for at least once in your life. While this is true, now that you have the answer to the question, "How does divorce affect the family?," and how your loved ones feel, you know why they are acting the way they are. Just keep them in mind as you deal with your divorce, because when you turn around, they are the ones who are standing behind you.

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How Does Divorce Affect the Family | LoveToKnow

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The question, "How does divorce affect the family?" is an important one because the end of a marriage doesn't only affect the couple but the entire family. As you separate from your spouse, you may feel some awkwardness from your relatives.

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parents don't see how by divorce it effects the kids physically.For example, they might feel sadness because of the divorce and how everything changed.Another example ,they feel anger toward one of the parents because of the divorce. Last example ,they feel responsible because they think the parents are being divorced because of them.It also doesn't matter how old they are either way they get affected.this effects the kids in their lives because they need both of their parents in their live not only the mom.

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One of the hardest things about separating is worrying about the effect it will have on your children. Relationships and parenting expert Justin Coulson explains the short and long term impacts on the kids.

Separation and divorce affects a significant portion of Australian children. In 2009, there were close to 50,000 divorces granted, with nearly 25,000 of those divorces involving children under 18 years of age. With research showing that 50 percent of children still fantasise about their parents reuniting 10 years after separation, the affects of separation and divorce are clearly felt on kids in the short and long term.

Short-term impact of separation and divorce on children

In the short-term, parental separation and divorce leaves children struggling emotionally. Anger and sadness are normal, regardless of your child's age - even if they are adults!

Sadness can lead to isolation, loneliness, and social difficulties. Children may also underperform academically as a result of their parent's break-up. Anger can also be seen as children grapple with feelings of abandonment, guilt, worry or blame towards another parent. All of these emotions are normal and should be expected. However, if deep anger or sadness continues beyond two to three months then you should seek counselling for your child.

Another important short-term challenge is that children often believe they are responsible for their parent's separation. Children are particularly vulnerable to these kinds of thoughts between the ages of three and eight. It is up to you to assure them that they are not responsible for your decision to separate from their other parent.

Long-term impact of separation and divorce on children

Separation and divorce leave an enduring legacy in the lives of children affected by it. Children from broken homes are more likely to experience higher incidence of drug use, criminality, broken marriages in their own lives and depression. On every wellbeing indicator, kids who come from broken families do worse, in general, than children from intact, functioning families.

But it is not the separation alone that leads to such poor outcomes in children. Ongoing parental conflict has substantial impact on children's long-term outcomes. Research shows that your 'mess' has to be cleared up. No matter what happens, separation and divorce will have a negative impact on your children, but the longer the conflict lasts, the greater the impact is. It is really up to you and your spouse to sort it out like adults.

Age of your children

Your children will be affected by your break-up no matter what age they are when you separate. In most cases, younger children will endure more psychological disturbances than older children. In some cases these disturbances will be evident in the short term, such as oppositional behaviour, grief and sadness, or isolation. In other cases, the challenges may not manifest themselves until they're older, at least in adolescence, and sometimes in early adulthood. Research clearly indicates that the longer you can make your relationship function civilly, the better adjusted your children will be.

Gender of your children

Following separation it seems that generally, girls will do best. They seem to have the emotional capacity to digest and deal with the separation - at least on the surface. This will continue for up to five years, with boys usually having the greater challenges, specifically in learning and social domains. However, by the time parents have been separated for 10 years, the trend reverses, with girls showing the greatest psychological vulnerability. It seems that their initial resilient response may only be at a superficial level and that, over time, the stress associated with their parents' break-up takes its toll.

Separation and your child's development

Separation and divorce leave ugly, unwanted stains on the fabric of our children's lives. Children need their parents to be involved in their lives. Countless studies demonstrate significant benefits to children socially, cognitively, academically, psychologically, emotionally, and physically when their parents stay together and stay involved in their lives.

All children lose out when parents separate and divorce. They lose access to both of their parents when they need them, and this loss impacts profoundly on their development. When children are secure they thrive because they feel safe enough to explore, develop, learn, and grow. Separation creates insecurity, which threatens their development and exploration of the world. Instead, they put their energies into seeking reassurance rather than learning, experimenting, and growing.

You can be an ex-partner, but you can never be an ex-parent. You have the right to form and dissolve relationships, but your children have no choice. Your decisions have consequences beyond just you. What is in your best interest is not necessarily in your children's best interests. Children are a long-term responsibility. Parents should provide the best care and the best chance for their children to develop healthily, physically, emotionally and psychologically. To do this, except in cases of high volatility, abuse, or aggression, parents would be best to act like adults and put aside their difference to satisfy their children's long-term needs. Two parents working it out and being functional is what is best for your child. It's an old-fashioned idea, but as a parent we give up the right to do what we want when we want. Our children need to become our priority.

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Separation and children: How it affects your kids

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One of the hardest things about separating is worrying about the effect it will have on your children. Relationships and parenting expert Justin Coulson explains the short and long term impacts on the kids. Separation and divorce affects a significant portion of Australian children.