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because they are individuals

Promotes their individuality, identity, self-esteem and wellbeing

Allows services to be tailored to the individual

Builds bonds of trust and respect

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Everybody deserves the right to be valued.
Survival mode explains why I get angry, anxious, or sad when I feel less valued.
Trust — Nothing is more important than the trusted relationships we have with everyone

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We all want the same thing: simply to be valued by somebody else. Think about every person you have ever met. They just want to feel valued. I want to feel valued, and so do you. By someone. Right?

I think this universal human need has very ancient roots. Millions of years ago, we were not the fastest animal, not the strongest, not the biggest animal. We were isolated mammals scurrying around, trying not to be lunch. We were prey.

And then we formed these small social groups, and our survival potential increased so dramatically that human beings are everywhere. But to stay a member of that protective group, you have to contribute something: You have to have value.

When we sense that somebody else sees us with less value, we worry that we will be kicked out of our protective group, and some predator will come and eat us. That we will be lunch. That we will not survive.

This survival mode explains why I get angry, anxious, or sad when I feel less valued. The limbic part of my brain worries I may get kicked out of my protective group and be easier prey. Right or wrong, just the perception of being devalued activates our ancient, irrational, emotional, and impulsive limbic response.

At that moment in time, it's the best you can do. But if you don't like it, you can change it. You can retain your self-worth and value. Instead of seeing people as dong less than they can, see people as doing the best that they can.

Rather than getting defensive when feeling devalued, you can wonder why a person is trying to make you feel less valuable. We all want the same thing: to feel valued. Why is this person trying to feel valuable by putting me down? What is going on?

I don't like it. But rather than worry, I will wonder. And after being reflexive, I can be reflective. I can look again at why they do what they do.

Look again. Again look. Re-spect. Treat that person with respect. I will respect that they see me as less valuable, but I don't have to agree with it.

When is the last time you got angry at someone treating you with respect? You don't.

When I feel respected, I feel valued. So will that other person. When I feel valued, I am more likely to trust. So does that other person. Respect leads to value, and value leads to trust. A person who feels valued develops trust in that person.

And now you have formed a group. And are less likely to be lunch for some predator. Respect leads to value, and value leads to trust, the very foundation of a group. By treating each other with respect, we are decreasing those fearful limbic responses, and that is a contribution to the group.

You can use value to remain valuable.

At each and every moment, you can remind someone of their value. And whenever you remind someone of their value, you increase your own value.

We can all relate to each other. This common thread binds us. At each and every moment in time, you can remind someone of their value. And whenever you remind someone of their value, you increase your own value.

You control no one; you influence everyone. What kind of influence do you want to be?

Being judged usually makes you feel less valuable, activating a defensive limbic response. In a polarized world, divided into contentious groups, one tribe begins to devalue another tribe. Now millions of people may feel disrespected and distrusted by each other. What happens then?

We do not need to continue going down that road.

Now more than ever, the coronavirus has shown us how much more we have in common than separates us. We all want the same thing-to survive. But we no longer need to have someone else perish to thrive or die to survive. We are all stronger when we cooperate than when we compete.

Respect leads to value, and value leads to trust. People who trust feel safer than those who fear. You can use value to make someone less stressed, less angry, anxious, or sad, and more confident that they can remain in their protective group. Try it today, at home, during these crazy days of Corona. Remind someone of their value and see what happens. Watch how they respond and how you feel.

We all want the same thing. We are more alike than different. At our core, we are all part of one group, one tribe: It's called humanity.

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We all want the same thing: simply to be valued by somebody else. Think about every person you have ever met. They just want to feel valued. I want to feel valued, and so do you. By someone. Right? I think this universal human need has very ancient roots.

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Qualification: Level 1 Diploma in Introduction to Health and Social Care
Unit: 1.2: Understand the principles and values in health and social care (adults and children and young people), early years and childcare
Learning outcome: 2. Know ways to respect and value those who access services in health and social care (adults and children and young people), early years and childcare
Assessment criteria: 2.1. Describe why those who access services should be valued as individuals

Because they are individuals

Promotes their individuality, identity, self-esteem and wellbeing

Allows services to be tailored to the individual

Builds bonds of trust and respect

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2.1. Describe why those who access services should be valued as individuals

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Qualification: Level 1 Diploma in Introduction to Health and Social Care Unit: 1.2: Understand the principles and values in health and social care (adults and children and young people), early years and childcare Learning outcome: 2. Know ways to respect and value those who access services in health and social care (adults and children and young people), early years and childcare Assessment criteria: 2.1.

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6 Things Kids Need From Adults to Feel Valued

Kids are a rather interesting group! They perceive the world entirely differently than adults do and their expectations far outweigh the typical adult's. Their understanding of themselves in this big world makes them susceptible to a host of emotions, some good and some bad.

Because children have not fully developed their persona, skills, and self-esteem, it is important that the adults in their world actively seek to increase their confidence. From this, kids will begin to feel valued and respected. When kids feel valued, loved, heard, and respected, they develop an identity based on these responses. Most children don't demand much; they simply want to have a place in the world and in the lives of those they love. When my mother began integrating me into her adult world at the tender age of 9-years-old, I began to develop an awareness of life around me, who I was, and how I fit into the world. I also felt that I was less reactive to peer pressure. When I struggled with something, she was the one I went to. When I felt peer pressure, she was the trusted friend who offered wise input.

Kids need the adults in their lives to help them form a healthy identity and level of self-esteem. Here are 6 ways to help your child in this area of emotional development:

1. Offer Companionship: This is the most straightforward tip, but sadly, many parents neglect this aspect of their relationship with their child. Time spent alone with your child is important because it builds respect, closeness, and relationship. As a result, your child will feel comfortable to come to you when they need you.

2. Share Love: Kids need to know that they are loved by the adults in their lives. Even if a marriage or relationship is no longer workable, the child involved needs to feel assured that they are still loved and supported by both parents. Your child also needs to know that you love them unconditionally. Your son may not become a pro football player, but he is one of a kind! Children need non-judgmental, unconditional positive regard.

3. Use Conversation: This may seem like a no brainer, but adults often feel that kids will not enjoy conversing with them. This is not true! Most kids enjoy speaking with adults because it gives them a sense of maturity. Conversing about world events, sports, hobbies, interests, what happened at school, etc. will open the door for your child to feel comfortable enough to come to you if they need advice or help.

4. Set Boundaries: Even though companionship and conversation are necessary components, you also want your children to know that you are the adult in the household, raising them. You never want your kids to feel they are "on your level." This is a tricky part of parenting: you want to offer structure and control so that your child feels secure but you want to support them by valuing and respecting them as a unique person. To get this balance right, you have to consider the personality of your child. Some kids need stricter guidance and boundaries, while others do well with more independence.

5. Show Respect: Many parents believe that by not using profanity or speaking rudely to their children, they are treating them with respect. This is partially correct. But kids also need to be listened to by an adult who appreciates their input so they can feel that they "make sense." When you converse with your child and in turn, listen to them, you are sending the message that you value and respect their mind.

6. Develop a track record: Kids usually judge adults based on previous observations of character. Therefore, parents and other adults need to be consistent. Although children lack the sophisticated conceptualizations of the world that adults have, take the mind of the child seriously and consistently show respect for and appreciation of the developing individual that he or she is.

Give your kids your time, respect, and love. You can't fail!

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6 Things Kids Need From Adults to Feel Valued

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Kids are a rather interesting group! They perceive the world entirely differently than adults do and their expectations far outweigh the typical adult's. Their understanding of themselves in this big world makes them susceptible to a host of emotions, some good and some bad.