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Zanetah Sasser, LPC

Project Director, Behavioral Health Grant

We are all experiencing varying degrees of stress, and it can come out in many different ways. The best we can do is try to create a positive environment that benefits us all. Unfortunately, we can’t control those around us, we can only control ourselves. We can control our attitudes, our language, and how we interact. When we leave stressful environments, it's important to implement good self-care to help us feel balanced. That may look like a 10 minute walk after class, listening to your favorite music and/or podcast on your way to class, reading positive affirmations, or even connecting with a trusted friend.

*Disclaimer: This response is for informational purposes only. It does not replace any form of therapeutic support provided by a professional on an ongoing basis. If you feel you in need of therapeutic services, please visit Uwill at  https://app.uwill.com/ to be connected with a licensed therapist.

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I agree, it hurts to hear a classmate get made fun of or complained about. Some people have a mean heart. But I suggest you speak up! It all starts with one person to start a chain reaction. At the end of the day we’re each living our OWN version of life. Remind these people, that they’re not any better than anyone else and to appreciate the people around them. We only live once!

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Zanetah Sasser, LPC

Project Director, Behavioral Health Grant

Relationships can be challenging, and all relationships have high and low points. Disagreements are a normal part of relationships and provide opportunities for couples to problem solve and work through differences together. If you find that you and your partner argue frequently, try to get to the root of the issue by having a conversation with each other or seek outside assistance together. You want to identify if it is an issue that can be resolved. Is it a difference in morals and/or values? or is it a compatibility issue? Answering those questions for yourself can help you figure out your next steps.

*Disclaimer: This response is for informational purposes only. It does not replace any form of therapeutic support provided by a professional on an ongoing basis. If you feel you in need of therapeutic services, please visit Uwill at  https://app.uwill.com/ to be connected with a licensed therapist.

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Zanetah Sasser, LPC

Project Director, Behavioral Health Grant

It is hard to not want to step in and help our loved ones navigate their relationships. Sometimes what we may see as issues in other relationships may not be issues for them or they may not be at a place to address them. We have to find balance of being supportive but also allowing others to navigate their relationships on their own.

*Disclaimer: This response is for informational purposes only. It does not replace any form of therapeutic support provided by a professional on an ongoing basis. If you feel you in need of therapeutic services, please visit Uwill at  https://app.uwill.com/ to be connected with a licensed therapist.

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If you hear something, say something!

Let your voice be heard in defense of those you feel are being bullied. If you are uncomfortable speaking up, say something to your professor in a private conversation.

Nothing will change, if no-one says anything.

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My first thoughts are:

1) Does your mom realize you feel this way? If not, you need to have an open and honest conversation about the way you feel. Perhaps your mom is unaware of her disrespectful attitude.

2) Does your dad know how you feel? Being assertive does not come naturally to everyone, but with your encouragement and support your dads voice can be heard. Have a conversation with your dad explaining the way you are perceiving the interactions between your parents.

3) After engaging in the one-on-one conversations, take some time to process what you have learned. If your concerns have not been alleviated, and even if they have, it is would be useful engaging in meaningful family discussions.

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Hi! I went through the same thing with my previous partner. It went on for seven months. From experience, I suggest you guys have a heart to heart conversation and see where that goes. BUT if no needs are being met, I highly suggest going separate ways. Love isn’t enough! Respect, communication, trust are all key components! Also, if it’s only an issue when you’re doing it to him then RUN!!! As time goes on it becomes a never ending cycle. There is a always new chapter to come & some experiences serve for a purpose. You’re entitled to do what you’d like. From experience with my previous partner, he ended up leaving me in the end despite my efforts. We didn’t meet eye to eye and after a while it was too much! I wish you the best!!!!!! I hope you prosper.

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I completely understand where your dad is coming from in the place of not being able to stick up for himself. I feel as if you should encourage your dad by helping him fill his cup and showing him as a child what to expect in a relationship. You can encourage your mom to respect him by speaking up for him or counterreacting something she says. If she comes up with an idea that’s his, tell her, well thats an intelligent idea from dad. I think it’s important to make your dad feel valued and heard Another parties support might give him the one up to speak up! :) As well as showing him how to set boundaries!

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This is completely true! I don't like when there's any kind of negativity in a classroom setting. You never know what people are going through. Its best to try and understand and encourage students rather than make fun of them.

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This is so sad. Sometimes my mom talks to my dad the same way but out of respect he does not react. He just takes it and moves on. I agree with men not yelling at women but women, just like men, need to respect their partners and appreciate them.

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Speaking from experience, I can say that there's a lot going on behind the scenes in marriages. I'm not sure how close you are to them, but if you bring it up directly, they could feel like you're butting in. If it were me, I'd ask "mom/dad, what marriage or dating advice do you have for me? How can I trust and respect in a relationship?" ect.

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That's unfortunate, it seems like she is discarding your father's feelings. I think you should talk to your mom in a nice and calm manner. Maybe she doesn't realize how she's treating him and needs someone to help her see that her actions are kinda mean in regards to your father.

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School is hard enough on its own without social pressure!

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Taking mini-breaks and re-evaluating the situation is a mature and healthy response to any relationship issues that you and your partner are experiencing, but do not ignore the underlying issues that are causing the arguments. Communication is one of the keys to having healthy, long-term relationships. You and your partner need to engage in meaningful conversations about the "little things" that are happening. Lastly, the decision regarding whether the relationship should continue needs to made by you and your partner.

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This is terrible, I’m sorry you have to experience this. This is not middle school, we should not be talking about others. Your right, we need to encourage and respect each other for showing up and trying hard everyday. If they don’t have anything nice to say then they shouldn’t say anything at all.

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I honestly think that if you guys keep having problems even after you guys take a break from each other then y'all should probably go your separate ways. I know y'all love each other but if there's no communication that leads to you guys better understanding one another then moving on, without having another problem occur soon after then maybe its best to just focus on yourselves separately.

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Hey, it's normal to not see eye to eye on everything, but this seems excessive. A healthy relationship will make you feel safe and valued. My advice is to think about this situation as an outsider. If your friend was going through this with their boyfriend, what would you tell them to do?

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That’s tough, my immediate reaction is that this relationship is going to be exhausting long-term. He doesn’t sound supportive. What man is trying to always argue? They usually try to avoid drama. Your in school and don’t have time for unnecessary arguments. Seems he has a bit of growing up to do. Good luck with whatever you choose.

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It might be a good idea to try and talk to your mother about the behaviors that you noticed, and try to find out why.

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While bullying is not completely unavoidable, one should still speak up against it. Sometimes an outside opinion does matter.

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You may want to try and find a therapist that he can meet with. There he could talk through why he wants to agitate so much.

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I agree, it hurts to hear a classmate get made fun of or complained about. Some people have a mean heart. But I suggest you speak up! It all starts with one person to start a chain reaction. At the end of the day we’re each living our OWN version of life. Remind these people, that they’re not any better than anyone else and to appreciate the people around them. We only live once!