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when i was at the mall with my friend i saw a blood stain on her pants and instantly thought that she was on her period , so i tied my hoodie around her to cover the stain and i brought her to the bathroom so she could change pants

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Because I grew up in an all-boy household (with four uncles and my grandfather), acting more physically with others is fairly normal for me, as it is at home. I'm not sure how to behave or converse with women. I don't always realize or recognize that I'm being harsh to others, especially with girls.

I commit to be more sensitive to other people's feelings and to create clear limits.

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There was this one time where some girls were fighting and i was the only boy who is connected and the one who reported it to the council since it got worse. There was a group of girls which are also my friends and there was a girl which is also my friend. The group of girls made a group chat at messenger, talking bad about my other friend. They were gossiping and talking bad stuff. I showed our convo to the mentor since it got worse. They started calling my friend very terrible names like a "wh**e". The group of girls started crying when our mentor confronted them. My other friend also cried because she saw our conversation and how the group of girls are talking bad about her. I also forgot to mention that i made that gc since my other friend which is one of those group of girls asked me too, i never talked bad about the girl they gossiped or my friend. I observed their behavior because i want them to get punished. I know my other friend don't deserve those mean comments.

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I was at home playing games, as I was in the middle of me playing my game, an unknown person asked for help on how to play it. I decided to help. So we chatted for a few minutes and decided to do a voice chat. Turned out she was a girl, I was kind of nervous but knew she was just new to the game so I should help her. We continued talking and playing together after a while we became friends and would play together every now and then.

I realized even if you are nervous and scared especially talking to the opposite sex, don't back out because they just probably need your help and they don't know what to do. You might be even friends later on.

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I had a guy friend who is being sexually harassed by his neighbors and friends. He told me how he's not comfortable about it and he doesn't know how to react. I told him about how he should speak up about things like these especially if you dont like it and to stay away from people like them.

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Ever since my cousin and I were younger, we would always get compared by my grandmother. Saying that I am the better cousin, not him, and I would be happy because who wouldn't be? If someone said, "You're the best," of course, you would be happy.  But then I was happy despite not knowing how my cousin felt. While I was having fun because I was the best cousin, he was suffering because he was under pressure because of me, and I was completely unaware of it. I used to brag about being the best of the two of us, which was insensitive of me. I didn't consider his feelings; instead, I concentrated solely on my own.

I realized that, despite his constant smile, he was also feeling things that I couldn't see because he wouldn't let me. So, when I learned about this, I immediately defended him by saying that there is no such thing as a "best cousin," because we can both be the best. And, in the future, I should always be cautious and consider their feelings before saying such things, as I may hurt them.

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There was one time that my big brother was sexually harassed by 2 people ( they kept touching his private part while my big bro kept avoiding them ) I told my parents and when my parents knew about it, they were furious and won't let them breath the same air with my brother again.
After that I commit to not do same and respect the boundaries of people and consent is always important (and men can have those experience too.)

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One time when I was around 10 or 9 years old, I was in Leyte at that time since that’s where my mom’s from and we came to visit for vacation. My mom had this cousin, he was probably 20+ years old during that time, he kept touching me in intimate places where I didn’t want people to touch me, I was feeling very uncomfortable during that whole duration, I didn’t stop him because I felt like I wasn’t allowed to tell people who are older than me to stop doing this or that because I feel uncomfortable or like I wasn’t allowed to speak up about it.

I’ve realized that no matter if the person doing uncomfortable things to you or things that are outside your boundaries you should always speak up about it and tell them to stop and learn how to say no, it doesn’t matter how old they are, you should always know how to speak up for your own good.

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At elementary my friend was on her first day of period and when we were eating at the canteen i noticed a red mark on her skirt and everyone noticed it and was bullying her, so i helped her by offering my jacket and cover the mark and we asked for an extra dress.

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In 6th grade, one of my classmates would make weird inappropriate comments towards me in front of his friends/my acquaintances. I played along because at the time, I thought that they were funny, and also because I hung out with him way less often now that he was more "popular", so I thought that playing along would make us closer. At one point, he lightheartedly invited me to "go to the CR with him to do [something] [some time]", and I remember feeling relieved that [that time] never came along due to the first COVID restriction.

Looking back at it now, it's disturbing that that he said those to me when we were both 12 even if they were as a joke, and I'm relieved that nothing really happened.

Now, I commit to setting boundaries with my peers, making sure that things like that won't happen again, and that I will never make anyone experience what I felt on my end because of the things I say.

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One time when I was a kid, I was like 6, so I was talking to some older cousins, and I revealed a secret without realizing, so she got mad, and I didnt know why she was mad, because I was just a little kid, and was a very open kid so I would try to come up with topics.

I commit to not step over boundaries in terms of talking to one or multiple people.

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I have had this experience with a stranger where I literally learned the truth of the saying "What you do, comes back to you".

My family and I were traveling to my home town. It was a four-hour journey, and a middle-aged man was sitting next to me. Halfway through our journey, I noticed that the man was often glancing at my phone, so I asked him whether he needed any help. As it turns out, he wanted to use my phone to call somebody, and he was very hesitant to ask. I gave him my phone to use, and after that, he warmed up a little and started chatting. He wanted to call his daughter, whom he was visiting, and he was carrying some heavy luggage. When the bus reached his stop, he said goodbye and got off. My family decided to have some snacks and got off the bus because there was still some time before the bus left. When we came back, the bus was nowhere to be seen! Apparently, they had decided to start a little early and they had our bags on the bus. I was standing there with absolutely no idea of what to do when the man who sat next to me stepped out of an E-tricycle packed with his luggage and came to me. He told me that the bus had just left and if we hurried, we could catch it. So we got on the E-tricycle with him, and he instructed the driver to chase after the bus. Horn blaring, we caught up with the bus after a 10-minute chase, and needless to say, I was happily reunited with my backpack. I couldn’t thank that man enough. He wouldn’t even allow me to pay for the fare. To think that all of this happened because of a phone call!

It was one of those occasions when we realize that there are only good people in the world.

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Summertime when I was in Southern Leyte at my grandparent’s house, I have a cousin named Jet. He is older than me so I used to call him Kuya Jet.   Kuya Jet was a very secretive person. When I enter his room I saw him chatting with his crush. As he goes down to get some water, I started chatting to the girl and told her that Kuya jet has a great crush on her. When my Kuya jet knew about it, he was mad at me. And I realized it was my mistake and I should not step on his feelings, I take it for granted knowing that he is my cousin.

I commit to myself that I should respect his privacy, men are also sensitive just like women.  To intrude is like stealing from someone or trespassing on the person in his domain. The right to privacy could refer to your right to be left alone or to your right not to share every detail with someone.

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When I was young, my cousin played with a toy gun and pointed it to me. The gun hit my eye and I was wounded. It hurts but I did not hurt my cousin back. I just covered my eye with my hand and told my parents about it. I know that my cousin did not do it purposely.

I commit to stay calm and do not hurt others, and also try to understand the situation.

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Throughout my entire elementary, Me and my classmate used to tease each other by calling each other names that relate to our real names since we both found it fun. But as years started to pass, I noticed she started finding it annoying every time I teased her and just ignored me majority of the times. I didn't know why she did that because we were okay with it before. So from that day forward, I stopped.

I commit to understanding other people from their point of view because we always need to make sure that we are in check with how others feel so as to not hurt their feelings.

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In 2nd grade, I befriended the new student. In grade 3, I started having feelings towards her. I confessed my feelings to her in 4th grade and she also felt the same. However, we both mutually agreed to just be friends. In 5th grade a lot of the lower grades asked if I still had a crush on her. They were asking because she puts an arm around my shoulder when we walk. I said no but they didn't believe it because she still kept doing it. It became awkward when she did it and I did not know why she kept doing that. I did not want to tell her to stop wrapping her arm around me because I was afraid of hurting her feelings. The questions still kept on happening until 6th grade

I commit to realizing that, people have their own love languages and should be acknowledged. I should also be honest with my feelings towards others

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From when I was younger until now I have noticed that women and girls are expected to do the chores and housework while the boys would play. This happens at my Lola's house whenever my cousins and my siblings are together where the girls are tasked to prepare the meals and clean up after. I find it unfair that this happens almost in every household. I understand that some men aren't keen on doing these tasks but that doesn't mean that women have to do it all the time. Since even before I was born these stereotypes have always existed, that boys are supposed to be strong and powerful and girls are expected to be obedient and kind.

I have realized that women can be and are as tough as men and that men can also have emotions and should not be expected to be strong and not have feelings. Both genders should be able to have equal opportunities in life and not gender based ones.

So, I commit to teaching the future generation that gender equality is a fundamental human right, that it is okay to not fit in gender constructs and that we are all equal despite of our gender identity.

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A few years ago, I took this artwork from my cousin without his permission. I grabbed it so I could draw inspiration from it and create something similar since it was simply captivating. I planned to return it later since I knew it wasn't mine to keep. I figured he wouldn't mind if I borrowed it without his permission since it's just a piece of painting and there's nothing special about it. But I was mistaken. My cousin was disappointed and dismayed when he heard the news. I had no idea why he was so touched by it, but I soon realized that that piece of art meant a lot to him. I'm not sure why, but I know I had no right to take it away from him.

As a result of this experience, I commit to accepting the fact that men can be sentimental about their possessions at times. They may not be special to me, but it is always significant to them. I also commit to bettering myself and considering the probable ramifications and impacts of every action I take in order to prevent harming the individuals involved.

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During 6th grade, I befriended a lot of male classmates since I was considered “boyish”. Most of the times when we engage in a conversation, they would say lewd and inappropriate things. Some of them were harsh and even bullies. I have never really understood them nor know why they do those things. Until that is, when one told me about their problems at home. He said that his parents were always fighting and that they were planning to divorce anytime sooner. He acts what he thinks is “cool” at school because he will get bullied if he doesn’t. I felt awful, for he was a good person and I never would’ve thought that a jolly person like him would go through a whole lot. I comforted him and told him that I would listen to him whenever he needs an ear.

I commit to do things that can help a person, even a little. Feelings of a person, whether male or female, is always valid and deserves to be heard.

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My elders have taught me since I was a child that boys should be strong and girls should be the exact opposite. Being the clueless kid that I was, I carried that information with me and applied it to my surroundings. So when our third-grade teacher asked for volunteers to assist her to carry a bunch of books into her office so she could check them, I was surprised to see a girl classmate raise her hand and volunteer to carry the textbooks. I wanted to raise my hand because I was intrigued, but I was hesitant because my teacher had specifically requested boy volunteers. My seatmate, who was a boy, had probably realized that I wanted to assist the teacher as well, so he suggested that we both volunteer to help the teacher. But I told him I was hesitant since boys are expected to perform the heavy lifting because they are stronger than females. But, he told me that I was mistaken and that if the boys could do it, so could I.

From that incident, I realized that women can be as tough as men, for our gender does not measure our capabilities as individuals. We should not follow the old-fashioned mindset, and we all are equal. Stereotypes are untrue beliefs that we should reject since they are outdated and degrading. With that, I commit to promoting and continuing to strive for gender equality, as well as to help instill in the minds of the youth that we are all equals regardless of our gender.

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When I was a kid, I used to play with my older sisters. I did something that made one of my sisters mad. I didn't expect her to be mad since I never really saw her mad before at that time. I think her patience ran out because I was a very energetic kid who didn't care about what happens to me if I had fun. I realized that the nicest people can also be mad too.

I commit to do things that don't make people mad and have limits to what we do to make each other happy.

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There was this one time when I and my girl cousins were on an online random caller which allows people all around the world to interact with each other. We met and talked to a lot of different kinds of people guys and girls. There were some who weren't the nicest nor the most appropriate kinds of people, some were vulgar and some weren't safe at all to talk to. But there were also some who were memorable. The first guys that we talked to were kind, but quiet and sleepy due to time zones. My cousin has a crush on him, and wanted to communicate further but couldn't because we forgot to ask him for his socials. The second one was a guy who was very kind, funny, and lively, we vibe very quickly. We joked around, talked about our interests, and even got to know ourselves better, how similar yet different we are at the same time. We both enjoyed our night and were happy we did get to meet each other. We are still friends even now.

I commit to understanding that not all people are the same. There are men who are sweet, kind, and understanding. I understand that men can be fragile and are human. I commit to cherish my friendship with them if I ever find a man like them

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Temperament, in psychology, is an aspect of personality concerned with emotional dispositions and reactions and their speed and intensity; the term often used to refer to the prevailing mood or mood pattern of a person. For me, I think I was able to control my temper with one of my classmates who has a crush on me. At first I felt irritated because she is always calling and touching me. It seems that she wants to get my attention. At the end of the day I was able to sense that maybe she just wanted to be friends with me. I just tried to be nice to her without giving malice despite what she is trying to show me. I was able to hold my temper and I just understood her. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I would rather be kind to her and be friendly. I'm so happy that I was able to hold my temper because after that incident the lockdown happened. Until now we are still friends and I think she still has feelings for me. It is important that I was able to keep our friendships. I also don't want to think badly about her actions.

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This happened awhile ago before the pandemic started, my family decided it would be nice to go and hang out to SM. Since my family didn't have any cars we decided to ride the jeepney. I sat way further than my family since it didn't have enough space, on the way there I felt someone brushing their fingers on my shoulder, I looked where it came from and it was a guy, his arms were in a womans shoulder. I thought he might have mistaken me for his wife, but no he kept doing it for the past 3-5 mins or so, it made me uncomfortable I wanted to move seats but the jeepney was full so I was stuck there, I tried to move away but to no avail. Eventually he quit brushing my shoulders, and left with his wife, after that my father called for me and I quickly sat beside him, I didn't told them what happened since I still have doubts in my head, maybe he really mistaken me as his wife but it still made me wary of my surroundings.

I commit to never make someone uncomfortable or to never touch a stranger without their permission and to also learn someones boundaries.

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Before I moved out of my grandparents' house, I used to be the one getting bossed around by my lolo. This has been happening since I was little so I eventually got used to it. However, he would get mad if I didn't do something right such as not getting the right shirt. At first, I would silently get mad at him because I used to consider these mistakes as "small mistakes." But now, I have realized that sometimes, this can happen due to stress.

Therefore, I commit to have deeper understanding towards men's feelings and accept these in order to create a stronger bond.

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This happened while I was in fourth grade. I had a guy friend, and we would jokingly hit one other, but not so hard that we could damage each other. We were joking around as usual one day when he randomly slapped my buttocks, which made me uncomfortable, but I didn't mind because I assumed he wouldn't do it again, but later in the day he did it again and it made me uncomfortable, so I told him how I don't like it when he does that and he apologized and promised not to do it again. We're still friends, and he hasn't done that since.

As a result, I commit to constantly knowing and setting limits, as they are critical in any type of relationship. Setting limits is essential, even if they are your closest friends, because it can help protect your relationship with others.

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When I was 11 years old, a friend of my cousin wanted to play hide and seek with me. My innocent self decided to play hide and seek with the boy because at that time, I was bored, and I had nothing else to do. As much as I did not want to believe it, the boy asked me insensitive questions (I would rather not say it.) At first, I was shocked, and I could not move my body. I never expected those insensitive questions from him because we were almost the same age, and I could not believe that someone who was almost a teenager would ask questions like that. I said “no” to the things he wanted me to do, but unfortunately, he still insisted. Luckily, one of my cousins found us playing, so the boy was not able to ”do”  things at me. After that experience, I became more aware of my surroundings and the boys I interact with, especially if I do not know them that well.

Therefore, as much as I did not want to believe it happened, I will just take that experience to raise awareness among many people out there about the danger of not knowing the boundaries or limits in interacting with people of the opposite sex. Furthermore, I commit to helping people, especially the youths out there, by teaching them the virtue of temperance or self-control. I know that many people have experienced what I experienced, and they are scared to express them. So, I will use my voice to spread awareness in simple ways such as advising people on how to properly deal with people of the opposite sex and the importance of knowing the limits or boundaries both sexes should do when communicating with people who have the opposite sex as them.

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Way back in 2016, my father's father or my grandfather died due to his old age. My father was devastated and could not accept the fact that his father was gone. we tried comforting him and telling him it was okay to cry since he was holding back all the emotions he was feeling. He buried himself in work and kept himself busy for a few days. On the day of my grandfather's funeral he started crying hard I was there comforting him as he said all the things he wanted to say. I have realized that, no matter how strong and cheerful person my father is, he could also experience a rollercoaster of emotions.

Therefore, I commit to having a deeper understanding of men's feelings and accepting their emotions in any situation. Also, I commit to being careful of what I'll say and do around the opposite sex so I won't hurt them unintentionally.

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last year, I was told to go outside and buy something, as I was about to head back home, I saw a group of teenage boys. I feel very awkward around them so I went to the other gate, but the gate was locked, and no one was there to unlock it for me (it's pretty far from our house). I had no choice but to pass by them, as I passed by, they started catcalling me which made me uncomfortable. As they started catcalling, I immediately ran back to the house and felt traumatized by that experience.

Therefore, I commit to understanding the limits and boundaries of other people.

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When I was younger, I spent most of my time with my cousins where the majority of whom were boys. In the afternoons, we would spend time playing basketball in our yard. But one time, my cousin got angry and cried because his brothers refused to pass the ball to him. I was shocked at the time because I had been told as a child that boys were tough and don't cry. But now, I realize that boys do cry and all people have emotions.

Therefore, I commit to be more understanding and to avoid stereotyping genders because some of these social beliefs are false and we must all respect one another.
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Last year I went to Anjo world with my cousin, everything was going well until we rode this ride called " Viking" and the operator made jokes about extending the time that the ride was set to. I didn't mind it since I wasn't scared of rides like this, but when I looked at my cousin she looked pale and scared so that's why I said to the operator" Kuya ayaw nalang i dayun na lipong na ako kuyog hehe", but he didn't take me seriously and was still joking about it and that's when I got angry and just shouted louder "Kuya kahibalo ko ga joke raka pero di na katawanan was ka kabati kuya,nalipong na lagi ako kuyog" that's when he realized that I wasn't joking and that he should stop the ride. We got down and I said thank you to the operator and we never rode that ride again since my cousin was scared because of the operator.

I commit to always knowing when to stop and not to cross any boundaries. I will put my trust in God to help me be patient with people like the operator on the ride.

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Last year, a construction worker chatted me on messenger. He chatted to thank me for the food my mother gave him. Of course, as a sign of respect, I replied back. A few days later, It was a bit weird considering that he kept on chatting about how my day is going, what I’m doing right now, and a lot more. I didn’t reply to any of his questions because he wasn't worth my time. But this went on for months and I believed it was getting inappropriate. We confronted him through chat and blocked him. That experience taught me courage, standing up for oneself, and never putting up with anybody’s disrespect.

I commit to setting boundaries when meeting and interacting with other people. Make sure that I respect people if they respect me, and be kind to them if they are kind to me. I pledge to cultivate temperance, discipline, self-control, and courage. All of the aforementioned values are what I would like to teach others about and how important it is to be mindful of what others may feel about your words and actions. And to NEVER ever cross anybody's personal space. I commit to teaching others the importance of boundaries in opposite sexes; to be able to have a healthy relationship with them while still minding limits.

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I have a similar experience with Krystal. There was a time when I made a mistake that made my father really mad. It was my first time seeing my dad cry so hard because he always shows us that he is brave and strong in any situation. It was my first time seeing him be vulnerable and hurt. He let out his bottled-up feelings.

I commit to understand that men can be vulnerable sometimes and they can show their true emotions. That they can sometimes be weak and fragile. I commit to understand that they can be emotional and they can cry too. I commit to being considerate of my father's feelings. I commit to being careful of what I do so that I will not hurt his feelings anymore.

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Back in sixth grade, I was assigned in a class with someone who had a crush on me. As someone quite naive, I vulgarly told him that I didn't like him and that he wasn't my type at all. I kept pushing him away until I noticed that our situation was taking a toll on our friendship already.  I only later realized that I had hurt him by being so incautious with my words.

Therefore, I commit to acknowledge the fact that men can be vocal with their feelings as they can also feel vulnerable at the same time; they are humans after all. I also commit to be more careful in handling love confessions and practice self-control.

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All through out my childhood, I have always befriended boys more than girls. I thought they were quite funny, scary and strong; they actually were nice to hang out with. As I grew up, I understand their own feelings and struggles as the opposite sex. Though some may step boundaries sexually or etc, which if you are these, please stop and control yourself. Anyway, seeing them make me say that we are just equals; patience, outbursts and such. I commit to understand that making them feel like a human being (and not judging them just because of chromosomes) would be quite alright and comforting. Even for both gender.

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I was catcalled by the opposite sex a lot ever since I hit puberty. Ever since those encounters happened, it has lead me to always have my guard up whenever I go outside and interact with people I know nothing of.

The experience still haunts me today but I'm thankful that God made me strong to face such scenarios. It has made me realize and commit to the thought that we should all respect each other's boundaries no matter what.

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When I was in elementary I made my father angry. I felt really shocked as my father is a very patient man and rarely gets angry. I didn't understand it at the time but now, I've come to realize that even patient people can run out of it too.

I commit to understand that men can have emotional outburst too, they just handle it very differently. I promise to God that whenever I witness my dad getting pent up in anger or in any other emotions rather, I would try my best to understand and analyze the situation as to why my father is feeling like that.

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I have a similar experience with Trisha. There was a time when I was walking alone at night since I was asked by my mother to buy vinegar. There was a drunk man beside the sari-sari store and he was saying inappropriate things to me. The nice owner of the store shooed him off and I came back home. That experience taught me to never treat someone that way.

I commit to know the boundaries when interacting with other people, and make sure I don't make anyone uncomfortable. I commit to practice self-control and teach those I know about it too.

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When I was in elementary, we had a classmate that I didn't understand. I really didn't interact with her because she has a different personality.

Now I realize that I should have been understanding with my classmate so we can be friends and really know their personalities so we can at least bond.

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Weeks ago, someone chatted to me it was a boy but I don't know who he was, he said that he had a crush on me but I never knew him honestly, he asked me if I have a boyfriend and what are my goals in life and would I consider having a lover. I was able to turn him down by saying it politely since I am not ready yet to have a partner. I have my priorities in life.

I commit to understand that sometimes men can be a little pushy and I promise God that I will be patient and He will find the right person for me.

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When I was young, I was on my way to meet with my father. So I asked a neighbor if he saw him, he said he did and touched my face. I hurriedly walked away and didn't continue to find my father. I went directly home.

I commit to understand the limits and boundaries of people. To never cross someone's personal space. I will put my faith in God because I know the right person will come at the right time.

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Example:
During my first year in college I have met a strange guy who claimed to be my ex-boyfriend. I feel worried that time because I didn't know him. Fortunately, I was able to went home safe. I have learned from that experience on how to deal with strangers.
I commit to understand that men can also be fragile. I promise that when God permits and provide me the right man for me, I wil not hurt him.