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I am entirely lucky enough to be in a healthy and good relationship with a man who helps me raise my own low self-esteem. (obviously my photo)

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When you don't love yourself, you won't ever believe in the relationship you are in. Constantly looking for things that will put them apart and you may end up alone in a pile of loneliness and self-hatred.

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When you hate yourself, you tend to draw more hateful people into your life. Abusive and angry people will affect your life negatively for the rest of your life.

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What Is Domestic Violence?

Does your partner ever....

Insult, demean or embarrass you with put-downs?

Control what you do, who you talk to or where you go?

Look at you or act in ways that scare you?

Push you, slap you, choke you or hit you?

Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?

Control the money in the relationship? Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?

Make all of the decisions without your input or consideration of your needs?

Tell you that you're a bad parent or threaten to take away your children?

Prevent you from working or attending school?

Act like the abuse is no big deal, deny the abuse or tell you it's your own fault?

Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?

Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?

Attempt to force you to drop criminal charges?

Threaten to commit suicide, or threaten to kill you?

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Abuse Defined
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. How is it defined?

Why Do People Abuse?
Abuse is about power and control.

Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships?
If you've never been in an abusive relationship, it's hard to understand why it's so difficult to leave.

LGBTQ Abuse
Victims of domestic violence in the LGBTQ communities often experience abuse in ways that are specific and unique to these communities.

Abuse and Immigrants
Everyone has the right to live life free of abuse. Immigrants in the US may have specific concerns about getting help.

What is a Healthy Relationship?
What does a "healthy" relationship look like? In a relationship, who decides what is healthy and what isn't?

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If you feel as though you are unlovable, unattractive, or can't attract someone on your own, you use your money. If the only reason someone comes for you is because of your money, it wont help your emotional stability, it will just get worse and worse.

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People who have low self-esteem tend to believe they aren't worth the attention or love given to them in a relationship. When they don't believe in themselves, they test their lovers, doing and saying things to make the other person prove love. It usually doesn't sit too well with them and they break off the relationship, leading the one who doesn't believe in themselves to be able to say "See, I'm unlovable."

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Low self-esteem can come from a bad relationship with a father. Women than go to lengths to find the perfect man who will take care of them and protect them. It is a subconcious need for someone to care about them. If a man doesn't meet that need, women will look for ways to sabotage the relationship without even realizing it.

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Men tend to have more high of a self esteem than women according to a study done by the National Center for Education Statistics. This occasionally shows in romantic relationships.