Ria D. wrote a story about if it makes a girl a bitch if she turns down a guy that put a lot of effort into asking her. The girl turned down two guys who went all out to ask her to prom so everyone thought she was a bitch but in reality it did not make her any less of a good person. I believe guys just expect the girl to say yes if they do something cute because most girls would. However I believe girls today are more willing to serve to guys and throw themselves at them for a certain reasons. This relates to the Japanese Courts because the men expected the women to serve them, but when one women wanted experience life by herself an not serve a man she was looked at differently.

Adam I like what you said about how a guy controls a girl. I also saw this when I read the article. I also agree with your statement about how this gives the girl no choice in her decision because of society.

I agree with what you said because in our society today when a guy asks a girl to a dance he expects her to say no and doesn't think that he will get turned down.

I agree with both of your thoughts. I think you guys are right about how a guy controls a girl in this situation and she almost has no choice but to say yes because of what society has labeled girls who say no.

I agree that girls are often pressured into saying yes to going to a dance with a guy. Usually the pressuring is done from the guy's friends but can be from anyone. By saying no, a girl has a "b*tchy" or stuck-up attitude for hurting the guys feeling but most guys would agree that they would rather have the girl say no then them pressuring the girl into going with him and then getting ditched or not having fun at the dance. To prevent the guy not having a good time at the dance, women shouldn't be controlled by men and expectations.

I strongly agree with Katie's response. As much as I support feminists and strong women, I know when I am older I will want a husband to provide for me and my family. And I also believe its good for women to have a man to lean on.

Libby, I strongly agree with your responce. That a girl should kindly and respectfully go to a dance with a boy that asks her. Any girl can have fun with the guy that asks her even if she didnt want to go with him. Being a good person and going to the dance would be my choice. At least you got asked!

I agree that girls can be pressured to dance with boys. Coming from a female, I wouldn't want to be called a b*itch just because I didn't want to dance with a particular boy. It all depends on how you feel. I also agree with Steven when he says that girls do not want to be stereotyped as a B*tch when they shouldn't be looked at like that.

I agree with what you said, the article is about how the a girl is a bitch for saying no to a boy that asked her in a cute way. I also strongly agree with the last sentance on how the article is about guys thinking the girl will always say yes but the article is all about how girls actually want the opposite that the girl wants a choice.

I agree with you that in today’s society it is hard for a girl to say no because of the time and effort a guy spent trying to ask her. It is completely
unfair to label a girl a “bitch” just because she has the right to say no if she doesn’t feel comfortable going with a guy. It is unfair for someone to go
with someone else if they have been pressured or do not feel comfortable going,
and if they say no then to be called a bitch.

I agree that teens believe becoming a feminist means being an extreme feminist only. To teens, there is no in between. In reality, someone can have feminist views but they don't have to call themselves a true feminist.

I have played my fair share of online video games and I still can't believe how surprised people are when a girl joins. It will be great when people realize that girls play video games too. In adition the sexism present in most video games is also fairly anoying.

I agree that being called a feminist is not necessarily a bad thing. It can be considered good because it means that you stand up for who you are and it shows that you are independent.

I agree with Emily, that girl shouldn't agree on going out with a guy just because it is expected of her. Even the boy knows that she is supposed to say yes, which only makes it harder for the girl to say no. And all of that makes it harder for the boy to actually hear no and accept it. 

A lot of times the question is not even a question, its more like an announcement with question mark at the end. The proposal should be asked in a way that makes it possible to say yes or no.

I agree with Lindsay that she was labeled rudely just for saying no to them for the dance. i also agree that women are looked down on for making there own desicons.

 I agree with you on how girls are pressured. They are forced to make decisions that they might not want to. This is similar to the courts and how the men controlled the women and tried to be in charge.

I agree that feminism is given a bad name and most men are against feminism which could potentially scare off younger women who are not married.

I agree with u, though I do believe strongly in feminism, people take it to far. Some women try to make themselves superior to men, which defeats the purpose of it. I think the purpose of feminism is to use the unique perspectives of the female spirit to better our world.

Re: Tiffany Sieg

I agree with what Tiffany had to say throughout her response.  I agree with the fact that standing up for women's rights is important and being given this right to fight against sexism is an honor.  I believe that men and women should be equal unlike the Japanese Courts.  I also agree with her belief in equality and the right for women to make their own choices.  It is important to many women, including myself, to be independent and not have a man to rely on.  I do not agree with the way women were treated back then in the Japanese courts.

You took the words exactly out of my mouth. I wouldn't have put it any other way than you have. Girls should never be expected to do something they don't want to do, even if a guy goes an extra mile to do something for them.

I totally agree with you on this! I think all women are feminists because we want to be equal with other people. I also think men think the same way towards their rights. I also agree that being a femanist is not a bad thing, but actually a positive thing! I think its what the government wants!

I agree with you that the girl should not have been looked down on for declining a guy when being asked to prom. If the girl was respectful about saying no and just told him that he would probably have more fun with someone else, he may agree and find someone else to ask. If she does not think she would have fun or does not want to go with the guy, I do not think she should be judged for saying no especially because she might just be waiting for someone else to ask her.

I agree with your summary on how  in todays society, it is tough for a girl to say no when asked to prom in such a way. Since she did something different, she truely was now an "outcast" to society

I agree with your post on how Alex was considered a bitch for saying no to two guys who asked her to prom. She is not forced to say yes and she has the right to say whatever she wants, so it is just wrong for people to put a label on her and judge her so quickly for making a move that was her decision.

In Zeilinger’s article she made many valid points about why women would not recognize themselves as feminists. One of her points was because they did not want the label. I do agree with this but I also interpret this, as the women simply do not want to speak out. They are afraid of either the punishment they will get or the way people will look at them. Even though some agree with it, they do not want to be the one to stand up for the movement and speak for it. This relates to the Japanese Court Journals because the women did not want to speak up for how they felt because of the consequences and labels that puts on them. Instead they will still agree with this idea, but will keep quiet and go along with what the men say because the men have the power and are allowed to punish them if they like.

I Agree with Shialaa’s statement, “Times have changed and now women should take a stand in society. Men are not the ruling body anymore.” I agree with this and I do think that women have more security with stating their own opinions and speaking out against what men think. I also disagree that men are still viewed as the masculine human. We still depend on men to do things that imply that they are stronger and in charge. I think it will always be this way for our society.

I agree with Shailaa's statement "The meaning of feminism is misunderstood". People are judged on a standard that has not been around in our country for a while and modern day women are expected to fulfill. Modern-feminism is misunderstood

Emily I completely agree with you that a girl can say "no" if she wants to. There is no right of anybody to pressure someone into something they do not want to do; and, just because she said no does not mean she deserves the label she got.

I really like what you had to say in this story. I agree with every word you had to say because boys do automatically think you have to say yes to what they are asking for. Women should have the right to say yes or no and it doesn't always mean that the guy is ugly; sometimes it is because they know they will be uncomfortable with them, or doesn't want to get into anything. Just because a girl says no doesn't mean she's a bitch or any other bad name, she had her reasons to say what she said. In the Japanese court journals, I really wish women would have been able to stand up for themselves.

I agree that  that a girl has the right to respectfully decline. And that a yes or no  doesn't make her a good or bad person.

I agree with Jeff Czerniakowski that women who defend women's rights are afraid to call themselves feminists. The women in Japan did not have the right to stand up for equal rights for women that citizens of the United States do. It is unfair and bias for someone to think that women should have fewer rights than men just because of their sex.

I agree with Tristin that many young people are "feminists" but do not recognize it. That young women and even older women tend to strive to prove that they are equals. And that women work hards to make a living for themselves and to provide for others.

I agree that in the end it is the girl who makes the choice and she has the say in her choice even thought it seems to be that girls are pressured to say yes but she controls it.

I agree with your analagy because some peoplem either forget or dont understand that we have the ability to stand up for what we believe. Everyone is created equal and it shouldt matter what others say. All that maters is to do what you think is the correct thing to do.

I agree with what Chris said about the girl taking the initiative. If she hadn't have she might have been pressured into saying yes. Her shuting it down right from the start stoped anything else from happening with it. Society does label her as a "Bitch" because she took control away from the guy.

I don’t think the girl should be labeled as a bitch for turning down the guys. It is her choice whether she wants to go to prom in the first place, let alone with a date. If she doesn’t feel comfortable going to a dance with a boy, even after him going out of his way to ask her, she should not feel like she has to. This

connects to the Japanese court journals because Sei Shonagon said “I hate the sight of ben in their cups”, referring to people who are intoxicated. She says

how she has seen very good people behave like fools while intoxicated, but this just proves that just because you act dumb sometimes or do something that someone else doesn’t approve of, does not mean you are a bad person. You can be a smart and respected person and still have a few drinks every now and then, just like a girl can be a very sweet girl and say no to a boy who asks her to a dance.

I agree with Marissa’s comment about how it relates to the Japanese Court Journals. People will always stick with their own opinion and judge other people for what they do or say.

I agree with your view and believe that I doesn't matter how others perceive you because you don't have to do anything you don't want to

Your right. It doesn't make her a bitch. She has choices and she is allowed to follow what she wants.

Every time someone steps out of the crowd and do something that other people don't do, it makes a huge fuss. It starts with dying your hair green or being fan of Justin Bieber and it applies on dating rules as well. The society tells us, that we should laugh at Justin Bieber just like most of the people around us does. Some people would deny the fact that they actually listen to his music, some people would admit it in public. And that wouldn't stay without response. Because it is something the crowd doesn't do. It is the same with turning a boy down. The society tells us to say yes, and only some girls will find the courage to say no. And people would naturally talk more about those who said no than those who said yes. Because stories with "bad ending" will always be more popular. Girls are bound by social convictions and stepping out of that safe path is like jumping in the middle of mine field.

Lady Sei Shonagon decided not to live at home, faithfully serving her husband, as people expected her to do. She left to live at the Palace instead, she decided not to follow the "unwritten rules" just like every girl that turns a boy down does. That is the similarity I see between this article and the Court Journals