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Losing a pet can feel just like losing a part of your family. It can be incredibly sad, and sometimes it feels like nobody really understands how hard it is, which can make it feel even lonelier. Read this article to find ways to cope.

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Support if you have been bereaved by a pet.

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Dr. Lucy Pain's books (and more) to help talk about dying

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A Dying Matters Awareness Week selection of the best books, podcasts and films to help us talk about death, dying and grief, from Palliative Medicine Consultant, Dr. Lucy Pain.

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Talking about death at work can be tricky and feel out of place. Here are some tips to talk more openly about death, whether you have experienced losing someone yourself or if you wish to support a grieving colleague.

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What to do when someone receives a terminal diagnosis

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This step-by-step guide has advice for when you or someone close to you has been given a terminal diagnosis, and ways you can access hospice care.

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If you or a loved one are struggling with any mental health concern, the Hub of Hope can help you find the most relevant and readily available support near you, when you need it.

Offering over 1,800 local, regional, grassroots and national services, the hub includes an instant help function, allowing you to talk directly to the Samaritans or access support via the Crisis Text line.

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If you or a loved one are struggling with any mental health concern, the Hub of Hope can help you find the most relevant and readily available support near you, when you need it. Offering over 1,800 local, regional, grassroots and national services, the hub includes an instant help function, allowing you to talk directly to the Samaritans or access support via the Crisis Text line.

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If you want to know more about who Compassionate Employers are - click on the link.

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Compassionate Employers is a workplace bereavement, carer and illness support programme developed by Hospice UK to help support your employees experiencing grief, bereavement and caring responsibilities at work.

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Our Essential Membership is the perfect starter-pack for all organisations looking to develop compassionate leadership and foundational support for their employees who are facing terminal illness, caring responsibilities and bereavement.

Included in the membership:

All-staff access to quarterly Awareness Day webinar series including Carers Week, Suicide Prevention week, Grief Awareness Week;

All-staff access to our Members Only Hub, complete with tailored step by step guidance for Compassionate Leaders including HR professionals, Line Managers and Employees;

All-staff access to our award nominated "Compassionate Conversations" E-learning;

Access to best practice policy templates;

Compassionate Employers Mini-Assessment and Award.

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Sign up to our webinars and workshops, and watch recordings for insightful tips on how to equip managers, communicate with families, and look after bereaved colleagues.

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If you are struggling with baby and pregnancy loss, it can feel like a very difficult time. Click on the link to find out what support is available.

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Download your free 'Get to know me' document. This document is a helpful tool for both managers and employees. It’s designed to make it easier to have open, honest conversations and create a workplace where people feel safe, understood, and supported.

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It can be hard to find the right words to say to someone who is grieving. Follow this document to find the right things to say and give the best support to someone who needs it.

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It can be very difficult to know what to say or do when someone you know is grieving. You might worry that you are being intrusive, or are saying the wrong thing. However it is better to stay in contact than not say anything at all.

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Find out if your organisation is a compassionate employer with our free mini assessment.

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charity providing signposting to bereavement support uk wide

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AtaLoss.org is the UK's signposting and information website for bereaved people

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If you have lost someone to suicide, you may be feeling a whirlwind of emotions. Click on the link to get the support you need.

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The New Normal provides free non-judgemental peer support for adults facing bereavement. Peer-to-peer support is a model that TNN has proudly embraced since its inception. We believe the best therapy is talking with others with similar life experiences.

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We are a community-building charity who believe in the importance and power of co-production with existing communities.

As part of our Building Supportive Communities Project, we train other charities, organisations, groups and individuals to deliver dedicated peer support within their own communities.

The Project, funded at present through Rethink Mental Illness, allows us to share our learning, tools and experience with a diverse range of communities so they can co-produce support that is reactive to their nuances and needs.

In addition, The New Normal have also developed Compassionate Communities workplace training to empower your organisation. This is a unique opportunity to foster empathy, vulnerability, and openness within your workforce, with a bespoke training program that paves the way for a new workplace culture where authenticity flourishes and well-being is centred.

Find out more about these offerings on our Training page.

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Get help with grief from the NHS

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Experts generally accept that we go through 4 stages of bereavement or grief:

1. Accepting that your loss is real

2. Experiencing the pain of grief

3. Adjusting to life without the person or thing you have lost

4. Putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting it into something new

Most people go through all these stages, but you will not necessarily move smoothly from one to the next.

Your grief might feel chaotic and out of control, but these feelings will eventually become less intense over time.

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Experts generally accept that we go through 4 stages of bereavement or grief: Accepting that your loss is real Experiencing the pain of grief Adjusting to life without the person or thing you have lost Putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting it into something new Most people go through all these stages, but you will not necessarily move smoothly from one to the next.

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It can be difficult knowing what to do about work when you have a terminal illness. However there are laws in place to protect you, which is explained on this page.

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A safe space to talk through taboos and address the reality of losing someone close to you.

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Welcome to Let's Talk About Loss, a safe space to talk through taboos and address the reality of losing someone close to you when you are young.

A 2018 survey by Co-op Funeralcare found that 16 to 29-year-olds are the age group most likely to bottle up their grief and not talk about it, with 24% saying they "kept it to themselves" when suffering a bereavement. We're passionate about starting conversations and ending that taboo.

We run peer-led meet up groups in cities across the UK for young people aged 18 to 35 who have been bereaved at any stage. We believe that by meeting other young people who have experienced loss, we can share our stories and our struggles without fear, judgement or awkward silences. We'd love you to join us - find your local meet up group here!

In light of the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic, our meet ups are all virtual. We still have our blog, and you can submit your story by emailing blog@letstalkaboutloss.org. Thanks for visiting our website, we hope you find comfort and support here.

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Read Stephen's personal story of his experience with cancer and his thought process of having a terminal illness.

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A Last Hurrah? Reflections on a Terminal Diagnosis

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Stephen Bevan reflects on the four years since his cancer diagnosis - and shares what he’s learned about navigating his way through his ‘most recent and difficult chapter’.

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Sometimes we want to drown the pain in movies and tv shows. Here are a list of the best movies about grief and loss - to make our own pain feel less isolating and more normal

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The 12 Best Movies About Grief and Loss, Ranked

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Supporting someone with a terminal illness

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Supporting someone with a terminal illness

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What to say to someone with a terminal illness

The idea of a terminal illness - an illness that cannot be cured and is likely to lead to someone's death - can feel scary or unfamiliar. It can feel hard to know what to say, either because you just are not sure or for fear of saying the wrong thing. In this section, we offer some tips around what to say to someone with a terminal illness.

Be led by the person living with a terminal illness

You do not have to be the one to lead the conversation. They will show or tell you what they feel comfortable talking about, and what they'd rather not. And if you are not sure, you could ask, 'Is there anything you do not want to talk about?'

Try not to avoid the topic of terminal illness

You may feel awkward asking about their terminal diagnosis, especially if they do not bring it up either. But it's usually better to acknowledge it and check in with them - they will tell you if they are not ready to talk about it.

You could start by asking very open questions to get the conversation going. For example, asking, 'How are you feeling?' or even 'Do you feel up for talking about the diagnosis?'

It's okay to admit if you do not know what to say or how to say it. You're still offering support by having the conversation and being there for that person. For example, you could say, 'I'm not sure what the right words are, but I want to let you know that I'm here for you.'

If the person feels comfortable, you may even be able to ask questions or find out where you can get more information about their diagnosis or illness.

Try to avoid giving advice or comparing experiences

It might be tempting to try and 'fix' the situation, or share your own, similar experiences or those of someone else you know. But this is the time to listen, acknowledge and try to understand their feelings and experience. You could say, 'I cannot imagine how this must feel for you' or 'It sounds like it's been a really difficult time.'

Keep sharing things about your life

You may feel that whatever's happening in your life, including any problems, is nothing compared to what someone with a terminal illness is going through. But sometimes people living with a terminal illness may feel cut off from everyday life, so sharing your stories might help them feel more connected.

If you're unsure whether this would be helpful, you can always check with them first. For example, you could ask, 'What do you feel like talking about today?' or 'Do you mind if I share something about [what's happening] with you?'

Be prepared for their reaction

The person who is ill will probably have lots of emotions about their diagnosis, and the good and bad days that come with that. They may seem different to you, or react in a way you would not expect. Be patient and try not to take any reaction personally. Remember that these conversations are about offering them support, and that might mean letting out all the emotions they're feeling.

If you're worried you have upset them or pushed the conversation too far, you could say, 'I'm sorry I've said the wrong thing. Do you need some space?'

The most important thing is to let the person you care about lead the conversation, to go at their pace, and to talk about things they feel comfortable with.

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Caring for someone with a terminal illness

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If you are a carer for someone with a terminal illness, you may have access to benefits and further support. There are many resources available to receive extra help if needed. Click on the link to find out more

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The help available if you have a terminal illness

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Grants for people with a terminal illness

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Living with a terminal illness can bring up a range of emotions, but whatever you are feeling there are ways to find support. Click on the link to access support through the NHS.

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There's no right or wrong way to feel when you're told you have a terminal illness, which is a health condition that cannot be cured and that you'll most likely die from. You might feel numb at first, and unable to take in the news, or feel calm and matter-of-fact about dying.

Your feelings

As time passes, you may experience a range of emotions. It's normal to feel some or all of the following:

You may also feel isolated and alone, even if you have family and friends around you.

You might not experience all of these feelings and, if you do, they'll not necessarily come in any particular order. Whatever you feel, you do not have to go through it alone.

Getting your diagnosis

Hearing that your illness cannot be cured can be a frightening experience. Many people will be unable to take everything in. If you're alone in the consultation, ask if you can bring a relative or friend in to hear everything the doctor has to say. You may need to ask for a follow-up appointment so that someone can be with you.

Ask the doctor what support is available to you. They may refer you for additional specialist palliative care alongside the care you're already receiving.

A GP will also know of any local sources of support. Get in touch with a GP to explain what's happened and ask what help is available near you. This may include:

information services about your illness

financial help you may be entitled to

support groups and counselling

Hospice UK's Dying Matters website provides a range of resources for people affected by terminal illnesses.

Find someone to talk to

Not everyone wants to talk about what they're going through. However, a terminal (sometimes called life-limiting) diagnosis can bring up worries and fears, and it can help to talk about these so they do not start to feel impossible to deal with.

Family, friends and health professionals

You might want to talk to your partner, family, or friends, or to a doctor, nurse, counsellor, or religious minister.

People close to you will be dealing with their own feelings about your diagnosis. If you or they are finding it hard to talk about it, you might want to talk to someone who is not as close to you, like a counsellor.

Your doctor or nurse can help you find a counsellor. You can also search online to find services in your area.

It can be useful to have someone to talk to at night-time if you cannot sleep. Make sure there's someone you can ring (a friend, relative or Samaritans), but also recognise that you do not have to lie in the dark and try to sleep. You can turn on the light and do something else.

Questions and worries about your future

Knowing that you have a life-limiting condition leaves you living with uncertainty. You'll probably have questions with no definite answers, such as:

how and when your body is going to change

the effect this will have on your independence and relationships

what will happen at work

exactly how much time you have left

Not knowing exactly what's going to happen to you can feel overwhelming and upsetting. It's normal to feel like this, and it might be helpful to talk with others who are in a similar situation, and hear how they cope with these feelings.

Ask your doctor or nurse about local support groups for people who are living with a life-limiting illness, or for people who have the same condition as you.

Many specialist charities offer support through local groups, email contact, phone lines and web forums. For example, the Marie Curie website has an online community.

If you think you're depressed

It's normal to feel shock, sadness, anger and helplessness.

But for some people, the feeling they're unable to cope with their situation does not go away, and they feel too low to be able to do any of the things they want to.

If this happens to you and these feelings persist, it may be helpful to talk to a doctor.

Medicine can help, and counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can make a difference to how you're coping.

Living with dying

One step at a time

What you're dealing with can feel overwhelming, but you may be able to make it feel less so by thinking about it as smaller "pieces".

Take one day at a time, or one week at a time. Decide on some small, achievable goals, so that you gain confidence - for example putting family photos into an album, or visiting a friend.

You can still think about bigger issues, such as where you would like to receive your care in the future, but try not to feel that you have to tackle everything at once.

Write down your worries

Some people feel helpless and that everything is out of control. Writing down worries and questions can help you decide what's important to you and how to tackle it.

If you want, you can use what you've written to help you talk about things with your family, friends and carers.

Look after yourself

Try to take some time to do things you enjoy.

Complementary therapies, such as massage and aromatherapy, may help you feel better. It may help the people close to you if they know you're looking after yourself. There may be things that you can do together.

Accept offers of help from friends and family, and give specific examples of support you need and would like. For example, taking you shopping, bringing you meals to put in the freezer, or driving you to appointments.

More information and support

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What is anxiety?

Anxiety is a feeling of worry or fear. In the short term, it helps us be alert and ready to act if we're feeling under threat. But if you're feeling like this a lot of the time, then it may be affecting how you're able to live from day to day.

Having anxiety may make it harder for you to cope with your illness or health condition.

For some people, it can mean that they lose trust in their healthcare team or they may stop taking medication. Anxiety may make some people them feel like they no longer want to live.

If you're thinking about ending your life

If you're feeling like you want to die or you're having suicidal thoughts, it's important to tell someone. Speak to your doctor as soon as possible.

If you need urgent help, or are supporting someone who does, call the Samaritans free helpline on 116 123. It's available 24 hours a day.

Types of anxiety

There are different types of anxiety. These include Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD), phobias, social anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder.

You may have had one or more of these types of anxiety before you were diagnosed with a terminal illness. Or you may have only developed anxiety since your illness.

Panic attacks or anxiety attacks

Some people have panic attacks (also called anxiety attacks or panic disorder) where they feel intense or overwhelming fear and discomfort.

Panic attacks can come on suddenly with no warning and can last up to 30 minutes. They may cause physical symptoms such as chest pain, dizziness, breathlessness, sweating or shaking.

What causes anxiety?

If you're living with a terminal illness, it's natural to feel anxious if you're feeling uncertain about your future. Or you may have anxiety about the possibility of dying. Other causes of anxiety if you're living with a terminal illness can include:

worry about pain or about dying with pain

worry that new pain could be a sign that, for example, cancer has spread or come back

medicines - anxiety can be a side effect of some medicines

the end of treatment - people can find it hard to adapt if their medical appointments stop or become less often

being cut off from friends and family

worries about family or friends - for example, worrying about being a burden or leaving them when you die

money worries

spiritual distress.

You may feel anxious if you're having trouble getting to see your doctor or other healthcare professionals. You might also feel anxious if you're seeing different healthcare professionals or having to go to places for your healthcare that you have not been to before.

These worries can build up over time and it sometimes only takes something small to trigger anxiety.

How is anxiety managed?

Living with a terminal illness can make you more likely to experience anxiety, but it does not mean you have to cope with it on your own.

If anxiety is affecting your day-to-day life, speak to your doctor about treatment and support to manage your anxiety. Treatment can help you to cope better with anxiety and manage negative thoughts and feelings.

There are things you can do that can help you manage anxiety and that support your wellbeing. These include:

psychological or talking therapy, like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or counselling

self-help resources

medication

combination therapy, for example a combination of talking therapy and medication

other therapies, like relaxation, art therapy, and music therapy

support groups

exercise.

Psychological or talking therapies for anxiety

Your doctor may refer you to a specialist like a psychologist, psychiatrist, counsellor or specialist nurse for more support.

Psychological or talking therapies can help some people to manage anxiety. But it may take a few weeks before it starts to feel like it's helping.

Psychological therapies can include:

cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)

relaxation therapies

counselling

art therapy

music therapy

group therapy

mindfulness.

You can ask your GP about being referred for psychological therapy or you may be able to refer yourself by contacting local services directly.

You have to pay to see a counsellor privately. But you can also talk to your GP about seeing a counsellor through the NHS for free.

Medication for anxiety

If your anxiety is severe and is affecting your wellbeing, your GP may prescribe medication.

Types of medication that can be prescribed for anxiety if you're living with a terminal illness include:

sedatives like benzodiazepines such as lorazepam, which may help if you have problems sleeping

antidepressants, such as mirtazapine

antipsychotic drugs.

How can I help someone with anxiety?

If you're a carer, family member or friend of someone with anxiety, you may want to understand how best to help them.

People cope with anxiety in different ways. Some people prefer to sit and talk, while others need practical help. Some people may not tell anyone that they're feeling anxious, so you may need to ask them if they're worried about anything and if they have any symptoms of anxiety.

If you know what's causing someone's anxiety, this can help you find the best way of supporting them. Find out what support is available locally by asking their healthcare team or visiting the NHS website. It can also help to ask whether the person has used these services before and if they helped.

People may need practical or emotional support to help them manage their anxiety.

Some people may behave aggressively if they're worried and angry about their situation. If you can allow them to express themselves safely, it can help them deal with their anxiety.

Tips for talking to people with anxiety

People with anxiety often say it helps them when they feel listened to. Here are some tips for talking to someone about their anxiety:

Reassure them that anxiety is common, especially in people receiving palliative care.

Acknowledge their feelings without judging them or minimising them.

Ask open-ended questions.

Allow pauses in the conversation without rushing to fill them.

Repeat or rephrase what they have said to you to show them that you've understood it.

Use everyday language where you can. And ask healthcare professionals to explain any medical terms they use.

Ask for information in the person's preferred language and format.

Take time to continue to build your relationship with them, so they feel able to open up to you.

Ask them how their anxiety affects them and what makes it better or worse.

Ask them how you can help when they're feeling anxious. For example, they may want you to talk to them calmly, distract them with another activity or help them with breathing exercises.

Try not to pressure them into doing anything they're not ready for - this can make anxiety worse.

When should I ask for help?

Contact the person's GP if you think they have symptoms of anxiety or another mental health problem.

If anxiety is long-lasting or is affecting someone's daily life, they may need psychological or medical treatment. Their GP can suggest self-help resources and local support services. Or they can prescribe medicines or refer the person for psychological therapies.

Sometimes anxiety is caused by practical problems, such as money or housing. Other professionals, such as solicitors or social workers may be able to help.

Some people may seek comfort from a spiritual or faith leader.

If someone is having medical treatment for their anxiety, you can ask their healthcare team for details of what you should do and who to contact in a crisis.

Some people become agitated and restless towards the end of their life. This is sometimes called terminal agitation. Tell the GP, district nurse or specialist palliative nurse if someone is showing these signs.

Getting support as a family member or friend

Anxiety can also affect you as a family member, friend or carer. You can ask the person's healthcare team to help you by:

first telling them how you're feeling and what your worries are

asking them to keep you informed about changes to the person's illness or condition (after you have asked for permission for this from the person themselves)

supporting you with how to care for the person, if you want to do this

asking them to explain what to expect when the person is in the last few days of their life, if you want to know this

asking them about any practical help you need, such as respite care or help with claiming benefits.

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Fancy listening to a podcast to feel a little less alone? Click on the link to see the 21 best grief podcasts.

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Grief is inevitable. Whether losing a loved one, family member or grieving a change in circumstances, grief is a part of life. It can still be incredibly difficult to talk about, however, and many change the subject without really dealing with it. If you’re looking for companionship in your grief journey or coping skills

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Our Compassionate Leadership training boosts morale, retention, and performance. Click on the link to find out more and book a session!

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Our Compassionate Leadership Training gives managers the skills to support staff through bereavement, illness and caring responsibilities.

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Click on the link to view our YouTube playlist. We have a variety of videos, from personal stories, carers week webinars and panellist workshops!

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Talking about death to someone with dementia

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Talking about death to someone with dementia

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Dementia is a set of symptoms that causes problems with memory, thinking and understanding. If you want to find out more on how to talk to someone with dementia about death and dying, then click on the link.

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Talking about death and dying to someone with dementia

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The advice on this page can help you plan the future care of someone with dementia, as well as tips for how to talk to them about death and dying.

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Talking to children about death and dying

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Talking to children about death and dying

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Talking to a child about a topic such as death can be really tricky. If you want to find ways to navigate these difficult conversations, click on the above link.

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How to talk to children about death and dying

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It is important to have honest conversations with children about death and dying, because they will encounter it at some point.

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This guide is designed to provide insights and information that you can use to develop policy and recommendations that are aligned to your particular organisation and employees with terminal illness.

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Supporting employees with terminal illness - What Works Wellbeing

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A guide to help you think through this important area in a way that’s practical and supports you to develop plans and policies.

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Caring for someone at home at the same time as you’re in employment can be a lot to manage. Find out more and see what support is available.

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Caring for someone at home at the same time as working can be a lot to manage. On this page you’ll find out what you are entitled to and where to get support.

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If you are a carer and struggle to cope sometimes, it can feel overwhelming, lonely and difficult. Hospice UK have made a Carers Toolkit to help guide you through these moments when you need extra support. Click on the document to find out more.

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Working out whether you need to pay for care can be complicated, as it depends on the type of care that is needed, where you live, and personal circumstances. This page has information and links to guidance.

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Working out whether you need to pay for care can be complicated, as it depends on the type of care that is needed, where you live, and personal circumstances.

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Click on the link to read Priya's personal story and more about the equality gap in caring.

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This week is Carer’s Week—and it’s time we start talking more openly about something that affects millions of people but is still so often invisible: the equality gap in caring.

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Carer’s assessments - Social care and support guide

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See if you can get support from your council, such as extra money or a break from caring.

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Good Grief Festival - Free Virtual Events

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Fancy listening to a podcast for Carers? 

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Fancy listening to a podcast for Carers? 

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Choose from one these many podcasts

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The Carers' Centre - Bath and North East Somerset

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The Carers’ Centre - Bath and North East Somerset

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Podcasts for carers | The Carers’ Centre

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Do you look after a friend or family member? We’ve created a specific list of top podcasts just for you. You’ll hear stories, advice and fantastic life-hacks.