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Killing someone in revenge for killing a close friend is okay?

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Killing someone in revenge for killing a close friend is okay?

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In R+J,people get into gangs and on of them gets killed then the other gang will go find who killed them and kill him.This can be found on page 186.

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Repost from TIFU. It got removed, but I decided to post it here instead since it actually makes me feel better talking about it to people.

Throwaway because I don't want this haunting me.

Like most Tifus this didn't happen today. It happened back in middle school in the late 90's. It was 5th grade. I was a scrawny little nerd, I wasn't exactly a social person, I mostly held to myself playing pokémon in te back corner of the caféteria.

And since this was a small town in Texas I was definitely the weird kid in class, and because of this I got bullied. A lot. Most of the glass was apart of the bullying, but there was one kid in particular that did most of it. I'll call the kid James. Because that's his name.

James used to push me into lockers, call me names and make the whole class laugh at me. He was a textbook bully. Most people would probably maybe tell a teacher, parents or maybe they would try to fight back. I didn't even think of that though. All I could think of was sweet, sweet revenge. Now, this couldn't just be your everyday put gum in the hair revenge. No, this had to be reeeaall pro-revenge. I decided to make his family's already bad financial situation worse by making him get addicted to smoking. It would be hard. I couldn't just go and shove a cigarette into his mouth and hope not to be beaten, no. I had to infiltrate his life and ruin it from within!

Over the next few months I was slowly starting to be nice to him. I helped him with his homework, shared jokes with him, I even gave him some of my precious pokémon cards!

By 7th grade I had become his best friend. Had I not had my mind clouded with hate I'd see that James was mean because of a lot of things. He was insecure, his home life awful and above all he had been jealous of me. I however did not see this. I had infiltrated his life and it was now time to destroy it.

Over a few months I started smoking (I thought that it was worth it since you had to make some sacrifices for revenge.) and then I offered James some. He was reluctant at first, but after some persuasion he caved in and tried it. Much like a drug dealer I gave James his first couple of packs for free. But after he had become addicted I told him that he'd have to get his own.

James did everything as planned. At first he smoked 2 packs a month. Then it became a pack a week. Until finally he smoked a pack a day. James was addicted for real now. My plan had worked flawlesly. James stole money constantly from his father and he even had to get a job to pay for his addiction. James grew anxious and angry every second he didn't light it up. I had gotten my revenge. But was I happy?

We were now in grade 10 and I had finally realized what a great person James really was. I knew what I had done was horrible, so I tried to stop him from his addiction. I flushed down his cigarettes, I hid them. I even took away his money so he couldn't buy his death sticks. This was all in vain however since he in Grade 11 started smoking 2 packs a day.

During the next 7 years me and James grew closer and closer. I was the best man on his wedding and he was at mine. Hell, I even witnessed his sons get born. I still couldn't forgiven myself how cruel I was when we were kids and I constantly tried to get him to quit the cigarettes. "Think of your kids." I said "Do you want to witness them graduate, marry and have your grandchildren?" This worked. James went down from atleast 2 packs a day to 1 pack a week again. It was very hard for him, but he made it. James was after 9 years completely cigarette free. James, me and his wife were ecstatic about this. I was so proud of him.

However, this happiness didn't last very long. James was diagnosed with Stage 2 adenocarcinoma lung cancer.

The cancer got worse and he died 9 months after the diagnosis.

It's now exactly 5 years after his death and his family is still suffering from the consequences. I try to help them as much as possible, but since I had to quit my job due to depression it's not a lot I can do financial wise.

I constantly think about my mistakes. How James would be alive right now if it wasn't for me. How his sons wouldn't have to grow up without their dad, how his wife wouldn't cry herself to sleep every night.

James was so much better than me and just because he was mean to me as a kid I had to fucking kill him? I constantly think about killing myself. But I can't. His family needs me. The family that was robbed from their dad because of me. If I killed myself it would make things even worse.

So to close things up. TL;DR I killed my best friend because of a petty revenge.

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r/ProRevenge - I got the ultimate revenge and killed my best friend.

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Repost from TIFU. It got removed, but I decided to post it here instead since it actually makes me feel better talking about it to people. Throwaway because I don't want this haunting me. Like most Tifus this didn't happen today. It happened back in middle school in the late 90's.

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It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

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It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

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In R+J,If you think you loved a girl and you meet a girl that really touches you then thats love This can be found on page 196.

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divorce action love relationships life after divorce

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Although romantic regret can be difficult to handle, it also serves an important purpose: it shapes the way you handle future relationships. Learning from the regret and using it for a positive course of action (e.g., learning what qualities you should avoid or approach in a romantic partner, avoiding situations that may have led to infidelity in the past, etc.)

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In R+J,The feuds between two family's can affect the behavior between the two.This can be found on page 183.

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New research reveals why some children are badly affected by negative family conflicts while other children survive without significant problems.

Researchers found that the way in which children understood the conflicts between their parents had different effects on their emotional and behavioural problems. Where children blamed themselves for the conflicts between their parents, they were more likely to have behavioural problems, such as anti-social behaviour.

But if their parents' fighting or arguing led to a child feeling threatened, or fearful that the family would split up, the child was more likely to experience emotional problems, such as depression.

The impact of everyday conflict between parents on their children's behaviour and mental health is driven by how the children understand the problems in the relationship as well as the nature of the conflict itself, the researchers found. These disagreements include; hostile relationships between parents, poor parenting practices, negative parent-child relationships and maternal depression.

Professor Gordon Harold of the University of Leicester said the research highlighted the importance of ensuring that intervention programmes focused on helping parents to resolve these day-to-day conflicts with their partner, while also reiterating the importance of promoting positive parenting strategies.

As the nature of the parents' relationship is so important, intervention programmes that focus solely on parenting skills and practices may miss out ways of helping children deal with emotional and behavioural problems especially when there are high levels of inter-parental conflict.

Professor Harold said: "Children exposed to everyday conflicts between their parents -- conflicts that are non-violent, but frequent, intense and poorly resolved -- are at elevated risk for mental health problems, even when we consider poor parenting practices or genetic susceptibility factors passed on from parents to children, in explaining the effects of hostile relationships on children."

"Importantly, children may not actually be responsible for their parents' relationship problems. Rather, they simply need to feel or perceive that they are responsible in order to experience negative psychological outcomes," said Professor Harold.

Professor Anita Thapar, of the Institute of Psychological Medicine and Clinical Neurosciences at Cardiff University said "The research showed the pattern of family and genetic contributions varied for different types of child mental health problem as well as for boys and girls. This research looked at the relationship between genetic liability to child mental health problems and negative family experiences in the development of these problems and sought to take account of specific parental influences on children."

The research also found that girls may be a higher risk for depression when their parent's relationship is hostile or there is a negative mother-child relationship. Depressive symptoms displayed by daughters resulted in increases in parent-to-child hostility from both mothers and fathers.

"By highlighting parents' conflict management strategies as well as parenting practices, intervention programmes can be developed that target risk mechanisms specific to the types of problems experienced by children living in households with high levels of parental conflict, such as parental separation or divorce," said Professor Harold.

This research was funded by the Economic and Social Research Council (ESRC) Further information: http://www.esrc.ac.uk/my-esrc/grants/RES-000-23-1380/read

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children's health; mental health research; staying healthy; child psychology; parenting; child development; poverty and learning; scientific conduct; conflict

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Why family conflict affects some children more than others

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New research reveals why some children are badly affected by negative family conflicts while other children survive without significant problems. Researchers found that the way in which children understood the conflicts between their parents had different effects on their emotional and behavioral problems. Where children blamed themselves for the conflicts between their parents, they were more likely to have behavioral problems, such as anti-social behavior.

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If you really love someone physical appearance dosent matter

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If you really love someone physical appearance dosent matter

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In R+J,they say its not about how someone looks it about whats on the outside this can be found on page 188.

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Why Physical Attraction Matters, and When It Might Not

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Apostolou, M. (2015). Parent-offspring conflict over mating: Domains of agreement and disagreement. Evolutionary Psychology, 13(3), 1-12. doi:10.1177/1474704915604561 Apostolou, M. (2011). Parent-offspring conflict over mating: Testing the tradeoffs hypothesis. Evolutionary Psychology, 9,470-495. Buss, D., Shackelford, T., Kirkpatrick, L., & Larsen, R. (2001). A half century of mate preferences: The cultural evolution of values.

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Teenagers can't understand what love really is. 

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Teenagers can't understand what love really is. 

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In R+J, they see love as a game. This can be found on page 191.

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By Raven Moss

Teen love is something that is very popular. From TV shows, movies, and even books, teen love is something people crave for their entertainment purposes. But for some people, teen love is not just entertainment, it's life. Which brings us to the question: Do teens really know what love is?

"Love is too powerful for teens to understand," says junior Ramone Simmons. He believes that teens confuse sex with love and that they're too young to really understand the meaning of true love. So, he does not think teens know what love is. It seems as if some people think teens have not gone through enough experiences to understand the whole concept.

It seems like people have different inputs on where love comes from. Some say love comes from the heart, not from your age. But some people think that at a certain age, you don't know what love is.

Ms. Ward, who teaches juniors at V.O.I.S.E., stated that she thinks teens know what love is because they are more open minded than older people. Older people are more mature and serious, while teens are more open minded to new ideas, like, love.

Sydney Miller, a junior, said, "Teens get confused with the word love."

When someone says "I love you," it does not most likely mean that they are in love with you.

A lot of people get confused with that and end up with their heart broken.

Goldy Young, a junior in a teen relationship, says that age shows a lot in a relationship. "Younger teens really don't know what love is compared to older teens, around the ages 16 and up. All because they have not went through enough experiences to know what it is."

Do teens really know what love is?

"Love has no face," said Katie Moss, a 50-year-old woman who has been through a lot of relationships. Love is something that is viewed in many different ways.

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Are teens capable of really loving someone?

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By Raven Moss Teen love is something that is very popular. From TV shows, movies, and even books, teen love is something people crave for their entertainment purposes. But for some people, teen love is not just entertainment, it's life. Which brings us to the question: Do teens really know what love is?